it is highly advisable to reverse engineer your processes

confidence and esteem are two wildly different aspects of self

do men know peace isn’t a product of avoidance but ownership?

a broken ego than masks with behavioural perfectionism is often one that causes the most earth shattering damage

sometimes a man would rather diminish your sense of worth so you won’t leave than rather admit the very human nature that they feel broken and worthless

sometimes a man would rather belittle you and make you suicidal than admit he’d rather succumb to the idea of control than an actual human beating heart

what are the true parameters of social contact?

oftentimes people mistake patience as acceptance

oftentimes people conflate emotional incompetence as empathy

real recognises real, perhaps, but broken ego recognises broken ego too

to love is to grow

Love is to be humbled and humbled again

sometimes a man would rather have you thinking & feeling like you’re worthless and life isn’t worth living than not step out of his comfort to acknowledge & preserve a lack of capacity

Feeling alone in your sadness is perhaps the worst feeling. But the remedy isn't 'cheer up.' It's someone sitting beside you in the dark and saying nothing. Presence, not advice. Witness, not fix.

to love is to be changed by one another

so much about life is about discernment

anxious, low esteem individuals are often liars

i personally find performative allyship reprehensible

sometimes people will want to protect their wounds more than the relationship- and that is how one is defined by injury

Belief from authority is one of the most powerful exacebators of success

the ideas confidence and aptitude need to be untethered

genuinely blows that en masse quiet women are most often seen as incapable & unconfident and quiet men are seen as regulated & put together

mostly, love is inheritance and projection

things like war, -isms and sa - they strip pf physical dignity and infrastructure; heartbreak is of a differing ilk, it is personal

“pretending only delays clarity” - facebook mystic

it is depraved cruelty to make someone fall in love with you and then leave without a hint of notice

there is so much grief with the parts of you that get forgotten

there is so much sadness with the parts of you that are not known

developmental stages in adults

performative people can sometimes become so accustomed to their performance that they’re unable to negotiate between authentic self and projection