Exactly!

And, like, let's encourage healthy paternal behaviour in everyone of every gender. A child should never be required to pass a test of worthiness - to share my DNA, be "a product of [my] own lineage," or any other gross proprietary nonsense - for me to care about their safety and wellbeing.

And this, I'd argue, is a great reason for men in general to step up and treat every infant and child and young person as a caring father would. If this lady wants to get all bioessentialist, it just makes sense for our survival as a species to cultivate and encourage healthy paternal behaviours.

Like, if you give birth to a child it's pretty obvious that you're its parent. If you father a child, there's no way of knowing you're its parent outside of context clues (and paternity testing, if that's available). There are tons of men out there who have NO IDEA that they've fathered children.

And people would assume this is maternal instinct because I'm only ever read as a woman, but no: I feel that it's a much more paternal than maternal quality to care for the lives and wellbeing of babies and children in general, especially the ones that aren't "yours."

I have actually been thinking about this a lot lately: I neither like children nor have ever wanted a child of my own, BUT I would still probably jump into traffic or the ocean or a burning building to try and rescue one if it was in danger, y'know? Or at least I'd feel a very strong urge to.

The way I see it, "maternal" instincts are about nurturing and protecting a young vulnerable creature because you know for a fact it came out of your own body; "paternal" instincts, on the other hand, are about nurturing and protecting ALL young vulnerable creatures, regardless of their parentage.

The way I see it, "maternal" instincts are about nurturing and protecting a young vulnerable creature because you know for a fact it came out of your own body; "paternal" instincts, on the other hand, are about nurturing and protecting ALL young vulnerable creatures, regardless of their parentage.

😔 a moment for the trees. Tree-grief is real.

My maximum is 3 days, and partial days count as full days. (How 'bout you?)

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This photo was taken 3 years ago. I spent SO LONG editing this background. If I ever get around to finishing any more shots from this session (there were a bunch I really liked!) I don't care - I'm just reusing the background. Before & After here:

It's me surrounded by spring (apple and cherry) blossoms, wearing nothing but a crown of alternating white and deep pink apple flowers & leaves. In a seated position, staring directly at the camera with my hands doing some weird nonsense to frame my face, as usual.

Tits out, it's Taurus Season.

This, yes. And also: food may be essential, shelter, and so on. But without some allotment for pleasure and beauty, that can all become pretty meaningless pretty fast. Humans are not built to simply survive. Pleasure is not just a luxury for the rich, it's part of the fabric of human life.

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the biggest lie in the modern world

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Entire set, here:

It's me among the hellebores; the flowers are all shades of white, magenta, and lime green; I've put pink streaks in my hair and glued some petals to my face; it's ART, ok?

February Plant Portrait: Hellebores

aspirational

GenAI’s pitch to my professions is like “Don’t you want to not make art?” “Don’t you want to not write?” “Don’t you want to never translate again?” and some people wonder why we hate it so much

Maybe I just log in to do my Monday updates and stay logged out the other 6 days of the week? (I can check for work messages in the browser version, but the browser version is clunky/impossible to do prettymuch anything else with.. making it all the easier for me to avoid wasting time there.)

Stayed logged out of the Instagram app on my phone all day and it felt pretty great; think I'll leave it that way Saturday & Sunday.

El Pollo giveth [or, rather: helpeth Little Sister pay off her income taxes and helpeth me pay down my credit card]. 🐓🥚💰💸

This entire year I've just been pushing from one thing to the next without breaks and now that there are no immediate deadlines screaming towards me my system has decided it can afford the temporary luxury of Getting Sick.

After like 14 solid weeks of work stress and a much higher density of gigs than usual (performed 5 weekends out of the past 7 - all y'all career drag things and showponies may laugh, but that counts as A LOT for little ol' me)..

..I am now sick with a cold.

🥲

Welcome home!

Is the gyre widening and the ceremony of innocence being drowned in the blood-dimmed tide, or do I just need another nap?

Why are there loose googly eyes all over the rehearsal room floor. I swear they weren't there yesterday.

Yeh, Déjà wasn't even sure he'd be there, so there was no arrangement that could have reasonably been made. But we both felt it would be.. not good.. to tell anyone in advance, especially anyone performing that night.

Thanks for not being weird about it; people being weird about it was the reason he left and missed seeing your act in the second half.