Also there are like... every single trigger imaginable in this book. Read it with your eyes wide open- this is a hard story- you cannot avoid the horrible murders, racial slurs, gender slurs, abuse, etc etc etc in this true history. The author did such a good job of telling this history.
Posting this because you may also walk around and are constantly creeped out by hyper-normalized, cultural white supremacy. And it is on you, too, to remember that this is not normal. It is fucking gross. And it is literally embedded into every aspect of the culture in your cities too.
I cannot walk around my own city without hearing or reading an exact sentence that is nearly word for word the kkk propaganda described and quoted in this book. I cannot open a news article about politics in the US without seeing it. It's not a leap. It's the whole platform.
This is about the 1920s kkk and it's MASSIVE rise in membership, especially in the midwest (Indiana as a central place) And also about why and how it started to fall to pieces (there is a woman, but you can imagine the horror the klan was doing nightly in all of their cities.)
Read another book that you all should read. You want to know why the way people in the US talk creeps you out? Read this.
A Fever in the Heartland: The Ku Klux Klan's Plot to Take Over America, and the Woman Who Stopped Them by Timothy Egan
www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/558306...
Ope- ours was the US women's national team second game against Japan. 0-1 Japan. The number of times I was like Oh no.... (I never talk at the tv when I watch games. I was talking to the TV and was like nooooo the Japan press behaves like a triangle of raptors! You aren't getting through that!)
We're not gonna tell you anything about the games in this bundle. These are experiences best entered knowing as little as possible.
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I think I know what you are talking about and if so we were watching it at home and also same.
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Last thing-
From the moms I hang with- we love a good power fantasy. We love emotionally mature characters who say real things and talk about real things. We love things to be complex and maybe even a little messy.
We can carry a sword in a game and still have stories like this.
But like- we can't even have a game with a woman main character because "how realistic would that be" or "she's not hot enough for me" or "I just can't get into the character because it's a she and not a he" and yeah- there's some fundamental problems *waves hands around*
Maybe then there will be space for us to play a game about being a mom. It will probs be a sarcastic seek and find game with a lot of cursing. But really- I kinda just want to play a game where a mom exists, even in the background would be great!
when you spend your whole life watching and consuming media where you are a prop, a token, a trope- where your presence is that your obvious and expected death is what drives a main character to be someone-
I kinda think others need to unpack why we are all of the above.
All I ever want is representation. I want to SEE woman. I want to see moms. I want to see a power fantasy with someone who might be like me and maybe is written by someone who knows what it is like to look like me (and my friends).
I would like to be a character and not a prop for a male story.
As a mom, and a friend to many moms, and in communities of moms... I don't know how much I need to unpack being a mom. Womanhood, momhood, the external cultural expectations of my biology have been ever-present for all of my 45 years. We start unpacking this at age 12, 15, 18, 30...
I get where you are going with this- but it isn't even about moms, really. It is about non-male characters and their whole existence not being a part of games. We get endless stories about dudes- so many that it feels like all of them. It doesn't matter the fantasy- it's dudes all the way down.
ugh. Apparently now that I am mom, I only read books about mumming, consume foods for moms, listen to music about moms, define my personality by my motherhood, watch movies only about being a mother... And considering media moms are likely dead- that begs the question "What am I even watching?"
If we want to talk about "mom games" let's simply start with allowing them to exist.
Cuz let's be real- in video games (and movies) Most moms are dead moms.
Apparently no main character, side character, character in general can grow without a "Dead Mom."
God of War is literally "Oh wow, he a dad." And the whole industry collectively lost their shit as if this were like the pinnacle of story telling. (I am not shitting on the narrative designers here- but the weird reaction to 'omg he dad?!?')
People doing people stuff shouldn't be surprising.
This whole convo makes me want to jump in the sea Jo. Mom games? (existential screaming over here)
Just put an effing HUMAN PERSON in your game- A mom can also carry a sword. A mom can run really fast, drive a car, be a WHOLE person. It isn't like "oh we have baby now, now we only baby person."
You've answered your own question Ricky.
OH! This might be it (I think I ended up reading the whole study too- I have a tendency to read like news writeups and then go and find the actual scientific study) But this looks pretty close!
I did tell my kid where his coat was (his bedroom floor) because I didn't have time to wait for him to not find it and angrily wander around banging on stuff.
We had our annual 200+ egg hunt to start.
But I am still thinking about how I wish I had kept my mouth shut and let him sort it out solo.
Try to teach your sons to notice stuff.
Your husband should not be giving this mental load to you- it can't possibly also be your job.
And you (and me), spend that energy where you are casually monitoring the location of a 15yo's kid winter coat to literally anything else. It's his problem now.
I made a note everyday that it was still in the same place where he took it off and threw it on the floor.
He needed it yesterday morning and went to the coat rack and was like: MOM! Do you know where my coat is?
This kid is 15. That coat rack has been the resting place of coats for 10+yrs.
I think it is also interesting that I notice chores that need to be 100% of the time, and it bothers me that they are not done.
It is also crazy the amount of stuff I casually track- I was tracking the location of a son's winter coat in my house for 3 days (it was not where it was supposed to be.)
Like how do you teach a kid to notice stuff.
I have one kid who is good at it and one who couldn't find his own belongings sitting in the middle of an empty room.
It is a bit of a nightmare to attempt to teach this skill to the second kid.
Son, go into this room and tell me something you see that needs to be taken care of.
I have started sending my kids into rooms of the house to find all of their crap (that isn't supposed to be there) without telling them the list of crap they need to take care of.
I wish I could find it because most of the moms I know were like- oh god, we have to stop this nightmarish cycle.
No, son, I don't know where you put your cleats.
Son, where do you think the ketchup is?
Son, if you walk into this room what do you see needs to be put away.
I read an article last year about this- it was a pretty depressing look at how boys are raised to not notice anything. Like I was expected to notice when shit needed to be done- there's dishes, I have to do them. There's laundry- I have to do it. There's stuff on the stairs... etc.