If it’s designed to only be used by ppl in wheelchairs and, say, a cane user can’t use it, it’s not accessible!! I hate those lifts bc they’re specifically NOT designed to be stood on, so I can’t use them despite my reduced mobility, so no, it’s not accessible 🙄
I recently moved away from Canada and I honestly don’t understand why people don’t automatically apologize when they bump into each other. Why bring negative energy into it? Apologize - whether it’s your fault or not - and move on. It’s sooo tiny and insignificant!
Honestly, getting crushed helps my autism/anxiety, sooooo win/win?? (Sorry for the random sexy interaction, internet stranger 😅)
I know we’ve all heard the “Germans are autistic joke”; with that in mind
My (ADHD) mom spent yrs of her childhood in Germany. She also spent a few yrs there as an exchange student.
Then she married an autistic man and had two very AuDHD children.
She REFUSES to believe any of us are neurospicy 🫠
Accommodating myself is so much of “yeah, well, doing it *this* way is fine and causes you less pain/distress, so do it this way, it’s okay”
And that’s frustrating af
Anyway, ASD and ADHD running in families can Suck Balls, so find the humour where you can??
And btw, bc he is undiagnosed and Refuses to Admit It, it’s really frustrating to explain to him that, just bc something makes sense for HIS flavour of autism, doesn’t make it The Only Right Way (and that my flavour of autism thinks its Completely Illogical and Wrong)
Like, guess who is Chaos Incorporated and who is all about Neat Boxes Neatly Placed
who Lives and Dies by the Schedule and who has never known What Is Time in their entire life
who believes there is a Right Way to do everything and who Just Wings It
Ever since realizing that my father has undiagnosed ASD, it’s been increasingly funny to me to watch how much of the personality clash between my parents is really just ASD vs ADHD brain
And I still struggle with it, bc then, what makes me a man?? Idk. Vibes, mostly.
People tie masculinity to cars and loudness and aggression and anger and sports. And none of those things have a gender. Just like we’ve been saying that you can be a woman who’s loud, assertive, angry, athletic, loves cars; so you can be a man and none of those things.
Like, my father has told me, essentially, that if “want” to be a man, then I should act + dress “like a man”
And it’s like… dad. Some men think being a man is about “chasing tail”. Some think it’s about having the last word at home at the expense of beating your wife.
Such a big part of being #trans masc is building your own understanding of masculinity & dismantling toxic masculinity in the process
Like, no, men CAN wear skirts and so I, a man, can wear a skirt
Or, men DON’T have to like beer, and it’s fine if I don’t
Etc ad nauseum
One week without ADHD meds and I don’t have the attention span to do… most anything, really.
I also have so many thoughts in my head that I felt I needed to return to Bluesky.
Hiiii~ 🫠
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"Poverty can produce the most deadly kind of violence in this society; violence against poor people and minority groups is routine. I remind you that starving a child is violence. Suppressing a culture is violence. Neglecting school children is violence. Punishing a mother and her child is violence…
5. You know how they claim t makes you angry or irritable? Guess what makes that worse? No t. Yes, I feel angry more easily since I started t (& have a harder time crying), but also e gave me bad mood swings, and having none just made me a mess. T is a clear winner in my book ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
4/4 for now?
3. There was some concern that t may be making my joint pain worse. Doesn’t seem to be - pain wasn’t better without it 😅
4. Horny. It’s uncanny how much t plays on my sexuality - from my libido to HOW I experience pleasure and how I orgasm… t made me a squirter. Seriously.
3/🧵
1. I feel human again. Fuck. Since I don’t have ovaries anymore (yay!), going without t was a BAD idea. I had SO MANY cold sweats, I felt nauseous and out of it…
2. Speaking of cold sweats: t is SUCH a temperature regulator for me. I used to be constantly cold before. Now I run hot.
2/🧵
Doing my t shot after missing it for weeks (oooops), here are some observations. Mainly to remind myself, but also one more story into the void for anyone wondering what being on t is like.
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My biggest HRT problem is forgetting to take it 😭😭😭
Dealing trauma be like:
Am I holding onto this job out of fear of change?
Or am I considering changing jobs just bc I’m in flight mode?
Am I questioning myself too much?
My body is so exhausted and in pain, how do I listen to it??
Mêmes nouvelles au Québec, où notre premier ministre provincial ne croit pas que le racisme systémique existe 🙃
HRT was SO liberating. I was, I am in control. Yes, aspects of this second adolescence *suck*, but every week, I get to CHOOSE to continue.
First adolescence was so traumatizing, and part of it was the fact that it was happening to me with no way for me to stop it.
And like, it should be 💯 doctor-supervised, but not doctor-restricted
If you’re able to understand the consequences and drawbacks, and you want to continue nonetheless? You should be able to
(Which btw is true for SO MANY meds)
I am, and it wasn’t even him 😭
I’m… I’m okay, I’m at work, so I can’t quite process that - how scared I was by a ghost, a distorted picture…
I also ended up watching a complete stranger for a whole bus ride, and even watched him greet his friend & followed him into a cafe to confirm it wasn’t him 😭
It wasn’t him, just someone who looks AWFULLY like him (enough I couldn’t tell from profile - their eyes are set very different, but,,,
I’m trying to anchor myself and brace myself for work
(I wrote this just as I was coming into work and it seems I didn’t send it - I’m better now…)
I saw him face on for the first time - it’s not him
Which may be worse
There’s someone who looks VERY alike my ex - same hair, beard, build, general features - enough that I can’t tell them apart from profile - that lives or hangs around my house/workplace area 😨