Did I just argue with a joke? Part of a Bluesky educational series

YES

Phoeo of a cute cat behind a super market toy set looking at the camera, with the silly caption of "Khajiit has wares if you have coin" which is a known The Elder Scrolls line.

Khajiit has wares if you have coin

The hard part about healing is that there comes a time when you have to be uncomfortable, because the old behaviors are unhealthy and you have to practice the new healthy behaviors.

I hate it but that's normal and expected, and in the end, I just gotta do it.

Sometimes there is no closure, people get to do bad things and never face a single consequence.

Not just you

Is it just me or has the entire internet been unusable garbage for like five years now

"Therefore ask not for whom the shit posts; it posts for thee."

The people who spent years defending and even lionizing Kyle Rittenhouse and Ashli Babbitt now want us to believe that an unarmed mother in her car and a disarmed nurse were domestic terrorists who deserved to be murdered by law enforcement.

We're starting a new monthly half-marathons and this month's theme is... OLD GAMES FOR OLD PEOPLE!

We're doing 12 hours of our favorite games from back in the day!

Join us this Saturday and let's raise some money for Cook Children's Medical Center!

twitch.tv/HTBSgames Jan. 31 11am EST/10am CST

Leaving when I was ready left me free to get in touch with my needs, to pursue my long-held personal and career goals, to heal, and to eventually meet someone who treats me like a partner instead of a therapist or mom.

I was able build a meaningful, authentic for myself, and I deserve that.

I left on my terms when I was ready to leave and what I’ve come to understand is that the epitaph of “I should have left sooner” is a form of victim-blaming we perpetuate against ourselves. It is not helpful. Reframe it.

My ex telling me that he was worried I was getting too fat to fuck him was one of many things that should have been last straws but I still stayed for well over two years after that.

In a lot of ways I don’t regret it.

recorded a Windows 95 full disk defrag to soothe your timeline.

Mark a square if:

The writer feels like they are famous and treats fellow fans as such.

The writer seems to absolutely love the smell of their own farts.

The writing gets demonstrably worse as time goes on.

The story never resolves or if it does it’s in a meaningless or unsatisfying way.

I’m so old and have been in so many fandoms that it’s like clockwork.

I should do a bingo card for every new fandom I join.

EVERY FANDOM has that fic that is basically Twilight: poorly planned/executed, badly written, meaningless, and with obsessive fans who will bite your head off for offering any sort of analysis/critique, even if you are polite and don’t do it to the author.

These are two ideas that can and should coexist and I’m going to need some of my other privileged blue state white people to think about these things and stop pouring all their energy into hand-wringing over whether or not leftists are buying firearms so that they can do something actually useful.

I do not want to own a firearm and having one would not make me feel safer

AND

It is not my place to speak (from a position of clear privilege as a white person in a blue state) over any leftist, especially BIPOC folks, to tell them they shouldn’t arm themselves in the current political climate.

Funny how “vote blue no matter who.” Always refers to some center right toady and never a progressive candidate.

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Oh you hate Americans? Should we throw a party? Should we invite Creedence Clearwater Revival?

What I want to say really is thank you for those people who DID make me feel welcome. I appreciated you so much ♥️

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To clarify, I know that I’m likable and that I didn’t do anything wrong, but at the time it triggered my RSD real bad and I blamed myself. What I’ve learned since is that no one is immune to weird in-group clique mentality, even other ND weirdos. But I’m afraid to take part in fandom again.

Like, am I too ND for this apparently inclusive fandom? Is it because I stopped enjoying the popular fics? Am I just really unlikeable?

And then after the second season came out and I didn’t like it I might as well have had the plague, and now I just don’t really do fandom anymore.

I’ve met some wonderful and kind people through that fandom but overall the meetups I went to no one really talked with or engaged with me, including the friend who brought me there who has since just stopped talking to me without explanation, and I just felt even more like a friendless ND weirdo?

Now that there’s enough time/distance between me and the 🌈🏴‍☠️ fandom the thing that I found most distressing about it was how hard it was to make friends? Everyone talked and still talks about how inclusive it was but the couple of meetups I went to were really rough for me and I felt very outcast.

Okada rules