Hello. It’s been a minute! I‘ve been busy running a cute little coffee shop. ❤️

Yes!

What happens when you risk everything and open up a coffee shop as two trans people?

This. ❤️

Thanks for making our first week incredible, Toronto. We love you.

Emma, thank YOU for coming! We loved meeting you and chatting with you. You have a seat at Understory anytime 🫶

Hi! My partner and I are trans and this weekend we opened our dream coffee shop in Toronto called Understory (505 Church St if you’re local). It’s been packed every day with people from all walks of life and the joy I feel is immeasurable. In these dark times, I just want to show you a little light❤️

It’s so wild 😂

It’s deeply familiar. This is our patio table.

Vancouver-based Hootsuite is catering to an organization that disappears children and shot a woman dead in her car.

A woman and a man stand behind a black stone and wood counter with a pastry display and plants on it. They are both smiling widely.

A sneak peek at our queer lil’ coffee shop a few days before we open. 🥰

Nothing is worth the struggle of surviving Pearson 😂

Can’t wait to show you some pics too! Almost there 😄

Everyone’s doing the whole “2016 to 2026” thing so I figured I might as well share my subtle changes.

Hi! I’m still here! I’ve been really busy getting our coffee shop through the last few days of construction and setup so we can open soon.

Tired. Happy. Entirely worth it. Can’t wait to provide a new inclusive space for my neighbours. ❤️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

I don’t often respond to trolls these days, but when I do it tends to look like this.

And then they delete their comments.

For a few days, but that’s it. I was driving myself places after a couple of weeks.

(If they get bigger they can be the pec daddies but that’s going to take some more work)

A man with mastectomy scars and tattoos stands in front of a camera, looking off to the side and slightly up.

This is nine weeks post-op. I’m back to normal workouts, normal days, now with added scar gel and massage.

What’s not there? The weight of dysphoria. That weight disappeared when the twins did. May I introduce my new roommates, the pec brothers.😅

34: What Society Gets Wrong About Trans People with Erica Vogel Hey everyone, Lara here!

Wondering what to do this quiet boxing day? Listen to @ericavogel.bsky.social and @mavenofmayhem.bsky.social chat about what people get wrong about trans people. 💕
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Happy holidays and merry Christmas to all of you. Love is what makes a family, so whoever you’re with today, may you feel whole and happy. ❤️

Back to hanging out with my partner, her dad, my kids, her kid, my ex & her partner (who is also my current partner’s ex😂)

I love this beautiful, messy life.

My partner took this photo of me yesterday.

“Wow. Is that me?” I asked incredulously.

She’s trans, too. She knew exactly what I meant. Was the man I was seeing in the photo—finally, after years of seeing a woman—me?

She smiled. “Yes, it is. That’s you.”

That’s me. 🥺

Just so I'm clear on this, computer memory has tripled in price because a bunch of it that hasn't been produced yet has been ordered to populate GPUs that aren't installed in data centers that aren't built yet in order to service a demand that doesn't exist to make profits that don't happen.

The Intermediaries A <em>Kirkus Reviews</em> Best Book of the Year <br /><br /> The fascinating history of a daring team of sexologists who built the first trans clinic in the shadow of the Third Reich., The Intermedia...

To my #academic and #history and #genderstudies friends: THE INTERMEDIARIES is exactly the kind of book the current admin don’t want you to teach— #trans history, #LGBTQ fight against nazis, real 🧪 science. Knowing y’all, you may be teaching it anyhow. If so, please say!
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I’m just going to call it my mansition now.

This is more “I own a record store”

Which is a great look tbh 🔥

After MTG lied about me for weeks, she said that she felt bad for my unborn child because he'd have me as a mother. Her rhetoric led to threats against my family.

No one, even her, should receive threats like those, but I'd like to see her own up to the role she played in creating them for others.

Thanks 🫶

😂😂

Thanks! It’s approaching neck beard territory in some places so I’m going to need to tame it soon 😅

Rowan stands in a tank top with arms crossed and smiling widely

I just finished my first strength workout since having top surgery and smiled the whole way through (even during pushups).

The euphoria. OMG 🥺

Rowan poses with a black t-shirt that says Zippertits in white lettering

Today is my six week follow-up appointment after top surgery. This will likely be the very last time I ever wear a binder, and that’s AMAZING (compression binders are used after this surgery for a few weeks to help healing).

ANYWAY I know what shirt I’m wearing