Buffy and Spike in First Date with the caption from @galacticidiots: I don’t know much at all but one thing I have learned, one thing I know for a fact and that I will never doubt, is that to love someone is to wish them well. No matter what. You wish them well, you wish them cared for, you wish them happy. With or without you.
Season 7 Spuffy is so special because of this exactly. He doesn't make his feelings Buffy's responsibility; he just wants her to be happy, whatever that looks like for her. 🥹