I compiled a list of 50 modern friendship etiquette rules on my Substack, Friendship Explained. My hope is that people will find these guidelines sensible, flexible, and actionable.
Anything you’d like to add? Tell me here or in the comments.
Married people: if your best friend invited you on a 5-day trip, would you need to consult your spouse before answering?
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The specific joy of finding a friend who doesn't judge you for your extremely specific food orders ("no mayo, extra pickles, tomatoes on the side, slightly toasted, with a whisper of Dijon mustard")
Help @julieebeck.bsky.social find stories for her book on friendship! This could be youuuuu.
This Valentines Day get her what she really wants: revenge
"Take responsibility for your social life. Communicating with a friend briefly is a gift you give your future self."
My newsletter today explains why low-maintenance friendships are the Vitamin Water of connection, aka A SCAM.
annagoldfarb.substack.com/p/low-mainte...
Men are trash at texting one other, according to @theatlantic.com. I can help.
Here are my 4 Golden Rules of Texting:
#1. Be explicit about why you’re reaching out
#2. Remove uncertainty
#3. Explain what silences mean
#4. Group chats are for sharing news that can be recognized with a few words
legit lol
I'm obsessed with this recent article by Matthew Schnipper in @theatlantic.com. Men are crappy at communicating and they tell us why –– in their own words.
www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...
Many men are bad at texting other men back—and it might be making them lonelier, @matthewschnipper.bsky.social writes:
Is this emoji combo cool? 😎👍
I feel like it's so deeply uncool it might come around and be cool again, but I'm on the fence!
Some pants-optional friendship tips from my latest newsletter:
* Propose being accountability buddies on something.
* Resist using friends solely as entertainment. Run errands together. *you might need pants for this tip*
* Brainstorm 3-5 topics to discuss before you meet up.
* Make plans to meet again before you part ways.
* Record friends’ important dates in your calendar: birthdays, deaths, etc.
Read more here: <annagoldfarb.substack.com/p/24-ways-to-supercharge...>
Some pants-optional friendship tips from my latest newsletter:
* Propose being accountability buddies on something.
* Resist using friends solely as entertainment. Run errands together. *you might need pants for this tip*
The most downloaded Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship ep in 2024 was “the 14-day friendship (mindset) cleanse,” brainchild of @annagoldfarb.com whose book, Modern Friendship, is a must read for anyone looking to improve their friendships. ninabadzin.com/2024/12/26/t...
Another banger from @allieevolpe.bsky.social!
Attn people who overthink everything: I’m on today’s episode of Magical Overthinkers with Amanda Montell. We talked about why our friendships feel so funky — and what we can do to make them more awesome podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/o...
Two swirled forkfuls of pasta
That's AMAZING!
I wish there was a way to let people know that I'm 1000% okay with them canceling plans for any reason at any time
Amazing!!! Congrats, Lilly 💫
As a Jew who wasn't allowed to celebrate ANYTHING Christmas-related growing up, I'm very proud of this five-hour Funky Christmas playlist I put together: open.spotify.com/playlist/6dd...
And I wrote this for anyone who's spending the holidays alone.
* PLAN AHEAD so you're less stressed.
* ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS whatever they are.
* FOCUS ON WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU.
* TAKE A SOCIAL MEDIA BREAK if you need it.
* BE PRESENT. GIVE BACK. REST.
www.nytimes.com/2020/11/07/a...
For anyone who's concerned about having things get unwieldy at the dinner table:
* HAVE A GAME PLAN so you don't get flustered.
* HAVE A GOAL to know what success looks like.
* MAKE SMALL TALK when it gets too spicy.
* BRING AN ALLY to help keep things civil.
www.nytimes.com/2019/11/20/s...
Hey all! I hope these articles I wrote for the @nytimes.com a few years ago help anyone who needs them. Like scrunchies and Fleetwood Mac songs, the advice given is timeless. Happy reading!
