I was absolutely planning on continuing to avoid the shower. Self care is not my bag right now. In fact I've been rather passively self destructive these days. But I've just been itching to cut my hair for days and finally gave in which means defacto shower so. I'm clean and my hairs cut

Oh bud!! That's absolutely devastating I am so sorry! It's completely understandable that you'd be this upset. Big big hugs guy.

*starts glueing sheeded dog hair all over myself*

Awwwwwwwe

Hahahahahahaha and your sub power is being adorable

EH HEM

Thank you for your tacos. Nerd.

Carry, you know? Anyway. It fucking sucks that this is the shit you have to deal with and I really hope you find some way to shirk this horrible aspect of life off

Internalize too much of how horrible that is, it's already enough torment without going in that direction too, you know? Like you'll make lots of choices that will be yours to own but this isn't one of them so I want you to protect yourself from that aspect of this. Give yourself less weight to

Look at me sounding like I know things! Sorry bud, I don't mean to sound like I'm lecturing you. I'm trying to impart that I feel deeply for you in this situation. Debt is so damn soul crushing and having it haunt you like this can just drain everything you have so I want to make sure you don't

Is a fault of the system. Loans for education should be something you get to make the process easier, not because they are the only option. You did not make wrong choices, you made the choices that were available to you. It is the fault financial institutions, the government and the colleges.

the fault of a predatory market that entrapped you at a vulnerable stage in your life. It's not like you did drugs or drank away your time. You got the degree and that's proof you did the work you set out to do. That you could not have feasibly done so without expandable financial assistance

Some people will adamantly tell you this is your fault for not working harder. While I do believe in self accountability I also think it's important to note that somethings *cannot* be your fault. This is one of them. Your debt is not a fault of who you are or the choices you made, your debt is the

If those doors were open to me. There's no guarantee it would be better or worse, but it would be different and given how "This is not working" life feels sometimes, it's hard not to wonder if that difference would equate to better.

you'd get LOTS of doors opened for you when in reality it was maybe 3% more doors. I am glad to not be in debt, but I constantly have to remind myself to let go of the regret of not having gone to college because I know there's that 3% I just don't have access to and my life *could* be different

Office jobs. And in each of those jobs there was someone with a degree (I was the manager at a mall kiosk and had an employee who had once been a physics *professor*) it wasn't exactly a lie, the degree opened up more doors for you for sure but the problem is the sales pitch made it sound like

As someone who did not go to college I can tell you to let that regret go. We were both told hard that going to college was the only way to ensure an easy path forward and it just wasn't true either way. I've worked really shit menial jobs for crap pay, and had a couple of pretty swank well paying

I actually found being employed in Portland to be pretty on average for expense vs and I just worked at a UPS store, I wasn't making a lot of money, but it was certainly in line with the economy around me. That was after living in San Francisco where the disparity was boggling.

I always have trouble with super dynamic poses and making them look right but you did a fantastic job

Hell fucking yes you do

The perspective on this is awesome as hell

Hurray indeed!!

The way you wear em they're practically lingerie 🫠🥴🤪

Depends on how thick you make em mate! More cloth means more absorbency. Also, the type of cloth used can play a big part.

Open to dm's if you have any other questions I can answer or didn't cover here.

A specialized cover for something more absorbent, if you're looking to use your diapers that way.

Unfortunately cloth is not terribly popular so finding one avenue that lists all of the possibilities is very difficult, but they are all out there.

I love cloth even with all its caveats and I'm

Work so they have no problem changing it up if you email them and say you want something they don't already have on offer.

You do have to be careful though, some folks sell "playtime" diapers, which are not intended to be absorbent at all but are rather designed to add unnecessary bulk or just be

These days for adult cloth diapers seems to be eBay and Etsy, though you are limited to the designs folks have available as far as patterns go and you're still in pricey territory as they tend to go for $45+ (generally more) but a lot of the places that make them are already doing them as custom

Now where to get them: adultclothdiaper.com has a good selection of flat and prefolds, they have contour and others, but they're pricey and not "the best"

Cozycomfy has a nice cloth contour pocket diaper that looks great but it's rarely in stock and sells out fast when it is.

The best places

Lastly on the types of diaper, the most sought after is an AIO(all in one) PUL backed pocket diaper. This has the plastic pants built in, generally Velcro or snap closure, and is the closest experience to a disposable you'll get with cloth. Usually the most comfortable and easy quick change diaper.