its a psychosis atp. and a fully preventable one they actively choose to opt into 😵‍💫

meeeeee

soo cute, i wish this was always the case!

full support

omg that sounds so cute

yes you might lose your friend bc he's gonna be like "why do you have to be so sensitive/make it awkward". yes you might be ostracized in a professional environment for being "a problem" bc you spoke up. tbh i dont care, bc none of that is riskier than the threat of losing YOUR LIFE.

you should absolutely make it your business to interrupt and call your male friends out when they say and do violent shit to women. every time you just laugh it off you normalize and co-sign it. it doesn't matter if you yourself wouldn't do the harmful thing - your cowardice is complicity

it is EXTREMELY cringey to me when men confide in me about horrible things their male friends have done. and when i'm like "and what did he say when you confronted him about it?" they're like -"oh, no i didn't say anything. it wasn't my business to get involved with."

this is the problem

but i digress!! 😂

like genuinely their worst case scenario for a date would be that they (shudder) didnt find themselves attracted to the woman...and they took that as a personal threat to their entitled belief that women exist for their pleasure (WHICH IS MISOGYNY) vs. an experience of like...attempted mword etc 🥰

it reminds me of when men from ..a website..would be so eager to discuss "worst date" stories +their stories would be based in xenophobia, ageism, racism, fatphobia ("she looked older irl than her pix or didnt have the accent i projected onto her having") like sir u couldnt handle womens reality🙃

lmao exactly like ... wow isn't that interesting how we both have our preferences!! 😅🤡

and i know some men will read that and get defensive like "no thats not why!" it is tho. u dont care about her safety. her required screening is ALREADY A "NO" from her. reading the screening requirements+asking to be exempt=u are pushing the no. please watch the video i posted for 5 year olds again

you want to be exempt from screening bc u want to go into an encounter + know that women are on edge/uncomfortable so u can get one over them instead of have a mutual experience. so fucking pathetic.

you feel entitled to be with us in the most intimate ways, but you don't care about our safety. you are the problem

a young man sitting in front of a blackboard with math equations written on it ALT: a young man sitting in front of a blackboard with math equations written on it

-actually not just embarrassing. how TELLING re: what info and accountability you are hoping to hide from. you are comfortable being tracked and scanned by abusive institutions. but you don't want women to have a recourse for accountability if you violate them.

you guys will gladly give your full biometric data, passport/ID, bodyscan to the U.S. government every time you fly on a business trip, but suddenly become concerned about digital privacy when it's a woman requiring she knows who she's meeting in the most intimate context? how embarrassing

screening policies are the *minimum* layer of safety protection for sw's and women. bare minimum. asking to be exempt from that = you don't take seriously the *reality* we exist within. a reality you contribute to and spend zero time challenging in your day-to-day life.

casually asking to be the exception to my screening policies is literally always a harmful request. but in the climate of the multiple public cases in the news right now (u should know what im talking about), it is actually so far beyond harmful im speechless (but not surprised) at the audacity.

my favorite flirtation style

a room with several views 👼🏼

omg noted!!

In case someone needs to hear this: It’s totally okay and not at all ‘weird’ to book a provider for softer, less sexual forms of intimacy. Many, many people enjoy kissing and cuddling just as much, or more than, sex. 💕

wow yes. the first one gives me a headache and the second one makes me very intrigued and excited to see the person!! a tale of two inquiries indeed

ive been writing something longer about when men express "disappointment" in response to getting a no-how this is a very prevalent form of coercion. ex: u ask if you can do a certain position. she says no, it doesnt feel good to me. u then say "ugh but it felt so good last time!!"- that is coercion.

Mom teaches her son about consent using a ‘body language game’ YouTube video by Good Morning America

another great resource - www.youtube.com/watch?v=YwbB...

i love that this type of education is happening for kids and i would also encourage ADULT MEN to watch what 5 year olds are comprehending which u also need to catch up with.

1) start learning how to read + respect body language, not just words
2) if you're complaining/pushing for a yes, thats a no

sometimes i've talked to guys about these dynamics and they've said like "well all the other women i've been with have liked XYZ". okay.. 1) you should never assume violent impact is okay as a default without asking. 2) each person is different. 3) did she like it? or did she just endure it? 😶‍🌫️

totally 🙃 it's truly not something i'm willing to coddle bc it's both embarrassing and completely avoidable on their part. it's their responsibility to actively be in a daily practice of unlearning and evolving

you've basically just said that u wont be taking responsibility for your own actions. that the best you can do (in terms of respecting someone's safety) is "to try". thats so absurd. its 1 of the many many many ways you demonstrate that you're not a safe or caring partner/f*ck buddy whatever