The challenge is for your self care to be equivalent to someone doing a marathon. That's what this is, a long, long exercise in staying on track and doing the right thing, over and over again, for a long time. Meanwhile, I hope you have good people by your side.

This is such an important awareness! It is the small steps, those little things that build strength, consciousness, and increasing health.

Reminder - you're not supposed to know what no one taught you. 'You should have known...' is emotional abuse.

I've had people share with me how their suicidality has actually helped them to live. For them, to have a potential 'exit' allowed them to stay.

That's them distancing from you because they can't even stand to imagine what you are having to live with every day. And, no, they would not be able to do any better, or as well, as you are.

And conditioning can fade, to extinction. Every time someone doesn't do the conditioned thing, it gets weaker.

Sometimes, 'anger is sad's bodyguard' - emptiness is extremely hard to feel. We humans are not meant to be left alone. Bring as much love to yourself as possible.

Neglect can be worse than abuse - 'nothing' is harder to work with than 'something. Also, we know that an abused baby may live, but a seriously neglected baby will die of 'failure to thrive'.

Those tools are not for people who have complex trauma and/or dissociation. "Mindfulness" practices are too much, too fast for a lot of trauma survivors. If you ever find yourself in a group that wants to practice meditation, keep your eyes open! Closing your eyes = falling back into trauma.

Even if you 'could do it', maybe what would be better for you would be to rest.

It's the Epstein War.

Breathe. Lower your shoulders down from your ears. Look at something natural and beautiful - a cloud, tree, child. Let your body/mind/soul take a break and just be for a moment. Then gently go back to what it is you're needing to do.

That sense of not feeling 'right' is your psyche's lie detector. When the truth shows up, the psyche cheers!

Actually, it's gaslighting.

Actually, self-compassion is a highly effective strategy that disempowers abusers conditioning.

And look for what is in the present that is different than the past.

Sometimes helps to practice allowing some help from inside - relieves the pressure a bit and trains others to do more.

Actually, that post sounds like something written by an abusive person, or someone who identified with their aggressor. It's angry and accusatory, a basic 'shup up!' message. Sad, and not relevant for people like you and all the others who are seriously working on healing.

The more upset you're carrying, the more you need to take very good care of yourself. Use that energy, consciously, to address what's upsetting you. That's what it's for - energy to address the wrongs.

Many people have no idea what kindness to self and self-compassion is - what it looks like, and especially what it feels like.

And give yourself credit for every step taken, even if it's really small. All steps count.

We all need to do this.

It's helpful to create a roadmap to healing, with a therapist, or by yourself. The roadmap shows where you are, where you want and need healing, and fills in the manageable steps you can take between here and there. Add resources as you find them, and give yourself credit for each step.

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Soothing! #ButterflyBeach

Attending fully to the present also allows us to live, now, fully.

It's a distraction from the Epstein files, a really bad one.