I, personally,, don’t trust spiritual practitioners than seem incapable of shutting up

Boundaries reveal people. If someone feels the need to proclaim their truth instead of receiving yours, then they're entitled, manipulative and asymmetric to the situation.

It’s shitty to use someone else’s courage to communicate their needs as an excuse to centre yours.

The nastiest, most opportunistic time to proclaim your pent-up resentment is when someone places a boundary with you.

I used to be someone who valued preserving the good in a connection, even if it was falling apart.

I've learnt that with some, this is a fool’s errand. People will gladly destroy you in order to avoid themselves, and in doing so, they obliterate all that you believed they were.

Boundaries aren't destructive FYI. Things can end gracefully with a slow fade, a delicate appreciation for what a connection means whilst acknowledging that it isn't sustainable.

Destruction is intentionally distorting someone else’s character. Rewriting the narrative in rage.

Some people can only survive by destroying a dynamic and everything that it means.

They can't face an outcome that forces prolonged self-witnessing, so by destroying what you meant to them, they also destroy the accountability that comes from their behaviours.

Being blocked by someone after they sent a heartfelt half-sat-in apology that they couldn't stay faithful to is a badge of honour for your own self-respect.

the only way to tell what is and isn't aligned with you is to stop interfering one way or the other.

mutual effort breeds the creation of intimacy

It's tough to remain aligned with the work, but what's worth a gram in discomfort is worth a ton in self-respect.

Eclipses are good for that - as are cazimis.

Moving into the city centre tomorrow. Feels like an entire era of my life is ending. Not sure how to feel, but exhaustion probably cuts it.

In Virgo Decan 3, we have a choice.

Either strive to hold onto attentive perfection, keeping all the moving party together in perfect unity.

Or allow what's left to run its course. Use the waste to guide your next steps. Empty expectations. Dismantle perfection.

In Pisces Decan 3, we have a choice.

Either hold onto the illusion long enough for it to destroy you.

Or kill the illusion and see things for what they are, finding the faith to begin again.

In Gemini Decan 3, we have a choice.

Either to remain in nervous confusion, surrendering to its possibilities and quelms.

Or to take decisive, resolute action. One that forces the situation to a conclusion.

getting ill again friends, gonna take some time off to recover. stay safe, stay happy, stay healthy and remember, you've got this

Have a beautiful eclipse season friends! =)

Something for Venus Retrograde.

About love.

Aries as a sign isn't one for intentionality. It’s all or nothing, but it isn't strategic. I'm sure there's more to your chart than your Aries Moon, but I wouldn't at all attribute what I'm saying to Aries. If anything, it’s Aries placements that have taught me why this is necessary.

Not at all, I'm sorry. Aries moon is known for impulsivity.

Ily genie! :) it is calm as heck on here :)

The final decan of Gemini is associated with Praxidike, the goddess of judicial punishment, or vengeance.

Some ancient astrologers believed that this decan held with it the fate of judgement day. This is because they considered the world to be a Cancer Rising (Thema Mundi)

I hypothesise that if the ascendant is ruled by a 12h placement, then the individual will only feel truly ‘seen’ by a partner who has their DSC ruler placement (in the other person’s chart) aspecting their own chart ruler.

The rules of the synastry game change quite drastically when someone’s chart is ruled by a 12h placement.

Barack and Michelle Obama’s synastry is interesting because on the surface it seems unorthodox, but then you realise that he’s ruled by a 12h Saturn at 26° Capricorn with a Leo (Sun-ruled) DSC. Michelle’s Sun is at 25° Capricorn. She illuminates the person that nobody sees.

Before and after; ruled by Mercury in Leo 🎹

Not every interaction is deep or major, but it doesn't make them insignificant. Our little chats in the morning, her remembering my order, they all meant something. It’s also a reflection on the passage of time. Just how much of it has passed, how much has been overcome.

There's a woman who has served me coffee every morning at my local station for two years. I started getting coffee there during a shit time. It made me feel happy that she’d remember my order and make it the second I walked in. She told me she's going back to Hong Kong today.

The beginning is written in the end.

It’s okay to feel like shit. Feel it in your body, feel it in every part of you. This is what this eclipse is. It’s acknowledging that many things can exist at the same time. You can love people and lose them. You can care but also be hurt. You can relish it all and gently let go