I did, waited until the next day, then finally went to the ER. Thanks for the well wishes!

I hate showing weakness or asking for help so much that over the weekend I tried to tough out a broken wrist.
I feel like I've seen adoptees talk about this type of thing before, always pretending to be fine no matter what?
Or am I just a dumbass? :)

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A fun game that I am participating in right now with my fellow New Englanders is that all of us are telling each other how cold it is outside, as though the person we're telling is living in some weird warm bubble and is unaware that it's cold outside.

We are all doing this. No one knows why.

Just want to acknowledge my #adoptee peeps and the fear and uncertainty I know so many of you are feeling today, and maybe every day for the next bit. I see you. I'm here. I love you.

I wasn't "touched" by adoption so much as assaulted by it.

So many pretty phrases meant to deny the reality of the harm adoption can mean for #adoptees.

so many interesting comments and thoughts on my post saying buds should consider not coming up to strangers in marginalized groups and saying 'how are you a real person that actually exists?'. i will point out: despite my VERY gentle tone a few buds said i was having a 'meltdown' for even mentioning

Blank slates don't get to have boundaries or a sense of self.

Oh I get this. I was cherished as a child, but I'm not sure I was ever fully loved and embraced for the person I am.

Things get weird in adoptive households as adoptees get older and grow into themselves. Most of the time these true selves are nothing like their parents

rather than being "loved," I was cherished as a much-needed commodity used to fill the gaping hole in the lives of infertile white jesus people

1/2

Wow, that feels like a deliberate choice here. Oh, it's Christmas, won't someone think of the poor orphans?

I'm hanging out in an auto shop waiting room for my car to be ready and they have Bob Ross on the TV. It's the mellowest waiting room I've ever been in. :)

Looking at another post by her, looks like she has a Chinese adoptee. And says God called her to adopt. White saviorism on full display! Block early, block often.

Picture of fake VHS movie "Christ-For-Arms" showing a cartoon boy with crosses for arms. An insert shows a bully throwing beans at the boy with crosses for arms and says "They threw beans on him".

NOT BEANS.

YESSSSS!!

YESSSS!

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

YESSSSSS

YESSSSS

HIIIIIII

Ooooh, smooth move! :)

Damn it.

I had a suspicion that might be the case.

I almost cried this morning because I can't buy the brand of stuffing I always buy for the first time in my entire adult life and is that normal, do you think? To be emo about stuffing? OR is it just gonna be my first thanksgiving since my last parent figure passed and it's not about the stuffing...

Did you ask her or did she ask you or how did all that come about like, after how many interactions and on what level were they and...

Making friends as adults is hard and IDK how to do that!

But I hope you have a fab time!

Domestic adoptee here, from New England, nice to meet you!

I hope you are able to take some time and process. Thinking of you.

this isn’t rhetorical at all btw, if you’re not adopted and have zero connection to an adopted person…like what is the baseline knowledge of adoption? has anyone ever taught you anything about it at any point in your life? i don’t remember it ever being brought up in school outside of religious ed.

Intro deal - some random things about me:

I like beer but nothing with citra hops cause those smell like cat pee to me.

I read the first chapter of a book and then the last 10ish pages to make sure it comes out okay otherwise I won't finish it.

My head is never quiet. E V E R

:)

I see it on the feed, it's right at the top. Does it only show for some tho? (IDK how any of this works and am not super tech savvy!)

I hope with all of my heart that "your" adoptee turns out just like me and finally finds the words to go with the feelings and starts letting them all the fuck out in whatever way they please without regard for how you feel about that.

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BUT I DID NOT BULLY @wasandwhen.bsky.social SO I AM NOT ALL BAD?