Often "Tough Love" feels like ableism from people who didn't get enough hugs as a child.

When a job description asks for attention to detail and you use examples of finding typos on their website. Somehow you do not get the job?

What a crashing bore.

I could set up a little shrine in my house! Harper the Strong, the strange, the community champion. What is not to worship?

In my limited experience understanding you (plural) can try a few on and where you settle. You might use two in different circumstances.

I use , "Your Grace" with Mercy

A white left hand shown holding teabag, a myki and beer mats.

In less than a week I begin my 50th year and the current contents of my pockets are:
- Assorted beer mats x 7 (a gift FOR me)
- Myki card x 2 (lost/found/stolen)
- Tetleys Teabags, Extra Strong x 2 ( a gift FROM me)

#StayWeird

Looks like they changed the title

What if you write a shitty first draft? Make it better later

the new year

Nailed it

Yeah, nah from me too.

Ooh, what is that?

hawkesbrewing.com/pages/lucky-...

Lucky Prawn. Enjoy!

It is true!

Got me thinkin'

Your timing is perfect. Hope you are feeling better and surrounded by art.

It truly is. Crying is exhausting too. I am not giving up on you, Tez. May I check in tomorrow? I have to sleep now. I have committed to a new bedtime

I am a sex wizard with self esteem / boundary issues

How clients can actively support sex workers moving from X to Bluesky: 1. Ask for their Bluesky handle publicly Comment on your favourite provider’s X posts with something like: “What’s your Bluesky @? I’d love to follow you there.” This signals that there is already an audience waiting. If they already have a Bluesky account, it makes it easier for others to find them through that interaction. If they don’t, it can be the nudge that convinces them it’s worth setting one up. 2. Be vocal about why you want to leave X Post about your concerns with the platform. For example: misuse of Grok, constant extremist political content, or seeing sex workers you admire being harassed or verbally abused in replies. Make it clear that Bluesky is where you would prefer to follow and interact with companions. When we see posts like this, we can repost them so they gain visibility and reach other providers who are on the fence.

3. Credit Bluesky when booking Most booking forms include a “Where did you find me?” section. Even if you originally discovered someone elsewhere, if you know they have a Bluesky account, write “Bluesky”. This directly shows that the platform is converting into real enquiries and bookings, which is the strongest incentive for us to prioritise it. 4. Engage with newer Bluesky accounts Like, reply, repost, and follow especially newer or quieter accounts. Posting into the void is discouraging, and early engagement makes a huge difference to whether someone sticks around and invests energy into the platform. 5. Move your attention, not just your words If a provider is active on Bluesky, interact with them there instead of X. Engagement patterns matter, and we notice where conversations and interest are actually happening.

6. Recommend Bluesky to other clients If you’re part of private groups, forums, or chats where companions are discussed respectfully (we don’t want sex-worker-hating clients polluting this platform), mention that Bluesky is where many providers are heading and where you prefer to engage. Word of mouth works both ways. 7. Talk about Bluesky during dates If your companion already has a Bluesky account, mention a post of theirs you particularly enjoyed. If they don’t, tell them you’d genuinely love to see them there and would follow and engage with their content. Hearing this directly, face to face, makes a huge difference. 8. Be patient during the transition Growth is slower at first, and not everyone can move all at once. Encouragement, consistency, and visible support make it feel safer for us to take the leap.

After sharing a list of tips for companions on how to move their audience from X to Bsky, a number of lovely clients asked me to do the same from their side. So clients and admirers, this one’s for you:

I had to look him up to check and he's still working but with an hourly rate now.

Oh Lawks! I saw a guy in 2024 on ivy offering "pay as you feel" which set my alarm bells a-ringing.

Adorbs, like the rest of you!

Don't ruin this for me with your exacting definitions!!! 😜

You know I have a praise kink, right?

It is ok to cry. Things might turn out differently than expected over the next 12 months

Not me this time. I learned my lesson

Well, that is a different matter entirely. I may just indulge my own praise kink