I can’t tell you how many times someone has dismissed me for being distressed over a hate comment because “that’s just social media.”

social media can & DOES facilitate harm.

There’s a specific kind of misogyny that wants to be seen as misunderstood instead of dangerous.

It writes manifestos about loneliness while practicing domination in private.

there is something especially brutal about needing more rest than the economy allows & more money than your body can reliably make.

The amount of energy disabled people waste proving we're disabled could literally be used to, idk, manage our actual disabilities. But sure, let's do another assessment.

"Let's have a civil conversation about whether you deserve rights."

No.

Sometimes I think the real grief isn’t that the writing is bad.

It’s the suspicion that good, thoughtful writing might simply be… less compatible with the attention economy.

Sometimes the hoop earrings are holding the last of my sanity together.

There is something so moving to me about people made disposable by the state still insisting on style.


Disabled self-expression can feel especially charged because our bodies & disability aids are already hyper-scrutinized. I’m all for a bedazzled cane or a (pet safe) dyed pink service dog. 💖

I think one of the cruelest parts about purity culture is how it makes children legible as temptations before they’re ever legible as people.

I want a creative life with room for symptoms, grief, distraction, joy, boredom, and the weird little days where all I can do is collect fragments. A practice sturdy enough to hold my humanity tends to make better art anyway.

A culture that paints women & girls as responsible for preventing sex from happening to them is structurally predatory.

When you tell girls they are a stumbling block it positions them as both object & gatekeeper.

I need people outside fundie culture to understand this: purity culture does not prevent abuse.

It trains girls into hypervigilance, shame & self-blame while it trains boys that their impulses are everyone else’s problem to manage.

One of the quiet griefs of cPTSD is watching people interpret your survival responses as character flaws.

Me: I’m tired of how normalized misogyny is.

CBT: what evidence do you have for that?

"Just reduce your stress" is the most useless advice you can give someone with an autoimmune disease.

You know what's stressful? Being chronically ill. Medical debt. Inaccessible healthcare. Ableism.

Telling us to "stress less" without addressing systemic barriers is insulting.

Mutual aid taught me that community isn't about everyone being okay all the time.

It's about: sometimes I carry you, sometimes you carry me, and we don't keep score because we're not accountants, we're neighbors.

I love how mutual aid just refuses the premise that suffering should be means-tested.

Someone says "I'm struggling" and the response is "what do you need" not "prove it."

Imagine if that was the default everywhere.

Oh yes, that assumption is so unhelpful. 😵‍💫

A lot of productivity culture assumes motivation works like a switch.

Flip it with discipline.
Flip it with shame.
Flip it with pressure.

Meanwhile I’m a whole ass person with complexities.

PDA means sometimes the fastest way to lose access to my own motivation is for someone to tell me I have to do something.

Even if I was already planning on doing it!!

You can have agency in theory while being systemically denied it in practice.

This is why conversations about agency that ignore intersectionality are fundamentally incomplete… and often weaponized against the most vulnerable with bootstrap messaging.

I know that to pace with my chronic illness, I need to stop BEFORE I crash… which means stopping while I feel relatively “okay.”

But every cell in my body screams "DO ALL THE THINGS NOW WHILE YOU CAN."

That urge to be productive while you can? Brutal.

We need to talk about how neurodivergent men are targeted & radicalized by misogynistic online communities.

Autistic & ADHD men struggling with social connection are told their difficulties stem from feminism "ruining" dating.

These communities exploit vulnerability by offering belonging.

some nights I reread my own drafts and think… maybe I’m just yelling into a beautifully formatted void.

One of the quiet griefs of cPTSD is watching people interpret your survival responses as character flaws.

asked myself what i actually needed today and then had to sit with the fact that i genuinely didn’t know.

my spaniel puppy has decided that my heating pad is community property. i don’t have the heart to argue with that!

"You don't look autistic."

What does autism look like?

The intersection of chronic illness and capitalism is so dystopian.

You're expected to work yourself into the ground to afford healthcare, but working yourself into the ground makes your chronic illness worse, which requires more healthcare, which requires more work.