Sunday curiosity #12 In this post, I am answering questions asked by the lovely N in the last Sunday curiosity comments. “Were you always a “private player” (did I get that right?) or was there a time when you did enjoy playing at parties, gatherings and the like? Yes, you got that right!! And no I wasn’t always. I actually started out playing in public, [...]

From the past: Sunday curiosity #12

Meeting DualDrew So I met a cute boy on the weekend. Something that always stresses me out when meeting someone off the internet is the fear of not recognising them despite having exchanged photos. I hate it. Photos are never enough to be sure (really, before meeting someone, we should exchange photos of ourselves looking a bit unsure and confused because THAT’S the expression we’re all wearing when we’re eyeing off strangers and thinking ‘Is that them? [...]

From the past: Meeting DualDrew

e[lust] #78 Welcome to Elust #78 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #79? Start with the rules, come back February 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!   ~ [...]

From the past: e[lust] #78

Morning routine: Revisit I wrote about my very dommely morning routine some years ago. My routine has changed since then, so I thought I'd do an update for those who are curious.

From the past: Morning routine: Revisit

Reader QnA: How do I start? Advice for a new dominant Do you have any advice or a sort of primer for girls who want to experiment with being a domme? Like how to find partners, how to open that dialogue, what kind of ‘moves’ to try, what equipment is needed, how to explore the realm of activity… it really appeals to me, but I don’t know where to start.  Hello there anonymous asker, These are great and huge questions. My first piece of advice is to clarify in your own mind what ‘being a domme’ means to you. [...]

From the past: Reader QnA: How do I start? Advice for a new dominant

Sunday curiosity #9 Disclaimer, for regular readers… I love that you come here and get a sense of me and my relationship, I love that you are interested at all, I love it when you comment on something that has touched you, that you sometimes share little snippets of your own lives with me, that you can relate to things that I have written, [...]

From the past: Sunday curiosity #9

History revisited Last year I received this email out of the blue.  I hope that you might by chance remember me… We met online some years ago, 90’s. Your tag was SweetAs… I asked you what you were Sweet as and your reply was chocolate ice cream melting on a summer day. My name is [redacted]. You and I enjoyed a lot of correspondence. [...]

From the past: History revisited

Sometimes Sometimes my passion wanes, and it is not you and it is not me, it just is. Sometimes you feel so close to me, like you are inside me, like you are part of me and it makes me feel kind of sick, a tightness in my chest and a fullness in my throat, and I love that. Sometimes I am happy just to hear you tell me about your day and we exchange dull stories and roll our eyes at the mundanity of it all. Sometimes I just want to pet you, [...]

From the past: Sometimes

Procrastination I’m moving on Monday. I hate moving. I hate packing, I hate unpacking, I hate change. I hate it all. So I procrastinate. This is what it looks like (imagine me dithering about this whole time…): Right, I’ll do the clothes that I know I don’t need this week. Wait, I need to put them in that big box, why are those clothes in that smaller box? Oh yeah… [...]

From the past: Procrastination

New toys I have been in some sort of buying frenzy these last couple of months… But the sweetest new toys are the last two, made for me by my boy.                     .   [...]

From the past: New toys

e[lust] #123 Welcome to Elust 123– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #124? Start with the rules, come back November 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!   [...]

From the past: e[lust] #123

…there you are… hello… You have been in my thoughts a lot these last couple of weeks, sometimes in excruciating detail, thinking about the taste and feel of your mouth under mine, sometimes just a vague unease, of something missing, ticking in the back of my mind. I hope you are well, happy, or ok at least, content with your decision. [...]

From the past: …there you are… hello…

Curmudgeon I often feel like some old curmudgeon when I see how the Youth today ‘do’ D/s and BDSM. It makes me laugh to say that because I’m not ‘old guard’ or ‘old school’ (I don’t even really know what those entail to be honest), but I DO find myself looking at discussions and going “OMG, really?!” and then shaking my head at them and then at myself because GET THE HELL OFF MY LAWN! And mostly, [...]

From the past: Curmudgeon

Shit Ferns says #16 Random shit I’ve said, no context (if you want more of this in real time: This is pretty much ‘me on Twitter’ :)). Obviously I only write true highbrow literary works because I only ever use ‘come’. Nevaaarrr ‘cum’. No-one in my writing gets to to ‘cum’. COLD DEAD HANDS and etc :P She beats both of them senseless for having the absolute wrong focus here :P This is a thing people do for fun. I’M SUSPICIOUS I made plans to go for a bike ride after pilates and now I’m mad at past-me, [...]

From the past: Shit Ferns says #16

e[lust] #70 Welcome to Elust #70 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #71? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!   ~ [...]

From the past: e[lust] #70

My bubble I wonder sometimes if I will ever be able to live with anyone again. I have lived with people before of course. In my early post-parental-home life, it was flatmates. I moved in with my first partner when I was about 24. Since then, I’ve preferred to live alone rather than share a home with anyone I wasn’t sleeping with. [...]

From the past: My bubble

My sent emails XXVIII Hello e, You are exemplary with the one line hotness… Sometimes, my eyes read something and it goes straight to my cunt. I was going to make lunch, masturbated instead. You featured heavily. Ferns  [...]

From the past: My sent emails XXVIII

Like deserts miss the rain I miss you, like the deserts miss the rain… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpGEIf_rcTg What is this ‘Break Up Project’ and why are you suddenly only posting song clips?!  [...]

From the past: Like deserts miss the rain

More randomness I get oddly stressed when I lose the inspiration to write. Either I don’t have anything I want to say, or I have so many things that I can’t nail any of them down and make them come to life. Lately, it’s been the former. I know it’s no big deal, it will come back, but the feeling is disconcerting. [...]

From the past: More randomness

Photo of a very cute white and tan foxy-whippet mix pupper on a grey dog bed looking up at the camera. In front of the dog bed is a pristine silly-looking blue fluffy toy that looks like an alien

Anyway, here's Eesha looking adorable with her new soon-to-be-destroyed stuffie <3

*chef's kiss* <3

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Google: "You're now using Gemini on your iOS device"
*sigh* OFC I am
Hey google, how do I turn this off
Google: LOL
Gemini: I know you're using a VPN, but I still know where you live. It's [my home address] :)
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First Meeting Part II Continued from here: First Meeting “I was scared to death to be suddenly naked in your apartment, yes, scared to be starting, scared that you are so pretty, scared that I might fail you or not be what you want. And I will be scared again and again probably Ma’am when I am with you.” I have him stand in the centre of the room, [...]

From the past: First Meeting Part II

Flitting Three days to go before I get on the plane to go and see e! My mind is all over the place, full of things to do, with a background niggle of things I probably should be doing but haven’t thought of yet, and random bursts of light and comets.  It is like there are quickfire atoms in there that are all racing around at lightning speed, [...]

From the past: Flitting

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I ADMIT NOTHING!

Missed connections There comes a pivotal point in getting to know someone where I decide to say something serious, to unpeel a layer, to reveal something of myself. It usually comes some time past where we have shared silly, flirty emails and the normal ‘getting to know you’ stuff, it comes at a point where I feel safe enough to let them have a little peek inside. [...]

From the past: Missed connections

Old post, but thank you :)

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Reddit is IDing automated accounts & will label them as 'not human'. Cool beans
My inbox: We’re seeing strong signals this account is automated...
Wait, what?!
Hey mate, your bot that identifies other bots is lying to you
THIS IS HOW THE TAKEOVER STARTS PEOPLE!
(ref: www.reddit.com/user/spez/co...)

Turned out nothing like I had planned It’s coming ’round againa slowly creeping handof time and its commandsSoon enough it comesand settles in its placeits shadow in my faceputs pressure in my day This life well it’s slipping right through my handsThese days turned out nothing like I had planned…  What is this ‘Break Up Project’ and why are you suddenly only posting song clips?!  [...]

From the past: Turned out nothing like I had planned

Sunday Curiosity #8 – Femdom in Second Life I have a post brewing about this, but I thought I would stall on finishing it first ask you, trusted readers, to give me your opinion. There are communities in Second Life dedicated to female domination. I would like to hear from you what your overall view of it is (in the broadest possible strokes!). Hot: It’s great (for whatever reason) Not: It’s stupid (for whatever reason) WTF?: I have no idea what you are asking me… BDSM in Second Life – [...]

From the past: Sunday Curiosity #8 – Femdom in Second Life