yay im so grateful for lesbian visibility week bc whoa ur so pretty !!! and hi goose !!

NINI (yelling but quietly)

they got no game they just be saying dumb stuff in a not-endearing way !!

- someone being upset is determined by the dominant social script in the first place (chicken or egg situation - is romance its own type of love so inherently comes with possessive tendencies, or is it determined by the social environment so they r conditioned to respond with upset)

(1/2) HMM its a bit of a wobbly separation for a few reasons:

- dependent on another person (how do u define the feelings when not in a closed relo?)
- what if partner chill like that (if my bf developed deep feelings for others im fine w that, hes an autonomous person, and we'd talk abt it)

yayyy u deserve a happy weekend !! 💗💗💗

sorry kinda unrelated it just reminded me that once a guy told me he wanted to fuck my tooth gap before asking me for my number i was Flabbergasted

i have an intellectual crisis over this semi-regularly btw like i'll wonder if im being too autistic or ive deconstructed relationships so much that i just dont Get it anymore or if im technically aromantic so maybe im missing out on this experience everyones describing (even tho im very lovey !!!)

adding on ^ bc longterm healthy monogamous relationships seem to be more like really close friendships, esp in elderly years where intimacy may be less of a factor. like the fluffy feelings at the start dont last forever but those are the feelings explored in romantic media or early dating stages

(ty for insight) what im understanding is for u its about boundaries / how close or intimate u get with others, which then kinda creates + defines the feelings that form??

sometimes i think the word romance refers more to the social script of a certain type of relo, rather than actual feelings

THEN AGAIN im a relationship anarchist so i see every connection as fundamentally unique (and customisable). all the relationships in my life r special in their own way. with different agreements, commitments, boundaries. i dont feel a "type" of love bc its abt what we decide things are or look like

whenever people talk to me abt romantic attraction they seem to refer to limerance or sensual desire / intimacy or wanting a bestie to build a life with. my brains like- i can do all that with a friend tho?? if that was the dynamic i ended up in. so the only difference is the label ??

gonna out and say it . idk the difference between platonic and romantic !! like outside of the intentional choice to define something as romantic

i was like. im gnna delete everything make something pretty from scratch !! (immediately started being rly blocky and bland)

jealousy is emotional information, and usually derives from a place of insecurity / anxiety. it might be that u fear losing time with a friend when they prioritise a rom connection over u. or that u want to be tended to seriously as well, even if ur platonic. which is totally understandable

(2/2)

(i hope its ok for me to reply) for some reason i v rarely experience jealousy but when i do it only comes up in the context of friendships! i think its less abt differentiation of rom/plat but more to do w the fact there are generally less convos n commitments w friends than partners

(1/2)

sometimes i do that but usually i listen to a podcast !! in noise cancelling headphones so i dont have to hear anythinf. and i wear big pink gloves so no water touches me n no sensory ickies !!

the whine and headshake 😭 help so cute. also if thats ur voice its also cute !!

big fan of U 🫵

let marz have her hot choccie in peace !!!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️

woawwww what a collection !!

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hehe !!!

ohh im gonna look into them !!!

i did but gave up halfway so it looks bad 😭 im gonna do it better soon tho

i have this trick so i dont get overwhelmed before i start where i fill up the sink a lot w heaps of bubbles and hide all the dishes underneath so i dont see them

AND YES so satisfying usually im a good egg and do them every morning

oh noes uve had a bit of a wavy day it sounds like but i hope itll settle to relaxing sways soon !!

its not a problem whats a kinny for

u got me thinking and i dont think my ideas / inspirations come more at any specific time of day its more like im randomly hit by a train and i gotta stop whatever im doing to pursue the new thing

ill work on waking up earlier too to maximise time 🤝

its ivy !! cleaning is sooo much effort ur doing so well wow !! i hate inspection days my place is never even that messy ever but i hate strangers visiting grrr grr

i hope ur call w ur friend is fun and nourishing 💓 also ooo what band ?? i found a new one too (my bf is the metalhead tho)

AJ !! yippee u did so good with all ur errands !! u deserve a good chill time :3 andddd im good 🌻 i remembered to eat breakfast today so i feel better !