To the Kids Who Didn’t Go to Church This Easter

Trump’s Easter Speech Is a Warning We Shouldn’t Ignore YouTube video by Rev Karla

Most people are going to treat this like just another Trump speech but it’s not. What happened in that room matters because this wasn’t just politics. It was a belief system on full display.

I Was That Woman The Truth About Who I Was So I Could Become Who I Am

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t what was done to you.
It’s telling the truth about who you were inside of it.

If walking away from harm makes me an apostate, then may we all be brave enough to become one. When people use that word, it’s meant to shut you down, to make you feel like you’ve done something wrong, but what you’ve actually done is step away from something that hurt you. That takes courage.

It is not my responsibility to make a church leadership look good or to care about their feelings. If they were doing their job, there wouldn’t be this many people deconstructing.

Belonging Nowhere and to No One For the Unchurched and the Spiritual Wanderer Finding Empowerment in Solitude

Solitude isn’t always chosen. Sometimes it’s what remains when we refuse to keep silencing ourselves to belong. That space can feel lonely. It can also become the place where honesty returns and self-trust takes root.

“If you left Christianity, how can you still be a Reverend?”
I get this question a lot. Sometimes from people who are genuinely curious. Sometimes from people who want to discredit me. To be clear—I’m not a Christian minister. I’m an ordained Interfaith / Interspiritual minister.

The Side of Christianity That Will Never Care About Human Suffering YouTube video by Rev Karla

There is a side of Christianity that does not respond to suffering the way you expect. Not because people are heartless but because their belief system has already made sense of the suffering.

Why I No Longer Believe that God is Big Enough to Share In 2020, I posed for a photo wearing a sweatshirt with a phrase that had unexpectedly become part of my “brand”: God is big enough to share. Back then, I didn’t know a thing about marketing, algorithm...

I used to believe God was big enough to share. It was something I carried with me as I left church, a way to hold onto meaning while everything else unraveled but eventually, even that belief fell away.

Not with fear. Not with loss. With peace.
The mystery that remains... it's enough.

Democrats Are Not the “Greatest Enemy” | What This Language Really Does YouTube video by Rev Karla

Calling millions of Americans “the greatest enemy” isn’t normal.
That kind of language doesn’t come out of nowhere and this is how conditioning works. It’s why this kind of rhetoric lands the way it does.

That feeling when the promise of spring is in the air and knowing I won't be in church today with Christians who worship a man who mocked the passing of a decorated war hero while he sat out of the war because of bone spurs.

Move in Purpose Without God A Path of Meaning Rooted in Humanity, Not Heaven

Grief has a way of slowing everything down. Of making you look at your life and ask what actually matters.
I used to believe purpose was something I had to find in God. Something I had to get right.
Now, I experience it differently.

No one said “all.” That phrase shuts down the conversation before it starts. Hundreds of pastors implicated in abuse isn’t coincidence. It’s a pattern. Stop ignoring it.

From Southern Baptist to Interfaith and Interspiritual (Part 3) Belonging Nowhere and to No One

“Please don’t say God or offer a prayer to God in the service.”

What stood out to me here is how life without religion isn’t empty, it’s spacious. In that quiet, we can finally begin to notice what feels true, safe, and healing.

The Things I Want to Say…But I Can't A Former Christian’s Spiritual Reckoning with Our Moral Crisis

Deconstructing doesn’t remove us from the world’s pain.

It sharpens our awareness of it but it also reminds us that spirituality was never meant to be an escape from humanity. It was meant to deepen our responsibility to it.

If this double standard isn’t obvious by now, it’s because too many systems still protect powerful men while punishing women.

#genderinequality

5 Lies Christianity Taught Me Unlearning the White Savior, Reclaiming the Sacred

When I began peeling back the layers of evangelical Christianity, I discovered that some of the deepest wounds I carried were from the lies I was taught inside the church. This isn’t just my story. It’s a mirror for anyone who has felt betrayed by the faith that promised love but delivered fear.

Finding a label that fits who you are after leaving your religious heritage can be challenging. 
There is space here for the label-less. For the spiritually curious and for those still healing, still seeking, still naming themselves on their own terms.

Cosplaying Deconstructing When Leaving the Church Doesn’t Mean Leaving White Christian Patriarchy

Many people begin the process of deconstructing the beliefs they were raised with but far fewer continue the work of examining the deeper structures of power that those beliefs supported. The deeper questions ask how the systems we are leaving shaped power, privilege, and harm.

So if the Bible is infallible and inerrant and never changing, then explain to me how rapture theology can even be a thing if it’s only 200 years old?

From Southern Baptist to Interfaith and Interspiritual (Part 2) Walking In—and Defending—My Ordination

This isn’t just about me. It’s about what happens when you free yourself from dogma and still refuse to make yourself small. I didn’t leave the church to disappear. I left to live more honestly. And I’m not going back.

If you’re deconstructing and wondering what comes after, I hope this helps.

Unless these systems that inflict unimaginable suffering time and again crumble, ‘never again’ will always become ‘here we are again.’ If systems of power aren’t dismantled, history doesn’t just repeat itself, it finds new ways to harm.

From Southern Baptist to Interfaith and Interspiritual (Part 1) Reflecting on My Interfaith and Interspiritual Ordination

“If you left Christianity, how can you still be a Reverend?”
It’s a fair question. One I get asked often.
I’m not here to defend a title. I’m here to honor a truth.
My ordination didn’t come from Christian approval. It came from years of study, reflection, and choosing a path rooted in compassion.

What I can no longer represent is a flawed Christianity that relies on patriarchal structure.

Even the most “progressive” churches still harbor patriarchy in quiet, tolerated ways and I could no longer stay silent. Not when that silence would be mistaken as consent.

You Were Trained to Fear Her Voice How Tone Policing Protects White Christian Power

New writing available now:
Tone Policing Protects White Christian Power
Why You Were Trained to Fear Her Voice

Take-heart Deconstructing Souls.
At least we're not headed to church where Christians will shrug and say the unaliving of school girls was God's will then head into the sanctuary to hear a sermon on how God loves everyone.

Being Called a “Snowflake” Isn’t Weakness The Hypocrisy in Disparaging Creation

Seventeen days.
That’s how long it has been since the President of the United States of America posted a video showing the Obamas’ faces superimposed on the bodies of dancing apes. Some of us feel as if we’ve lived a lifetime since that video was posted, because as usual, Trump...

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Modern American Evangelical Christianity will not survive the demise of patriarchy, and I’m here for it. As more of us wake up, speak out, and walk away, the system will crumble and something more compassionate will rise.

Stop Kicking the Unchurched from the Table The Treatment of Non-Religious People Reflects Your Bias Against Us

They asked for a conversation. I thought they were curious about my story. Turns out, they were looking for a strategy to get me back in the pew. What they didn’t understand is that many of us didn’t walk away casually. We walked away with intention, with grief, and often with no support.