Been a minute. Got Episode 103 out in the archive, "Ageplay Coming Out Stories"
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This is one of my favorite movies. I know it’s got some cheese to it. But I don’t care.

I think it’s a lovely movie.

What makes this even better is that the voice of The Flash on Justice League was Michael Rosenbaum.

Who played Lex Luthor on Smallville.

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New episode up at the archive!

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Being a kinky person doesn’t by definition make you a smart person or dumb, moral or immoral, worthwhile or garbage.

And that is both quantitatively and qualitatively so.

No one gets a pass and no one is damned by definition either.

You don’t have to like it. That’s just how it is.

Because if you know 300 people who think that someone peeing in a diaper is hot, or that it’s perfectly reasonable for you to be turned on by such a thing, and then you know one person who thinks such ideas are evil, and you need all 301 people to agree….

You’re kind of fucked.

Which gets right back to that whole community debate.

There’s a term in software development circles, “brittleness”.

Code is brittle when it is hard to maintain and easily broken.

I see that relying upon the judgment of others to validate who you are and what you do is brittle.

Oh, I get entirely why people do it.

And doing it says as much about them as it does about the person they’re accusing.
We often fear what we don’t understand.

Which is why kind & nice are not the same thing. I’m always kind. But I’m not always nice.

It’s not my job to think for other people

And also make it clear to people that much like we hold ourselves accountable for these things, we also are going to hold them accountable in the same way too.

It’s funny @cargie.baby - over the years I have gone back-and-forth over the value of community, and our responsibilities to one another.

One thing I do see is that you cannot teach other people how to think, or even to think in the first place.

I think the best we can do is discuss these things.

And it’s just not.

And doing so doesn’t make you some sort of pure innocent little, it makes you a maladapted, selfish, jerk.

The other thing that comes from this that drives me bananas, is the mistaken idea that if you see a thing a certain way, say that for age play is not sexual, but that is some sort of pass or permission card, to engage in that thing openly and non-consensually, wherever whenever, and however you like

And adults having sex, whatever the hell that actually is, however we are dressed, however we are treating one another, isn’t inherently “dark.”

Several things come from this that drive me absolutely nuts.

First is the conflation of sexual age play as an idea with dark age play.

I understand dark age play to involve themes of sadism, abuse, and manipulation.

None of those things are inherently sexual.

But people don’t think it through, and they confuse it with something else that’s quite awful.

So they have this knee-jerk reaction.

Which I understand.

But I am not bound by. Because people are responsible for themselves, they are responsible for both what they think and how they think.

There’s a certain way we felt back then, a certain way we were treated.

And we want to be treated that way again.

And for some people, at some times, that makes our penis hard, or makes our vagina wet.

And do you know what? There’s not a damn thing wrong with that.

One of the things I think that people miss, is that using these tropes to enable connection isn’t the same thing as interacting with children at all.

We are reclaiming something, from the dustbin of our memory, cleaning it off and repurposing it for connections with other adults.

But it’s wrapped in these familiar tropes of caregiving. We all know what it was like to scrape our knee riding our bike, and have a Parent kiss our boo-boo.
Or to get your food cut up for you because you’re not to be trusted with a knife.

And then be praised for doing a good job eating dinner.

I’ve held the idea that for many, including myself, age play has nothing to do with ACTUAL age.

It’s a medium of exchange, a language, for something else.

The exchange of vulnerability. Wanting to be vulnerable to someone else, wanting someone else to be vulnerable to you.

People have all kinds of non-consensual fantasies that are scary and problematic.

Not just about ageplay.

People like to be “forced” to be bi, woken up from sleep with sex, spanked until they are crying and sore enough to be sore for days.

It’s perfectly OK to like any of these things.

This is very much something on my mind, and that I have my own very strong feelings about.

You’re absolutely right about those cockroaches and how awful they are.

Something Spacey and I used to talk about on the podcast all the time with how there’s no such thing as thought-crime.

You look amazing. ❤️

Episode 101 is up at the archive!

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It makes PERFECT sense. ❤️

I was just noticing earlier today that there is this sort of bubble exists in ABDL play. It’s like you and your partner enter into the shared space of approval, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy.

It can be so comforting, and sometimes so arousing. Sometimes both.

Easily one of the sexiest things I’ve ever seen. Because of the open invitation and attitude conveyed.

Sexy.

And I love me a little kings diaper.

It’s always great hearing from you dumpling