Covid sucks. My throat is scratchy, eyes wattery, nose runny. No fun.

This was a fun conversation! 😊

Had a Consult today that ended up being a sales pitch. First time this has happened, so I guess it was due. But, I was really hoping for at least a small commission today. So I'll use this to remind you that my consults are 50% off through the end of the year! 💜 calendly.com/aubrilancast...

Last Call for my workshop (Created with Ace & Aro folx in mind) Open to everyone!
Redefining Intimacy: How Do We Connect Outside the Script?
Tuesday Dec 16th
4-6pm PT (7-9pm ET)
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redefiningintimacydec2025.eventbrite.com

A stark, black and white illustration of a payphone is at the center. There's a sign on the side of it that says "Pregnant? Don't want to be? Call Jane at 643-3844." It is one of the ads they placed in a paper. The background of the illustration is stylized to look like a page from an old "Yellow Pages" phone book. There are old photos of the Janes and their workplace interspersed between lists of Jewish verses, designed to look like phone number entries. These are citations of Jewish texts addressing social justice, civil disobedience, abortion, and medicine. The AT&T logo on the payphone is stylized to be a hamsa, with RM"K (my Hebrew name initials). The background overall is designed to have a 1970s printed page style.

Closeup of the illustration showing details of the yellow pages entries, which are citations of Jewish texts.

Closeup of the bottom right of the illustration, showing details of the yellow pages entries, which are citations of Jewish texts.

"Call Jane"

This work is an homage to the Jane Collective, which consisted mostly of Jewish women. The "Janes" provided safe, discreet abortion access to low income women in the early 1970s Chicago when abortion was mostly illegal in the USA.

More in the alt.

We're not here to endorse or not endorse a candidate. But as an organization committed to ending antisemitism and protecting democracy in the U.S., we are deeply concerned by the recent conversation around Zohran Mamdani.

Here is our statement:

Happy Aromantic Visibility Day!

My next workshop is coming up in a few weeks and all are welcome! Pay what you can! RedefiningIntimacyjun2025.eventbrite.com

Orientation influences behavior, but behavior does not define Orientation. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤍🩶🖤

Gabriel harvests oranges in Selma CA: I earn $24 per 900lb bin. The pay hasn't changed in 4-5 years. It doesn’t justify the hard, heavy work we do. We run back and forth and go up and down a 16-foot ladder quickly picking oranges in a bag that weighs 60lb when full. #WeFeedYou

What can it look like to make more space for uncertainty, fluidity, and forms of intimacy (closeness and connection) and pleasure (enjoyment and satisfaction) that lean into more of a "settling in" than a "revving up" energy?

I don't fancy a shag. I fancy being seen without being sexualized.

I'm so grateful that my wizard journey was in the world of author Diane Duane. With complexity and queer characters. An author who wrote an autistic character that the autistic community took her to task over & she REWROTE her book in response.

A reminder that if the government can send migrants to a prison camp without any due process, it can send U.S. citizens there, too. I know because this happened to me and my family in 1942.

I don't fancy a shag, I fancy complex conversations about intimacy.

I don't fancy a shag, I fancy respect.

Can't wait!!!

Background: A gradient representation of the colors of the Aromantic flag: dark green, light green, white, grey, and black. Text: The Aromantic Bookshelf- A conversation on aromantic representation in both fiction and nonficton books. Monday, February 17th, 7pm EST Featuring Aubri Lancaster (Bri/ she) of AceSexEducation and the team of the Virtual Queer Library. Design: In the bottom corners are two circular graphics. One is a photo of Aubri, a light-skinned Jewish Demi-Femme person wearing a teal headscarf with a tail to the side, a necklace, and a blue collared shirt. The other is the VQ Library logo, which shows an open book with rainbow pages and a pink heart floating above it.

Background: A gradient representation of the colors of the Aromantic flag: dark green, light green, white, grey, and black. Text: “The Bruising of Qilwa”; Naseem Jamnia Design: The cover of “The Bruising of Qilwa”. A background of red and purple swirling designs frame a drawing of a red and tan city within yellow walls. A hand hovers over the scene.

Background: A gradient representation of the colors of the Aromantic flag: dark green, light green, white, grey, and black. Text: “The Other Significant Others”; Rhaina Cohen Design: The cover of “The Other Significant Others” which features a light blue gradient background and a stack of brightly colored teacups and saucers.

Next week is Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!
We’re so excited to celebrate alongside Aubri Lancaster (Bri/she) of @acesexeducation.bsky.social !
On Monday, February 17th, at 7pm EST, we will be joining Aubri on Instagram Live to talk about two books featuring Aromantic representation.

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15 Democratic state AGs stand by gender-affirming care "Federal funding to institutions that provide gender-affirming care continues to be available, irrespective of President Trump’s recent Executive Order," the attorneys general say.

#GoodNewsOfTheWeek 🥳15 Democrat Attorneys General issued a statement reaffirming their commitment to protecting gender-affirming – assuring federal funding should still be available too. We celebrate every advocate making sure rights are protected for ALL!
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#EducateUS

A farm worker holding up a orange she just picked in a glove hand hovering over a thousand pound bin she must fill

Alejandra shows us an orange she just harvested in Kern County. She tells us: we are paid by what we pick . The below box we fill weighs around 1,000 lbs. We are paid $26 per box. #WeFeedYou

Who counts as a significant other? Finding "the one" can seem like life’s ultimate goal—but should it be? This hour, TED speakers expand the definition of life partnership, whether it’s with a friend, a spouse, a pet, or no one at all.

www.npr.org/programs/ted...

being ableist and sanist towards your enemies is still being ableist and sanist. you can call something cruel or racist or horrible and not use ableist and sanist language. It’s not great when everyone’s immediate reaction to everything awful is ableism.

Pssst.... test your links on your websites and newsletters! Including (or especially) your Social icon links! I cannot tell you how often I find broken links or links that were never customized!

What's my point? Make space for people to just not want sex. Make space for people to center non-sexual pleasure and non-sexual intimacy in their lives and relationships. Don't assume "low desire" is a problem that must be fixed. Give them a chance to get out of the car.

If at any point along the way, someone had just said, it's ok to not like driving. Some people just don't enjoy driving. You don't have to keep trying to enjoy it..... what a massive difference that could make....

Well maybe you need a different driving companion. So you bring along friends, family, maybe even drive for Uber. But for some reason you still don't enjoy it....

Well maybe you just need to change the context! So try driving freeways, mountain roads, ocean views. But for some reason, you still don't like driving.....

Well maybe you just don't really know how to drive. So you take lessons and you learn all the ins and outs of driving. But for some reason, you still don't enjoy driving....