What do you think?

How are you coping with anxious thoughts?

Let me know!

#emotionregulation #anxiety #emotions

The 12 Favourite Problems are lifelong.

What I'm trying to remember is that not every problem is urgent.

Not every worry needs my immediate attention.

Not everything needs to, or even can be, solved soon.

Some problems you can play with, and they'll slowly come together over time 👇

#anxiety

Each time I'm reminded of a stressor, I can think of it as one would consider a puzzle:

"This is an interesting problem."

"What resources do I need to solve this?"

"Can I ask for help?"

"What's my first step?"

The core thing to remember here is👇

#anxiety #richardfeynman

Richard Feynman’s 12 Favourite Problems has got me thinking:

I can save myself so much worry if I view what's causing my anxiety as a puzzle/problem to solve...

Rather than something that's always nagging at me, interrupting my joy, or not letting me enjoy my wins 👇

What helps you feel better when you're anxious?

Share your thoughts! 💭

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Aside from alleviating anxiety, you're also acknowledging what this future trajectory means:

You've made it this far.

You earned your financial independence.

You're going to keep growing.

Your self-confidence will improve.

If you go from one worry to the next, you'll never enjoy where you are 👇

#workanxiety #anxiety #self-confidence

A tip for beating work anxiety:

Think of your forward trajectory/ long-term result rather than the immediate worry.

Each time you're anxious about a project, redirect your attention 👇

I'm letting go of the opportunity to do something *now*.

To work on myself, my emotions, my passions, my art - in the present.

So, what are you going you tell yourself the next time your inner critic speaks up?

#selftalk #selfgrowth #emotionregulation #BPD

"...By becoming conscious of the option my mood sets before me, I am free to decline it." - Hugh Prather – Notes To Myself.

This completely changed my mind on self-criticism.

Because it made me realise I have a choice.

Each time I choose to dwell on the past...👇

#emotions

The best quote you'll read on self-criticism and negative thinking:

"Discouragement, if pursued, is the exercise of an option: to turn from creative to non-creative mental activity, to turn from what is present to what is over, to turn from that which builds to that which destroys..."👇

You can't win every battle.

And not every difference of opinion, whether you're wrong or right, needs to be thought of as a battle.

Direct your energy elsewhere.

Create! There's so much your brain is capable of, explore it! 💕

#emotions #BPD #emotionregulation #creativity

So create. And share what you create with others.

Build a community.

Anyone can start a page online and share their work!

Not only are you giving your mind something else to focus on, but you'll also connect with others.

You'll realise how tiny your problems are compared to your passions. 👇

A great way to do this is by journaling.

This is helpful for self-reflection too.

But sometimes you just need to create.

What are you good at? What interests you?

Painting, playing an instrument, writing?

Do something. If you fester in those thoughts, they will get the better of you. 👇

#BPD #emotions #BPDthoughts

You need to turn emotional excess into creativity, it'll save you so much time and energy:

Think of negative thoughts, spirals, and inner narratives of blame and criticism as excess energy.

And when there's too much input, you need to expel that energy. 👇

How often do we investigate the factuality of these thoughts?

Often the reality is much better, and we're not giving ourselves enough credit.

This is true for work, our passions, habits, and efforts.

What are some reflection/journaling prompts that have helped you?

#journaling #reflection

#journal #emotionregulation

Here's why you need to journal:

It's the only time you actually *talk* to yourself.

You're usually always *listening* to yourself.

So many of us struggle with negative self-talk and black-and-white thinking.

But how often do we actually combat this? 👇

Be honest with yourself here.

Identify patterns and what's holding you back.

Then brainstorm or discuss possible solutions for them.

Follow through on what you've decided.

Set up an accountability partner with whom you share progress and goals.

You've got this!!

#productivity #selfgrowth

Confidence and optimism are essential.

But it's also wise to know one's strengths and limits, and plan with those in mind.

It feels great to complete projects.

So plan them in moderation. Set small, realistic goals.

Journal about your setbacks and get to the root of what causes them. 👇

#qotd #villette #quotes

A quote for those struggling with consistency and constantly leaving projects:

"There is nothing like taking all you do at a moderate estimate: it keeps mind and body tranquil; whereas grandiloquent notions are apt to hurry both into fever" - Lucy Snowe – Charlotte Brontë👇

I don't think chance or luck works alone.

Nor does effort work without hope.

At the end of the day, you need to believe in yourself and your work if you expect others to.

Go forward, and you'll find that a way will open up!

#emotionregulation #consistency #villette #quotes

#qotd #quoteoftheday

A quote for persistence in hard times:

"A strong, vague persuasion, that it was better to go forward than backward, and that I could go forward - that a way, however narrow and difficult, would in time open - predominated over other feelings." - Lucy Snowe – Charlotte Brontë 👇

Do it anyway.

Don't "assume a reason for living that is separate from life." (Hugh Prather - Notes To Myself)

You are living. You are doing. This is enough.

Be consistent before you optimise.

Build the habit first. You can enhance it later.

What do you think?

#perfectionism #art #habits

#consistency #goals #habitformation

The reason why we give up on projects halfway is this:

We're obsessed with a perfect outcome rather than just doing, just being.

You had a perfect image of what your art/work/habit would look like.

Turns out it's not that romantic 👇

Release yourself from worry/ dejection by focusing your attention only on the present.

Only this is in your control.

Focus on the reason why you do what you do.

Because you enjoy it, love it, because it aligns with your purpose.

What do you tell yourself when you worry? 🤔

#anxiety #emotions

#emotionregulation #BPD #qotd

A quote for anxiety:

"It will be interesting to see what happens" is a more realistic attitude toward future consequences than worry.

Excitement, dejection, and irritation also assume a knowledge of results that I cannot possess." - Hugh Prather, Notes To Myself 👇

Gives you time to think from their perspective.

You realise how much more of your energy is worth spending.

You can later script a polite, firm response, then say this.

Moreover, having fulfilling passions, friendships, and community is necessary.

What are your tips for this? Let me know!! 🤔

Let it go.

This is for your own peace, even if you don't agree with them.

You can end the conversation with "I don't agree with this, but let me think about it and get back to you."

"I don't think we're moving forward, so let's pick this up later after we've thought it over."

What this does 👇

#BPD #emotionregulation #BPDers

A way to handle tough conversations/ differing opinions with close ones:

Accept their nature. This is very hard.

But you can't change a person completely.

You only need to understand each other enough to know how much is worth communicating, and for the rest...👇

The trick to doing hard things is accepting the moments when you doubt yourself or feel pressured.

These moments don't mean you stop or change course.

Take a break or reassess your approach.

But the only way to get to the other side is to keep pushing through!

#productivity #emotionregulation

Do I agree? Why/why not?

Or instances from my life that are similar to the lessons learnt from the video/book.

I'll write this in a stream-of-consciousness form.

Over time, I'll connect different notes/ideas to each other, and post these online.

What's your way to output > input?

#notes