Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National Tea Day (in the United Kingdom). So here's a quote of the day for you: "Tea is a rite to be quietly observed, not a party at which to have a high old time." — #ClevelandAmory, The Proper Bostonians

#afternoontea #etiquette #manners

Etiquetteer Reviews Higher Etiquette, Vol. 18, Issue 12 — Etiquetteer Scroll to the bottom for video of Etiquetteer’s cannabis etiquette fails. Pot is the new wine. Sessions are the new dinner parties. Etiquette is the constant. Nothing short of an etiquette revolu...

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #420Day with this review of the greatest book ever of #cannabis manners, Higher Etiquette by Lizzie Post:

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Random Issues, Vol. 25, Issue 21 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: My girlfriend and I were just discussing manners.  They were paramount in my household growing up, not quite so in hers. She lamented to me that she feels self-conscious in fin...

Today Etiquetteer recommends guides to table manners for a reader's girlfriend who doesn't feel quite sure of herself at table, and shares a few thoughts on #garlic for #NationalGarlicDay.

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#etiquette #manners #tablemanners #etiquettebooks #books

(Public) "Tea and Talk" at Prescott House - The Society of Colonial Dames of Massachusetts Join Us for Tea Etiquette! Sign up here: “Tea and Talk” at Prescott House A lecture and delicious food & tea for the price of one! Do you ever have...

What could be more Perfectly Proper than #afternoontea and talk with Etiquetteer next weekend?

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#etiquette #manners #teatime

Errors of Perfect Propriety in James Cameron's "Titanic," Vol. 11, Issue 8 — Etiquetteer Ladies and gentlemen of Discernment are observing the centennial of the sinking of the RMS Titanic this weekend. Please note Etiquetteer's choice of verb; one does not "celebrate" the death of over ...

Today being the anniversary of the sinking of the #Titanic, of course it's Perfectly Proper to review again the many etiquette errors in James Cameron's blockbuster Oscar-winning film.

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#etiquette #manners #movies #rmstitanic

Etiquette Education, Vol. 25, Issue 20 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: Do you agree that “Proper Manners” should be taught in public schools? Basic things, like table manners, how to address and mail a letter*, and so many other situations to choose fr...

A reader asked for Etiquetteer’s thoughts on etiquette #education in public schools, and here they are.

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#etiquette #manners #learning

If He Leaves You on a Mountain, End Your Relationship

This . . . this is NOT Perfectly Proper!

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#alpinedivorce #relationships #hiking #etiquette #manners #decency

Hosting a Dinner Party, Vol. 25, Issue 19 — Etiquetteer Etiquetteer asked readers on Instagram (you are following Etiquetteer on Instagram, aren’t you?) what kept them from having people over to dinner. Their responses were both predictable and surprising ...

Etiquetteer asked readers on Instagram — do you follow Etiquetteer there? — what keeps them from having a dinner party at home. And there’s a #solution for just about everything.

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#etiquette #manners #dinnerparty #entertaining

Easter Dinner for One: Rules and Exceptions, Vol. 25, Issue 18 — Etiquetteer “I cannot help the drawing-room furniture; your father bought it and we must put up with it.” — Mrs. Honeychurch in A Room With a View , by E.M. Forster Etiquetteer hopes you had a beautiful Easter ...

For those who love table settings and formal dinners, today Etiquetteer reprises the Dress Dinner Challenge format from way back in the pandemic to go through a formal four-course #dinner for Easter. This involved bending the rules...but how?

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Etiquetteer Reviews Between Meals, Vol. 25, Issue 17 — Etiquetteer Artists sometimes use a framework on which to hang their creative expressions. Composers once used the mass, visual artists the Four Seasons, tarot cards (increasingly in this century), and the Seven ...

Etiquetteer didn't intend to review of A.J. Liebling's memoir of food in Paris, Between Meals, on Easter Sunday when many will be sitting down to a feast, but here it is. For those who love good food and deft wordplay, it's a must.

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#etiquette #manners #dinner

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Easter Sunday.

Joan Crawford on Entertaining, Vol. 17, Issue 60 — Etiquetteer Earlier this week three or four friends referred Etiquetteer to the latest Joan Crawford meme (see above). This time, for a refreshing change, the subject isn’t child abuse, bad behavior, or Bette Dav...

For the birthday of #joancrawford today. it’s important to remember that she NEVER said “And I put a splash of vodka in everything.” But her advice on #entertaining at home stands up.

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#etiquette #manners #partygiving

Rudeness, Vol. 25, Issue 16 — Etiquetteer Etiquetteer was most interested to see @thepolitepage* on Instagram call attention to a Pew Research Center study that shows that 47% of Americans say people have gotten ruder since the pandemic . Et...

Are people ruder in public now than before the pandemic? Etiquetteer speculates on the topic, prompted by a recent survey from the Pew Research Center. More importantly, what do you think?

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#etiquette #manners #behavior #courtesy

Flying today for the first time since last summer, Etiquetteer is reminded of the eye-watering body odor of a fellow air passenger. It is Not Perfectly Proper to embark on air travel without having bathed first.

Remember the words of the late Clyde Crashcup: "Cleanliness...next...to FRIENDLINESS!"

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"Tea and Talk" at Prescott House - The Society of Colonial Dames of Massachusetts Join Us for Tea Etiquette! Sign up here: “Tea and Talk” at Prescott House Do you ever have “that sinking feeling” in the late afternoon? The Duchess of Bedford, it...

If you've always wanted to take tea with Etiquetteer, April 25 is the date, and Prescott House on Beacon Hill is the place.

Tea and Talk with Etiquetteer at Prescott House, headquarters of the Colonial Dames, is now online! Order your tickets now, as space is limited.

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A Personal Curriculum for Elegance, Vol. 25, Issue 15 — Etiquetteer Allow Etiquetteer to leap, belatedly, onto the personal curriculum trend to suggest a somewhat eclectic stack of recommended reading for an education in elegance. Defined as “Refinement, grace, and ...

Recommended reading for a #personalcurriculum of #elegance:

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#etiquette #manners #reading #goodbooks

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper Saint Patrick's Day. Remember that the #greencarnation was popularized by Ireland's greatest writer, Oscar Wilde — which makes it also an emblem for Gentlemen of the Oscar Wilde Sort.

Enjoy the day!

#bowtie #etiquette #manners #boutonniere

Mistaken Neighbors, Vol. 25, Issue 14 — Etiquetteer Dear Etiquetteer: I am a widow, and several years ago, I moved to [Insert Rural New England State Here], to get away from the memories and sadness. I now live on a farm, with a dearest friend who hap...

Today Etiquetteer gets an assist from Noel Coward while advising a widow how to keep reminding her neighbors that the man who lives with her isn’t her husband.

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#etiquette #manners #rurallife #gossip #designforliving

How to Take a Pie in the Face, Vol. 16, Issue 10 — Etiquetteer

If it's March 14, that means it's time for Etiquetteer to wish you a Perfectly Proper Pi Day, and reshare this annual lesson on How to Take a Pie in the Face with Perfect Propriety.

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#etiquette #manners #pieintheface #piday

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper National #Jewel Day. The best advice came from How to Set Up for Mah-Jongg Game and Other Lost Arts, by Joan Gelman and Carol E. Rinzler: "A lady never starts on her emeralds until she has all her diamonds."

What could be more Perfectly Proper?

Houseguests, Vol. 25, Issue 13 — Etiquetteer Researching next month’s afternoon tea program at Prescott House, Etiquetteer suddenly remembered a story about one of the more troublesome houseguests at the White House during World War II, Madame C...

Today Etiquetteer shares a couple incidents from Madame Chiang Kai-shek’s wartime visit to the White House which tested the composure of the First Lady, and especially her housekeeper Mrs. Nesbitt.

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#etiquette #manners #whitehouse #history

International Women's Day, Vol. 16, Issue 8 — Etiquetteer International Women’s Day arrives at an auspicious, turbulent time. The Women’s March in January galvanized women throughout America, but more recent events underscore the necessity to continue to spe...

Also for #InternationalWomensDay, this column from Volume 16 highlights some now-forgotten incidents of Bad Behavior from 2017 — which still highlight the need to advocate for the right of all women to be treated with dignity.

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#etiquette #manners #misogyny

Women Etiquette Writers, Vol. 20, Issue 23 — Etiquetteer There’s no use denying that the greatest etiquette writers, the most enduring, have been women. Before Women’s History Month ends, Etiquetteer wants to salute the ladies to whom Etiquetteer refers the...

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper #internationalwomensday with this appreciation of women #etiquette #writers from the archives.

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What could be more Perfectly Proper than a sellout audience for a second presentation of Elements of Victorian
Mourning at the Gibson House Museum?

#etiquette #manners #boston

ICO writes to Meta over 'concerning' AI smart glasses report Videos, including of glasses-wearers using the toilet or having sex, are sometimes reviewed by a Kenya-based subcontractor.

Perhaps the time has come to add "No AI glasses" to dress codes for party invitations.

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#etiquette #manners

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Life Lessons from Auntie Mame, Vol. 20, Issue 41 — Etiquetteer Almost 50 years ago Young Etiquetteer was introduced to “America’s favorite relative,” Auntie Mame, the creation of Patrick Dennis, based on his actual relative, Marion Tanner. Etiquetteer’s life migh...

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a Perfectly Proper World Book Day with a favorite, unexpected source of good manners: #AuntieMame: An Irreverent Escapade, by Patrick Dennis.

What's a book that inspired YOUR good manners?

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#etiquette #manners

Etiquetteer Reviews Glitz, Glam and a Damn Good Time, Vol. 25, Issue 12 — Etiquetteer Caroline Astor — the only The Mrs. Astor — made upper-crust American society regal, dignified . . . and predictable. The first antidote was bold frivolity, as provided by Alva Vanderbilt. And then t...

Today Etiquetteer reviews Jennifer Wright's new biography Glitz, Glam and a Damn Good Time: How Mamie Fish, Queen of the Gilded Age, Partied Her Way to Power.

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#etiquette #manners #bookreview

He was a perfect foil to Joan Crawford in Harriet Craig.