Yeah, me too.
That's why I'm optimistic about @atproto.com and how it treats one's social graph as simply another data record that can be migrated along with more traditional post content.
If you haven't yet, check out @danabra.mov's excellent primer about this facility: overreacted.io/open-social
They're bigger in Europe.
Many American providers are reticent 'cause there are few American clients there. But we all know clients go where we go.
We saw it with Twitter. We'll see it with whatever mall site we flock to next.
I don't want that next site to be a site with transphobic site search.
Most search assumes men searching for "women" won't book trans women and men searching for "trans (women)" won't book cis women.
My business disproves that.
Transphobic site search only enforces fake market limits rather than growing real market opportunity.
That's bad for EVERYONE'S bottom line.
…important as it matches the actual, rather than the assumed, market.
A given trans woman might still be excluded from Tryst results. Maybe she's not a certain age.
But men searching solely for "women" without other criteria may still find her.
That's specifically what doesn't happen on Velvet22.
One thing that makes @tryst.link's search better is that trans escorts can choose to appear exclusively in searches for trans-only providers.
This means trans women can choose to be listed alongside cis providers or not, but cis people can never exclude trans women on searches for "women."
That's…
The best way to pressure Tryst to improve is not to spend time directing criticism at them online but to take our time and attention and invest it in their competitors.
I once again suggest cis and trans escorts alike take a serious look at SaferChoice.ch. Their name sucks but their tech is better.
Ooh! Very modernized 70's chic, or so it seems in my mind's eye. Understated but fashionable! Very nice!
Tryst had such a positive impact for trans escorts because their site is STRUCTURALLY different: it lets clients discover trans women for our femininity, not solely our anatomy.
I love my cis sisters but respectfully few of you get how big a deal this is.
Not on wokeness, but on our bottom line. 💰
There are only 2 ad sites I know of that do search correctly. Tryst, as stated, and SaferChoice.ch, whose search functions the same way.
I know Tryst gets a lot of hate but arguably no other platform has done more for trans women who escort than they have, and they don't get enough credit for that.
Please follow in the footsteps of @tryst.link and include trans women in the "women" category of your search result pages.
My best clients are straight men who simply never considered searching specifically for trans women and thus they did not find me on your platform.
Fix that for your own sake.
Oh, that is a real challenge!
And it's one of those things very few people know how to help with because it's "supposed" to just "come naturally," when in reality it's one of those early life experience imprints that trans people were (often viciously) denied.
I'd love to know what you picked out!
Damn. 🥵 Well, judging from this photo at least, you could probably just fuck nearby and it would be hot enough to spark the fire. ❤️🔥
Heck yeah! For me, travel energy is also horny energy, so I love this for you and absolutely second manifesting more!
Yay! 😄 I love this for you!
Not sure about you but it's so easy for the other things to stick out in my memory but it's so important to remember that there are many times like this, too!
Anonymous: Yo, I doomscrolled your X for a bit, is it in bad taste if I ask you questions about where crypto is headed in the next couple of years? (9:06pm) Violet: You're welcome to book a consult. 👍🏻 (1 min ago)
Y'all, I've made it! 💪🏻
I've reached whatever level of girlboss it is where men slide into my DMs asking for free cryptocurrency consultations, business advice, and industry predictions while offering me nothing in return.
I now have SAFE FOR WORK time-wasters! This isn't even the only one today. 🤭
I came here for the Boolean AND operator and stayed for the good post content++.
The memo Swalwell should have read that could have saved his campaign. 🥲
Haha! Ngl, it was a particularly filling sausage. 🙂↕️
Lol! 😝
Thanks for all the invisible labor you did to make this possible, too, handsome. 😉
😁 I'm honestly so psyched! I love and miss Berlin!
And it's really nice to be getting recognized for the impact I'm having in this space. There are some truly good folks who are part of the @z.cash ecosystem and I'm pleased that they understand the importance of welcoming sex workers into the fold.
Violet lays on a bed in red lingerie looking at the camera with a smile as she is working on a heavily stickered laptop.
In mid-June, I'll be traveling to Germany to co-produce & co-host a special @z.cash event alongside @mylo-ryn.com as part of Berlin Blockchain Week!
We'll be continuing our outreach to help you and your clients encrypt your money!
I'll be wearing clothes. Unless we find ourselves…getting a room. 😏
I know I drop this link often but it's because basically everyone who reads it tells me some variant of "I'm not tech savvy at all and I was really putting this off because I thought it would be a whole ordeal, but your guide made everything make sense so fast!"
VioletRollergirl.com/resources/fo...
My most problematic opinion: most of the world doesn't deserve all the good things specifically trans women were instrumental in creating, chief among them being, of course, trans women.
I'll not apologize for this belief and I want it known that everything I do for the world, I do for trans women.
Bianca Stone, Mylo Run, Domina Katarina, and Violet Rollergirl all lay on the floor to take a combined profile headshot.
Bianca Stone in the far back is laying on the carpet in front of the Zcash Kitchen backsplash as Violet Rollergirl is collapsed in the foreground with Mylo Ryn laying over her butt, similarly collapsed.
We did it!
Thanks for an incredible EXXXOTICA, Chicago!
Thanks to @z.cash Community Grants for believing in our mission to inform sex workers about the power of shielded ZEC and the Zodl app!
Thanks to @mylo-ryn.com, @biancastone.bsky.social, and @thedommekat.com for being the greatest team ever!
Mylo let's Violet rest her feet while holding up a pair of Twix candies gifted by our booth neighbors.
Gitsie and Violet take a selfie in front of the Zcash Kitchen backsplash.
Violet talks with vendors at Exxxotica Chicago about Zcash.
Finally off my feet after 3 long days at @exxxotica.bsky.social Chicago with @mylo-ryn.com (pictured), @biancastone.bsky.social, and @thedommekat.com!
We also had the absolute best booth neighbors in The Twix Twins! (They gave us candy!) I saw @gitsie.bsky.social again! And talked to other vendors!
Hehehe, perfect GIF. 🤭
And yeah, like what kind of business person is going to chase promises from cheapskates AT THE EXPENSE of already-paying and confirmed customers?
In what economic universe does that ever make sense? Puh-leeze.
Lmao! "Let me know." As if. 🤣
Dudes, if someone else books at that exact same time it means he put down a deposit and the absolute last thing I'm doing is going through my inbox to find your messages to let you know?
What I'm actually going to do is open my calendar to confirm his date+time. Duh.
Violet kneels on the floor at Exxxotica Chicago in the Zcash Kitchen booth preparing to eat a massive Polish sausage dressed like a hot dog.
Side view of Violet eating a massive Polish hot dog in front of the Zcash Kitchen backsplash at Exxxotica Chicago.
Exxxotica Chicago "lunch break." 👄🌭😄
We've met such an inspiring cross section of the industry, from buyers curious about private purchases to creators who feel a deep sense of resignation around being kicked off sites or payment apps, to sex worker advocates excited about what we're bringing here.
Best compliment my team got at #Exxxotica yesterday was from a man who almost walked by our booth without stopping but who looked curious enough that I called to him and then ended up staying to talk for almost an hour.
"I can get ass anywhere," he said, "but you folks are unexpected, and amazing!"
"You'll never be a real girl" is only ever something said by little boys afraid of never becoming self-confident men.