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A person sits down on a park bench, looking frustrated as they text on their phone. Two familiar silhouettes appear to be chatting and eating in the background.
The next panel reveals the two silhouettes to be Matthew and Erika, who are enjoying a romantic picnic date together with cubes of ham.
“More ham?” Matthew asks, holding up a forkful of ham up to Erika.
A pleased Erika responds, “Don’t mind if I do!”
The exchange is quickly interrupted by the person yelling out a distraught “AUGH” as they flop sadly on the bench.
Matthew holds up a hand to his ear. “Oooh! I know that sound!”, he says.
Matthew gets up real close to the person on the bench. He squints and puts a finger on his chin as he guesses, “You’re… struggling with the complexities of attraction… and… mmm… nailing down a sexual identity?”
Surprised, the person sits up and looks at him. “How did you… uh, well yes, I am!”
Matthew props one leg up on the edge of
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Erika and Matthew start eating from their plate of ham cubes again.
“That sounds like a case of projection to me!” Matthew says around a mouthful of said ham cubes.
Erika thoughtfully spears another cube with her fork. “It says more about *them* and *their* limited understanding of sexuality, than it does about *you* and *your* attractions.”
Matthew leans in towards the person. He offers up a plate as he says, “Oh, where are my manners. Want some ham?”
The person holds up their hands as they awkwardly lean away. “Th-that’s okay. I’m good.”
Erika stands next to a sign that says, “YOU MUST SUCK THIS MUCH DICK TO ENTER” with a standing height scale of a smiling cartoon penis with measurement lines along its shaft. She says, “Who you’re attracted to isn’t about hard rules or taking specific actions. It’s not about how many dicks you’ve sucked or pussies you’ve eaten or any other combination of orifices you’ve mashed together.”
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Erika answers, “Well, that’s one form of attraction - *sexual attraction* - but there are a bunch of different types, too. Attraction can be summed up as being *strongly drawn to someone or something.* Like gravity! It’s feeling a pull, or interest, or pleasure from that person or thing.
Erika and the person hold up two giant magnets in their arms that pull towards each other. The word “ATTRACTION” can be read between the magnets.
We can feel it in different ways for different people and even things. It doesn’t need to be a strictly *sexual* feeling, either! Some forms of attraction can include (but are not limited to!)...
*Sexual Attraction (AKA Physical Attraction)*
Finding someone (or thing) sexually appealing, being physically excited and desiring some kind of sexual touching or activity with them.
*Romantic Attraction (AKA Interpersonal Attraction)*
The strong desire to be in a relationship with another person as a partner
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There’s lots of different combinations and overlaps that can play out.
Like, you could be *Romantically Attracted* to someone, so you want to be in a relationship with them, but you aren’t *Sexually Attracted* to them, so you don’t wanna bang ‘em.
Or you could feel Romantically, Sexually, Aesthetically, and Sensually Attracted all at the same time to the same person!
People can figure out loving, creative ways to accommodate each other’s needs if their attractions don’t perfectly sync up and they do want to be together in a relationship.
Erika, Matthew, and the person all end up sitting back down on the bench together. Erika places one hand on her chest and one on the other person’s chest reassuringly. She says, “The skinny of it all is that your attraction to others - *your sexuality* - is a deeply personal thing that only you can know for yourself. And it’s okay *NOT* “to know” for sure! You don’t need to commit yourself to
Happy Bisexual+ Awareness Week! Calling yourself bi isn't validated by how many dicks you've sucked or pussies you've eaten or any other combo of orifices you've mashed together. It's about about... Attraction. From the archive by @erikamoen.bsky.social & Matthew Nolan
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