I guess we got that question answered on Saturday: General Dan Caine.

That is a much better aesthetic.

Spiders that look like crabs are especially heinous.

3-4 years*

It would be easy to turn his curiosity into justification for my own sense of victimhood. I can produce ample evidence that he is an abusive, Bad Person. He could do the same to me, and we could again engage in victimhood Olympics. But this game and the outcome are meaningless. It changes nothing.

Bsky is perhaps the wrong place to express this. 😅

And I think that's very relatable. To get back to my point, it is necessary to see yourself as righteous in your actions when those actions conflict with your perception of yourself as a Good Person. The simplicity of this dichotomy is comforting. The alternative is profoundly uncomfortable.

He saw himself as the victim in life. Through that victimizing, he found a sense of righteousness. This perceived righteousness justified the behaviors that destroyed the relationship. I'm not blaming him nor excusing him. It is simply an understandable attempt to find his place in an unjust world.

Like most partners, he took some of my things when he left. He abandoned unwanted items but also some childhood keepsakes I know were meaningful. I've kept them safe for 3-4 hours since. I've left lines of communication open in hopes of arranging a swap, only blocking him when he'd text me in anger.

I do have concerns because of his anger and fascination with violence and weapons. But as long as he isn't trying to threaten or intimidate me, I'm not concerned with his curiosity, whatever its motivation.

If it was him, I don't mind his curiosity. It is normal to be curious about people who were once important to you. I see no issue with him viewing what I've made public. The relationship was stressful, but I hesitate to call him abusive. Exploitative, definitely. Frightening at the end, also true.

(I think I saw my ex drive by my house last week.)

Victimhood is the proxy for righteousness in those who fail at genuine introspection.

Oh yay!! ❤️ ❤️❤️

watching paint dry is actually pretty fun if you’re in a small room with no ventilation

People can't be good because good isn't an adjective, it's an action.

You can do good. Not doing harm is not being a "good" person. It means being neutral, and neutral is not an obstacle to those doing harm

I didn't realize! Ah!!!! V excited now. Maybe that's why David Tennant was in my dream last night.
God, I wish I were him. 😭

Twinning

Ahhhh!!!!!! Hell yeah!!

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Screenshot of Lord of the Rings. The main character says "All right, then. Keep your secrets."

This is how I used to watch tv.

“You know, when I first went into the movies Lionel Barrymore played my grandfather. Later he played my father & finally he played my husband. If he had lived I'm sure I would have played his mother. That's the way it is in Hollywood. The men get younger and the women get older.”

Lillian Gish

There an intimacy in private confessions of sadness that isn't the same as public declarations. A DM that just says "I'm sad" is really a question - "can I trust you with my heart?" It is such a fragile moment, and only takes one perceived "no" to shatter that trust forever.

So many people I'm close to have chronic battles with depression, and it's my greatest honor when they allow me to see those parts of themselves and let me stay with them through it. It's like seeing someone trapped in a garage with a running car and being given the garage door opener. We got this.

Wait. No. That's Time in a Bottle. What can't you bottle?!

Love in a Bottle is tending rn I think.

I do appreciate how off putting my expressions are at work, but it isn't a deterrent for people trying to talk to me and at some point it'll negatively impact me professionally. 💀

I'm so very overdue to get my face's subtitles turned off.

Realizing parents are just as human as we are is such a disorienting experience. Children are delicate, and even the most attentive and well meaning guardian can cause damage. And a guardian that isn't attentive or well meaning.... 😬

Tbh I am almost ready to switch to yt. It's the most ethical of the services, from what I've heard.