Reclaiming Touch in a Body that has Changed Holding his hand gave me more peace than anything I had spent years chasing.

Reclaiming Touch in a Body that has Changed

Holding his hand gave me more peace than anything I had spent years chasing.

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#LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell #sexualhealth

Intimacy After 40: Why Emotional Availability Matters More Than Chemistry If there is one constant in this Universe it is that change is constant. From the weather to our own bodies, it is all a cycle. Every aspect of this machine we call a body is changing every single …

Intimacy After 40

Chemistry can make something feel real, but emotional availability is what actually makes it last.

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#LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell #sexualhealth

Why Gay Men are Taught to Outrun Their Feelings The hardest race many of us will ever run is the one where we finally stop.

Why Gay Men Are Taught to Outrun Their Feelings

The hardest race many of us will ever run is the one where we finally stop.

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#LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell

Midlife Isn’t a Crisis – It’s a Reckoning With the Truth Midlife isn’t a crisis — it’s the moment the stories we believed about our lives stop working.

Mid-life Isn’t a Crisis - It’s Reckoning With the Truth

Midlife isn’t a crisis — it’s the moment the stories we believed about our lives stop working.

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#LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell

What Health Anxiety Taught Me About Control I wasn’t just being responsible. I was afraid.

What Health Anxiety Taught Me About Control

I wasn’t just being responsible. I was afraid.

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#fitness #LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell

Doctor Visits, Fear, and Learning to Advocate for Yourself After 40 Being a ‘good patient’ almost taught me how to disappear from my own care.

Doctor Visits, Fear, and Learning to Advocate

Being a ‘good patient’ almost taught me how to disappear from my own care

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#fitness #LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell

Living With a Chronic Condition in Midlife: What Stability Really Looks Like Chronic illness in midlife often poses its own unique set of challenges.

Living with a Chronic Condition

Chronic illness in midlife often poses its own unique set of challenges.

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#fitness #LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell

Winter Bodies: Slowing Down Without Giving Up on Yourself No one tells Queer men what aging actually feels like.

Winter Bodies: Slowing Down Without Giving Up on Yourself

No one tells Queer men what aging actually feels like.

#fitness #LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell

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What No One Tells Queer Men About Aging (Until it is Already Happening) No one tells gay men what aging actually feels like.

What No One Tells Queer Men About Aging

No one tells gay men what aging actually feels like.

#fitness #LGBTQ+Healthcare #agingwell

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Exercise and Fitness with Cirrhosis: Finding Strength at Your Own Pace Living with cirrhosis changes how you see your body. For me, it wasn’t just about staying active

Exercise and Fitness with Cirrhosis

Living with cirrhosis changes how you see your body. For me, it wasn’t just about staying active

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#cirrhosisjourney #fitness #LGBTQ+Healthcare

A Christmas Menagerie: The Journey Behind the Tale There are times when you do things, in your life, that, often, even mystify yourself.

A Christmas Menagerie

There are times when you do things, in your life, that, often, even mystify yourself.

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#personalstory #writing #horror #lgbtqwriters

The Beauty of Simple Things: Finding Peace in Everyday Moments We often get so caught up in the daily grind that we forget how small actions can have the greatest impact

The Beauty of Simple Things

We often get so caught up in the daily grind that we forget how small actions can have the greatest impact

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#mentalwellness #mindfulliving #personalstory #cle #pride #lgbtq

Harvesting Memories

Each year, Karl and I head out to Geauga County for what has become one of our favorite spots, Ransom Sage Farms

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#lgbtq+community #queercleveland #personalstory #cleveland #cle #autumn #halloween #localfavorites

Healing from Rejection: Family, Faith, and the Long Road to Self-Worth When we hear the word REJECTION, most of us associate it with being turned down by someone we have feelings for

Healing from Rejection

When we hear the word REJECTION, most of us associate it with being turned down by someone we have feelings for

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#lgbtq+community#rituals #meditation #mindfulliving #selflove

Cleansing, Protecting, and Energizing Your Space (Witchcraft Meets Self-Care) Cleansing, protecting, and energizing your space is more than just aesthetics or good vibes.

Cleansing, Protecting, and Energizing

Cleansing, protecting, and energizing your space is more than just aesthetics or good vibes.

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#lgbtq+community#rituals #meditation #mindfulliving #selflove

The Myth of Graceful Aging and How to Live Boldly Instead “Turning 52 taught me the truth about aging — it’s not about growing old gracefully, but living unapologetically. Discover how to break free from aging stereotypes and redefine life after 50.”…

The Myth of Graceful Aging…

Turning 52 taught me the truth about aging

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#lgbtq+community #personalreflections #personalstory #cle #lgbtq+

Sleeping in Franklin Castle

There are haunted places in this world, places where violence, hatred and dark things lie in wait.

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#localfavorites #queercleveland #personalstory #cle #lgbtq+ #franklincastle

Raised Among Saints and Hollow Things

There is no denying that Southern mountain folk are just raised differently

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#localfavorites #queercleveland #personalstory #cle #lgbtq+

Christmas, Custard, and a Change of Plans: Discovering the Unexpected in Northeast Ohio “A spontaneous day trip through Northeast Ohio turns into a heartwarming journey of vintage finds, local flavors, and unexpected joy for two explorers at heart.

Christmas, Custard, and a Change of Plans

A spontaneous day trip through Northeast Ohio turns into a heartwarming journey

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#localfavorites #queercleveland #personalstory #cle #lgbtq+

Mall Kiosks, Glamour Shots, and Other Micro-Eras of Queer Aesthetic Training From mall kiosks and Glamour Shots to Claire’s and Spencer’s Gifts, discover how 80s and 90s shopping culture shaped queer identity for a generation.

Mall Kiosks, Glamour Shots, and Other Micro-Eras

In the 1980s, if you wanted to be cool…

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#80sNostalgia #Spencergifts #LGBTQHistory

The Year That Shaped Us: Why 1985 Still Echoes in Queer Memory 1985 was a defining year for LGBTQ+ identity. From Rock Hudson’s AIDS diagnosis to growing activism and stigma, this reflective essay explores how the HIV/AIDS crisis shaped a generation of gay and…

The Year That Shaped Us

1985 was a defining year for LGBTQ+ identity.

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#80sNostalgia #AidsCrisis #LGBTQHistory

Finding My Peace on the Shores of Home: A Cleveland 4th of July When is home more than just a place you live? It kind of hit me last month that this year will be nine years of me living in Ohio. Nine years, for me, that is pretty monumental. The only other plac…

Finding My Peace on the Shores of Home

What has also become surprising is finding out how much I love living in Ohio

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#Ashtabula #ashtabulaliftbridge #photography #ohio #ohiohistory

Stung by Memory: How a Pollinator Garden Reconnected Me to a Vanishing World The biodiversity loss that we are starting to see is scary.

Stung By Memory

The biodiversity loss that we are starting to see is scary.

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#pollinatorgarden #biodiversity #biodiversityloss #beepopulation

Open Relationships Over 40: How to Navigate Non-Monogamy Because love doesn’t expire at 40—and neither should your options.

Open Relationships Over 40

Because love doesn’t expire at 40—and neither should your options.

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#GayNonMonogamyExplained #LGBTQDatingJourney #OpenRelationshipsOver40 #QueerLoveEvolved

Daily Rituals for the Queer Soul: 10-Minute Practices to Stay Grounded Life moves fast, but your spirit doesn’t have to. Discover easy, 10-minute daily rituals for queer people looking to stay grounded, connected, and spiritually charged.

Daily Rituals for the Queer Soul

From the day we are born we are subjected to a barrage of images that define how our bodies should look

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#queerdailyrituals #lgbtqSpiritualWellness #GroundedAndQueer #mindfulGayLife

Daily Rituals for the Queer Soul: 10-Minute Practices to Stay Grounded Life moves fast, but your spirit doesn’t have to. Discover easy, 10-minute daily rituals for queer people looking to stay grounded, connected, and spiritually charged.

Daily Rituals for the Queer Soul

From the day we are born we are subjected to a barrage of images that define how our bodies should look

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#queerdailyrituals #lgbtqSpiritualWellness #GroundedAndQueer #mindfulGayLife

The Mirror Isn’t the Enemy: Healing Gay Male Body Image After 40 Body image struggles don’t end with age. Learn how gay men over 40 can heal, reconnect, and reclaim confidence in their bodies with this affirming, empowering guide.

The Mirror Isn’t the Enemy

From the day we are born we are subjected to a barrage of images that define how our bodies should look

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#BodyImageHealing #GayMenOver40 #GayBodyImage #ReclaimYourReflection

Stonewall to Today: What Pride Still Means for Gay Men Over 40 From Stonewall to today, Pride remains a call to action. Discover what’s at risk in 2025 for LGBTQ+ rights, how far we’ve come, and what gay men over 40 can do to fight back.

Stonewall to Today: What Pride Still Means for Gay Men Over 40

We’ve come a long way since the Stonewall Riots. But we are not done.

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#stonewallhistory #lgbtqrights #activism #lgbtqactivism

Lost Ohio: The Ghost of Chippewa Lake Amusement Park this was an outing that Karl had planned for quite a while and it would be another chance to take my camera along for the ride.

Lost Ohio: The Ghost of Chippewa Lake Amusement Park

this was an outing that Karl had planned for quite a while and it would be another chance to take my camera along for the ride.

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#queerurbanphotography #urbanphotography #urbex #visualstorytelling

Reclaiming Summer Solstice: LGBTQ+ Reflections on Light, Shadow, and Self Discover how LGBTQ+ individuals are reclaiming the Summer Solstice as a moment of reflection, ritual, and queer spiritual power. Light and shadow both have meaning.

Reclaiming Summer Solstice

Reclaiming the Summer Solstice has become a ritual for me.

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#mindfulliving #selflovegaymen