If your only way to be accepted is to be understood than you will always be performing.
Real connection is when you’re not fully understood and still treated with respect and receive love.
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Don’t take this to be about more than anything beyond what I’m saying.
I don’t think any conflict anywhere justifies a sovereign state hiring children to attack religious buildings in countries far removed from said conflicts.
Pure antisemitism.
The point of Torah isn’t to make marginalised people easier for communities to tolerate.
It’s to transform the community.
Descendants of actual Nazis who enriched themselves and gleefully shoved people into cattle cars should stop calling Jews that they don’t like Nazis.
Sometimes when I’m out in public I suddenly go into myself and the whole world passes me by like a muted television.
They’re all totally separate from me. On a screen.
And I’m invisible to them.
I don’t exist.
And I’m not even visible to myself.
I lose all conception of self.
Autism.
My thoughts on this week’s Parasha were published by @disabilitytorah.bsky.social - hope you find them meaningful.
Shabbat shalom 💙
how do my autistic comrades connect with others?
ברוך דיין אמת
ברוך דיין אמת
Stop using the word Pharisee to mean evil FFS
A lot of autistic adults say we “don’t have boundaries”
What we mean is that our boundaries weren’t and continue not to be respected - and we don’t even know.
Cos we never knew what they really were.
do my fellow autistic comrades feel unheard?
unseen?
both?
Descendants of actual Nazis who enriched themselves and gleefully shoved people into cattle cars should stop calling Jews that they don’t like Nazis.
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The Jewish community has a lot to do when it comes to disability inclusion.
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All abled folx have a lot to work to do when it comes to ableism.
It doesn’t matter if you’re already “doing a good job.”
The job is never over.
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I’m quite used to being lectured on Judaism and Torah by Christians.
I didn’t expect it to happen at our community Seder, from a Catholic guest.
She asked me what providence meant to me and Jews generally.
I told her that the view varies, but that we look at it differently than Christianity.
A lot of autistic adults say we don’t feel joy.
Years of…
“That’s weird.”
“Why are you like that?”
“Can you not do that right now?”
So the feeling comes and instead of calling it joy, we question it - minimise it, or stop it.
To stay safe.
To be accepted.
To go unnoticed.
And we lose it.
Imagine if I were to go to someone’s Easter celebrations and lecture them about why the basic premise of Jesus being messiah were false because they don’t fit my own textual tradition.
I’d rightfully be denounced.
Because that would be a shmucky and intellectually lazy thing to do.
In my framework, the Divine isn’t a manager in the sky orchestrating outcomes.
So Auschwitz isn’t a failure of providence - but a human catastrophe.
Some strands say that all is in the hands of Heaven (even this is open to interpretation)
Others say that the world follows its natural course.
Both exist.
Neither cancels the other.
But Judaism doesn’t have one doctrine of providence.
Never did.
Even in the Talmud you get multiple, conflicting models held together.
A classical Jewish tension :)
In Catholic theology, providence means that the Divine governs history.
Events have purpose.
Nothing is outside Divine will or permission.
So Auschwitz becomes a theological crisis if you believe can “want” it.
Indeed, on the surface it was an interesting question! She wasn’t actually interested in the answer though, she knew whatever I would say is wrong.
The ironic thing is is that her own idea of providence (God controls everything) is totally not a mainstream Catholic view.
Can you believe it?