“If it takes less than five minutes do it immediately” is the best ADHD advice if you don’t care about anyone you live or work with

"I'm afraid I just won't resonate with anyone"- every writer client I've ever had

I know it's not exactly what you mean but YOU'RE RESONATING RIGHT NOW!

Even when I do not have room for new people I ALWAYS respond!!

I have just been alerted to the fact that some potential clients have not been getting ahold of me. Please pay attention to the spelling of Hanamichelsla@gmail.com and if I don’t respond within a few days please try again!! I am so sorry!

Orange cat paw (top) and human hand (bottom) holding each other

Here’s your reminder to enjoy the moment, stop and smell the- OH DEAR GOD ROO DID YOU BATHE IN LITTER??

Most people are extremely hard on themselves except the few who actually need to be.

Someone's version of "god" might be my "that feeling when I realize I'm such a tiny part of this universe and it's comforting, plus I'm in awe at the universe itself"

Also, none of these meds work as well as a society that accommodates our brains would work. That’s just not possible right now, and feeling angry or sad over late diagnosis or being considered lazy when you’re not is very valid.

Disclaimer: I am not a psychiatrist. I am just someone who has experienced literally all of these things and so have many friends and clients. I’ve also done a lot of research because sometimes when you’re on a lot of meds doctors forget possible interactions.

If you don’t want a stimulant or won’t be prescribed one you can try something like guanfacine or if you have depression, cymbalta. Or you can do like a half stimulant like Strattera or if you have depression, Wellbutrin.

Citrus on the other hand can mess with the meds, all citrus not just grapefruit. Good thing ADHD meds wear off at the end of the day or we would all be at risk of scurvy. I find it’s not a big deal in my body, but it can do several things to mess with your dosage, so be careful!!

There are a lot of things they don’t tell you when you first go on ADHD meds. One is whatever you’re doing when it kicks in is what you’re gonna be focusing on if you’re not careful! Also, protein within an hour of taking the pill may increase efficacy, depends on the person.

Besides, unless we're talking about specific cultural experiences I should learn about anyway, most people are using different language and mythos to explain the same feelings/ unobservable phenomena.

Hey I don't know any more than any other person. Do I think organized religions are unlikely to be accurate? Yeah. Do I know what IS accurate beyond the realm of science/observability? Fuck no, no one does. So I might as well respect all of it because we're all equally ignorant.

Besides, if you're going through a hard time I AM thinking of you. Just facts.

If I have a client going through a tough time I'll pray for them or send positive energy (whatever's relevant to their beliefs or if I'm unsure, just "I'm thinking of you.") It probably doesn't help bc you know who would be dead by now- but it couldn't hurt, especially if they know I'm doing it.

I’ve managed to avoid the “facts don’t care about your feelings” crowd, however I’ve come to realize the opposite is true. Feelings don’t care about facts. (At least not right away & without copious repetition of said facts.) Feelings take a bit to catch up to the truth & we have to help them along

I said a smart!

Also, if you're looking for coaching then hana rocks.

When characters have developed enough to take on a life of their own, they can veer the story off into different directions than you intended just like D&D players

I had a client recommend being a DM for tabletop RPGs for writers writing stories & novels especially fantasy/genre stuff. Being a DM allows you to let the story lead YOU and prepare for it to veer in unseen directions. I thought this was such a brilliant idea.

Oh my god the thing in parenthesis rhymed I didn't have to embarrass myself at all

I just told a client "looking like a douche keeps the migraine from getting loose" (i.e. remember to wear sunglasses indoors bc that helped before) because nothing taps into people's memories like pure cringe (Maaaaybe smell.)

No Manual for This Reflecting on parenting, mental health, and the stories we carry from childhood.

Last time I'm directing you to substack bc it was to promote my dad, not me. substack.com/home/post/p-...

“ Every single AFAB person wants a penis, and by that I mean the cis women” AHHH, SO CLOSE!

“ Poop is just as important in everyone else’s life as it is for me, Freud, I do a lot of cocaine by the way”

Like even when he’s right “ the first adults we have close relationships with heavily inform our relationships going forward” he’s wrong “ this leads to an Oedipal or Electra complex, it’s not just that my mom was inappropriately younger than my dad hi I’m Freud!”

My therapist parents used to say “at least we’re not Freudians!” Whenever I groaned at them for being super shrinky. The more I learn about Freud (both the man and school of thought,) the more I have to agree.

I love co-creating multifaceted job exit strategies that don’t even have to include a complete exit. And tech seems ripe for a mass exodus.

The higher ups do not understand how ____employee’s job is done, yet have “ideas” on how to make it go smoother & be efficient. Said “Innovations” however, are basically either gibberish or actively impeding the employee’s work. Upward mobility has been halted and wages stagnate, so 0 motivation.

Almost everyone I talk to in tech has the same frustration: the employee, an expert in ____ is being ignored along with their colleagues by the CEO, who is not an expert in ____ by any means. Meanwhile an atmosphere of fear keeps everyone silent. Layoffs can happen anywhere, anytime.