I know that it does more harm than good to contradict the perspective or ideas of somebody in memory care. For my part, I do my best to go along with whatever my dad says and not cause him additional stress
Instead, I just hold that stress myself.
The cast of Kong: Skull Island is just batshit.
AND I QUOTE
“The elderly have been known to choke on them!”
Again, my geriatric self was 31 years old at that time. I stared her down without blinking until she backpedaled.
I saw her at a concert a couple weekends ago. She’s 30 now. I wonder if she choked on any chia seeds lately.
and I have the type of personality that requires me to trudge up each hill and explain why it’s dumb to die there.
Well, one time we were discussing preferred breakfasts and I mentioned my homemade yogurt with chia seeds.
She became quite concerned and asked if I was sure to hydrate them because:
When I was 31, I moved from academia to the corporate world. I was the oldest on my team and the youngest was a girl fresh out of college. We all got along really well but eventually, I found myself casually at odds with the youngest teammate. She had a lot of hills to die on…
Pizza topping idea: The “Well, I Like Cheese.”
Cheese pizza with a hint of pepperoni oil. IYKYK
Dressing for a 90s party in the twilight of my 30s means wearing compression socks with my doc martens
Hot Take
Tapping a WhatsApp notification for a spam call should NEVER call that spammer back. It should just open the app to View the call in order to block and report.
It’s hard to fill a little girl’s shoes 😭
Making my first loaves out of Flour Water Salt Yeast. The pizza chapter features some questionable choices
And so presumptuous
“Secure your own mask,” I whisper to myself as I make coffee before prepping the dogs’ breakfasts
We watched Die Hard for the first time this Christmas. Also thrilling!
Shoresy is a perfect show
Rewatching The Wonder Years as an adult and there’s a LOT to take in. The poignancy of the time period and Vietnam. The actors who got their start through this series. But mostly, how Kevin Arnold is the blueprint for every asshole main character we continue to see. He’s the primordial Ted Mosby
It’s tough to get the blues to show up properly. But judging by the swatch, this is going to be an awesome blanket
An outstretched hand holds two stacked yarn cakes in a muted sage color, subtly dappled with yellows and pinks. The bottom yarn is a sturdy fingering weight sock yarn. The top is a soft and fuzzy mohair.
New Knitting Project Day
It’s true. How would people know it’s time to leave if we weren’t there being the last ones to leave?
~ Akamai killed my API calls ~
(Sung to the tune of Video Killed the Radio Star)
#developerproblems
I got a new phone and it’s taken me weeks to get back here. I feel so old
Today, during the twice weekly phone call, he reminded me that the phone works both ways and they'd love to hear from me more. I'm so fucking tired.
And the truth is, I'm looking forward to this all being over but unfortunately, assholes live forever.
She has two adult daughters whose children are out of or in college and actually live in the same state. It was such an unreasonable request that I nearly laughed in her face.
This woman would rather I put my life on hold to deal with her husband than ask her two kind and helpful daughters.
I elder-proofed their house in two days as best I could and to their credit, my stepsisters awakened like elder care sleeper agents the minute I said Go. They see the problems and are doing the work.
Then my stepmom asked if I could be of more help going forward. Again, I live across the country.
he instead relied on his trademark hostility and belligerence to shout down his in-laws.
So I had to do it. I had to step up against my original bully and be the bigger asshole.
But I got the job done. He was professionally evaluated by a third party. They took the keys and revoked his license.
A year ago, I experienced an emotionally devastating visit during which I had to organize a family intervention to take his keys away because he's 81 years old fall risk with PARKINSON'S AND DEMENTIA, he was still driving. Because he's an asshole and refused to hear a word against his abilities...
I broke my leg last month and now he calls 2x/week to check-in.
Every time I have to say:
No, I will not be getting a lawyer to sue myself.
No, I can't visit right now but we'll see how things go after PT.
Yes, I do think it's a good idea he and his wife move into an assisted living facility.
I've had a difficult relationship with my dad for 2 decades. I do not like the man. He moved across the country when I was 10 and made it my responsibility to maintain the relationship. I had to be the one to visit him and any problems we have are my fault.
Now he has Parkinson's-induced dementia🧵
A pair of legs in a twin bed in a living room holds an iPad with a knitting chart, a wooden bowl with a ball of variegated yellow cotton yarn, and the makings of a small blanket on knitting needles. A black and brindle dog with a greying face and a white and tabby cat are similarly curled into balls and leaning against the legs. The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey is on TV in the background and a pair of crutches leans against a door
All this said, I have had two unwavering companions throughout this entire ordeal. For the most part, that cat can fuck off but Angus, my baby boy, has stayed with me, asking for very little beyond constant physical contact.
At this time 4 weeks ago, my husband and I were in the ER.
Also Truth: The grief for what I've lost is potent today and I'm struggling. I was on such an upswing before the injury and the very thought of clawing my way back from this abrupt deficit is exhausting.
