"Abuser red flags to look for! They insult, demean, and/or shame you (especially in front of others), they pressure you into sex or sexual acts that you're not comfortable with, they damage or destroy your property or home when upset, pressure you into using inebriating substances, they discourage or ultimately prevent you from spending time with others; from coaches, to friends, to family, they have extreme double standards on how they're to be treated VS how they trat you, and they don't take responsibility for their actions, and instead blame others (like saying "you made me do X"). These are not the end all-be all flags, but they're some of the most telling and earliest to show in my experience. There is no instance in which a partner should be making you feel bad, or echoing any negative self talk you may have about yourself. Abuse isn't always physical or sexual, and it doesn't always start intensely. it can be slow and insidious. Please check out for more information: loveisrespect.org new-hope.org and TheHotline.org
I posted this a long time ago, but I think it's important to remind people of some helpful tips to spot abuse!
Remember, if you wouldn't let a friend be treated in a certain way, you shouldn't let yourself be treated that way either, no matter by who