I’m there with you. Was just thinking earlier about the level of pressure to come across ‘good’, kind people, particularly as parents to a young kid, for me and my also-trans partner. No wonder there’s fewer spoons for voluntary self-improvement.
But yes, we’ll get through this 💜
Even so, even trying my best it’s felt like getting almost nowhere most of the time. Which brings me neatly back round to the original post!
All this to say, in part, that I understand and acknowledge all you’ve shared. I’m gonna keep working at this as I’m able to, and learning as I go 💜
I somehow got it, without getting it 😅 But then my brain can struggle with making these logical connections.
I’m not on Reddit but have been thinking more about it lately. I’m also aware that as an individual I’m not as well connected as I could be with 5yrs of being out under my belt.
Then came the struggle of being an out trans primary carer of a young kid in school. Plus previously existing anxiety and depression, with AuDHD and trauma, unaware of latter three till recent years.
So yeah, all of that before even trying to build community, while disabled and chronically ill.
I understand a good deal of this through experience, but apparently just didn’t make the connections until reading this.
I got pregnant in my mid-20s and had a tough time with post natal depression, social isolation and anxiety from parenting pre-knowing I’m trans.
This is something I’ve felt and noticed too.
Also that, for some reason, within transmasc community we seem under-networked. Like it’s harder for us to find and connect with our fellow transmascs.
If anyone else agrees or there’s any investigation into it, I’d be very interested.
Glad we’re having a discussion around this and how we all do not experience this/experience this differently.
I’ve experienced more gender violence than male privilege since going on hormones!! I don’t pass as cis male and I don’t want to.
"There are better ways to talk about patriarchy." --- Starting with acknowledging that patriarchy doesn't = men. I'm not going to apologize for transitioning & identifying as a man. Nor am I going to tell you I immediately got respect once I was passing. Women in positions of power ⬇️1️⃣
It is very appalling and sometimes quite frightening to see how trans-exclusionary feminists have allied with rightwing attacks on gender. The anti-gender ideology movement is not opposing a specific account of gender, but seeking to eradicate "gender" as a concept or discourse, a field of study, an approach to social power. Sometimes they claim that "sex" alone has scientific standing, but other times they appeal to divine mandates for masculine domination and difference. They don't seem to mind contradicting themselves. The Terfs (trans exclusionary radical feminists) and the so-called gender critical writers have also rejected the important work in feminist philosophy of science showing how culture and nature interact (such as Karen Barad, Donna Haraway, EM Hammonds or Anne Fausto-Sterling) in favor of a regressive and spurious form of biological essentialism. So they will not be part of the coalition that seeks to fight the anti-gender movement. The anti-gender ideology is one of the dominant strains of fascism in our times. So the Terfs will not be part of the contemporary struggle against fascism, one that requires a coalition guided by struggles against racism, nationalism, xenophobia and carceral violence, one that is mindful of the high rates of femicide throughout the world, which include high rates of attacks on trans and genderqueer people. The anti-gender movement circulates a spectre of "gender" as a force of destruction, but they never actually read any works in gender studies. Quick and fearful conclusions take the place of considered judgments. Yes, some work on gender is difficult and not everyone can read it, so we have to do better in reaching a broader public. As important as it is, however, to make complex concepts available to a popular audience, it is equally important to encourage intellectual inquiry as part of public life. Unfortunately, we are living in anti-intellectual times, and neo-fascism is becoming more normalized.
The section that the Guardian censored…
By Prof Judith Butler
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I feel seen by this quote 😌
"In particular, Black transmascs can’t gain privilege on the same trajectory, as they’re typically excluded from misogyny’s framing of women – especially white women – as vulnerable and non-threatening."
I’m happy I could write this in a way that made you feel seen. Thanks for sharing this, and for the extra perspective you’ve added. I appreciate both 💜
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Sama’a and three year old Julia standing in front of their home, totally collapsed from the bombs. Julia is in the front, facing left, holding onto a large gray fallen pole of some sort, wearing a pink puffy coat, denim pants and blue sneakers. Sama’a is wearing an oversized white shirt with Mickey Mouse on the front, with a black hooded shirt underneath that is pulled over her head, a black open zip up jacket, and jeans. She is looking into the camera with a meek smile and has her right hand in a peace sign, and holding hands with Julia, who is looking down but toward her mother. She wearing a pink puffy coat, denim pants and blue sneakers
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Learning who I am, and learning to love that person.
Having a beautiful partner to support me, and share the weight of feeling isolated from trans+ community where we live.
Knowing the divinity of being trans and nonbinary, and the power and purpose in simply living in these times.
Trans people, I have a question, if anyone wants to answer. What's keeping your hope alive, lately? Share anything positive, I'd like to hear.
Really excellent piece by @willofwands.bsky.social in this week's QueerAF newsletter. I'd also encourage transmasc people, if they have the spoons for it and are in a reasonably safe situation, to use their privilege, speak up & be visible for those who can't.
Blessed TDOV to all in my trans+ community. If you’d like to read a little something about transmasculine visibility in history (and ancient mythology) check the thread.
Still very proud to have this out and encompassing so many things/periods I love in our history!
An art bundle comprising: Cover artwork of Trans in the Machine: Chronicling the New Cyberpunk Canon by Lyss Menold A black and white textile patch with the text 'Trans+ Cyber Punk' from Chaos Creations A stick with text in the trans colours reading 'Putting the Punk Back in Cyberpunk' by Clowder A black print covered in trans coloured binary code and the text 'Trans+ Cyberpunk Manifesto' by Stefanie Carter Cuthbert and William Elisabeth Cuthbert A bookmark featuring cover art from Lyss Menold
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Featuring stickers from @sarah-clowder.bsky.social, textile patches from Chaos Creations, cover print & bookmark from @lyssmenold.bsky.social.
Plus, a Trans+ cyberpunk manifesto from me and @willofwands.bsky.social
I really hope my Westminster petition gets approved, we need to fight this. 🏴Parliament rejected saying not their remit (I’m a teacher, the government can and do tell schools what to do!) but also said try again after the election. I mean… which one is it?
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Ghey's mum in the media again.
Is she talking about transphobia? Course not.
She's blaming the murder on Brianna being "addicted" to social media.
Forgetting to mention she was at the park meeting kids from school because her mum wanted her offline 🤷🏼♀️
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I was at the hospital all night because of my kids heart issues.