For a healthy D/S relationship, the sub is the one being served by the Dom. Sadism is a privilege bestowed upon a Dom by a sub and the Dom exists for the sub's enjoyment (including when a sub's kink is being used etc., that's still the kink being done for the sub!)

Without subs there are no doms!

So many people see subbing as a service given to a dom that's pushing for more but that just leads to unhealthy dynamics and dangerous outcomes

I've talked to my kinky friends about this A LOT but there's such a misunderstanding of the D/S relationship by people new to kink

3 was a success, I got too scared to try 5 as I am still worried about fucking up my insides again, so next week will be 5!!

1 more week until I can get laid again (not that I have any plans to jump back on the horse straight away) and 1 more week until I can start anal training fully!

I'm trying 3 and maybe 5 inches today, the first stop on hopefully the road to 8 inches!

Started back on throat training after 3 weeks off, 5 inches is still solid with no gag reflex, 6 is a little saggy but manageable and will hopefully be gone by next week 😤

I'm only going to be doing throat training once a week now as I don't see the need for every day training

oh to be having freaky kinky werewolf sex rn

the masturbators / oral helpers / squishy things (that reduce a dick by 2 inches while still providing fun stimulation) arrived this morning

I realised that one of them, when squished in my hand, can fit me

long story short I made myself cum so hard I triggered a Meniere's episode lol

it's definitely that it's too wide, my 6 inch is a bit wide too and that can't fit any further than 4 inches either 🫠 I guess I must just have a narrow throat

the 8 inch either doesn't have enough flexibility or is too wide so it can't go down my throat more than 4 inches 😭

going to have to try my 6 inch knotted one as a back up to maintain my training without damaging my cool prosthetic dick any further 😅

Throat training update:

I've been using my hyper-realistic 6 inch dick that I can fuck others with (and feel the sensations of it!!) to practice but I've realised it's starting to wear off some of the pain, which sucks, so I guess I'll have to swap to my 8 inch one after all 🤷‍♂️

"grinding between the twink towers"

"that's the dream"

strong belief (/hj) that every polyamorous relationship with 3 people should either have 1 short, 1 medium, and 1 tall person or everyone should be the exact same height

more average dick representation in the media!!!!!!!!!

also on this note, I have purchased things specifically to reduce a big dick by 2 inches, so I can get railed by the very few big dick owners I permit to, without pain / damage for me and so they still get the fun sensations

On my soapbox once again of

I prefer 4-6 inch dicks!!

The optimal experience for me is 5 inches!!!

I do not want a monster dong near my holes

I want an average one!!!!!!!

Average one (for me) = WAYYYY above average experience

Throat training update:

No longer gagging on 6 inches!

However, honestly, I'm now debating if I want to push for 8, as I know if I can do 6 without gagging then I can take 7, and if anyone is bigger than that, realistically they're too big for me

Throat training update:

Still gagging on 6 inches but not as much, and my final round of today's session I held 6 inches in for over 10 seconds with no gagging at all!

Progress is slowly but surely being made 😏

I habe no doubt I'll be able to manage 8 inches by mid April ez

a square, divided into 4 parts. At the top it says "limits other", at the bottom it says "doesn't limit other". To the right it says "interested in one", to the left it says "interested in many". The top right part of the square is labelled "#tradlife". The bottom right part of the square is labelled "practical progressive". The top left part of the square is labelled "biblical patriarch". The bottom left part of the square is labelled "polycule slutcloud". There is a red dot almost entirely in the bottom left corner of the square, indicating that Kinkzel is a polycule slutcloud.

finally got round to taking this nonmonogamy compass quiz, I feel like it's very reductive of the variety in polyamorous relationship styles and the questions were difficult to understand however:

Throat training day 6 update:

Managed not only 5 inches but 6 inches too today!

Now that my gag reflex isn't really activated for less than 5, the goal is to pause on 6 until my gag reflex no longer activates there.

And then onto bigger things 👀

it's like I got a cruel reminder of just how beautiful sex with people I connect with can be, only for it to be taken away from me again 😭

going from

1.5 years no sex

to

2 AMAZING sessions breaking that dry spell

to

medical emergency which means I now cannot get railed for 8 weeks minimum (of which I still have 7 weeks left)

sucks absolute ass

Throat training day 5 update:

Have managed to get from 3 comfortable inches to 4.8, hopefully to get to 5 by the end of the week!

My goal is a comfortable 8 inches, I don't need anything more than that realistically but that 8 is going to be hard won I can feel it