(It's paywalled, but, pro tip: open a private window, drop the link into it, and as soon as it loads, like quick-quick before the wall goes up, hit Ctrl + A and then Ctrl + C. Then paste that into a document and read at your leisure. It's not convenient but it works. How very apropos.)
This, but also, "inventing inconvenience in order to bolster my desire to feel alive" is such a great notion. So much of what makes us feel our own humanity would not be described as convenient. Convenience isn't always a good or desirable thing. (It's a good read.) ...
Starting point: 6,679
After tonight's clearing-out work: 4,241
I will get to inbox zero! I will!
Right? And not just April in general. All within three hours this afternoon. I'm so tired. :/
This, yes. And also: food may be essential, shelter, and so on. But without some allotment for pleasure and beauty, that can all become pretty meaningless pretty fast. Humans are not built to simply survive. Pleasure is not just a luxury for the rich, it's part of the fabric of human life.
It's so sunny and bright! No wait, it's a snowstorm, WTF? Oh, OK, all done, now it's just cloudy. And the sun is out! So nice. Hang on, rain? Ugh. OK, clear, that's better. Fucking snow again??! Rain? Snow? Some sort of unholy sludge? Ah, the sky is clearing...
Lunar Abundance: Cultivating Joy, Peace and Purpose Using the Phases of the Moon by Ezzie Spencer
The good thing is that a multichrome is already doing so much all by itself, you don't need to do nail art to make it fun. The bad thing is that very same fact. But definitely handy when you're in "too tired to get fancy but want the tiny dopamine hit of glancing at my nails all week" mode.
#manicure #extremityfetish
It's a blue! It's a green! It's a gold! It's... a multichrome shimmer polish, my favourite kind of formula because it changes colour depending on the light. This one's called Wanderlust, by Holo Taco.
17/ We do not need misinformation here. It does not serve any kind of progressive agenda, nor does it help survivors.
The facts are powerful enough on their own.
16/ And that justice, whatever it may look like, in NO way requires that we spread untruths. Or chastise people who point out that the "62 million rape academy attendees" notion is wrong. Wanting accuracy and facts is in NO way the same thing as being a rape apologist.
15/ None of this makes it okay to drug and rape your partner and post about it online. Those are horrors that should not happen, not even once, not ever. The men who did it should be tracked down and exposed, and the women they victimized should be offered support and justice.
14/ I am in no way going to support the spread of false figures that give any of these lumbering fuckwits any ammo to help them further marginalize any of us. I am also disappointed in CNN for publishing an article that included sloppy writing about very alarming figures on a super painful topic.
13/ The people who’d like to ban all porn, who also want to ban sex work and toss sex workers in jail or seize their bank accounts and curtail the entire internet's freedom, who are the same people who hate queers and trans people and want to eliminate abortion and keep women barefoot and pregnant.
12/ And when we start putting all those people into the same bucket as people who drug and rape their wives and post how-tos about it on a group chat, we are carrying water for some very, very bad actors.
11/ Countless everyday people *gasp* like to watch sex videos, as humans beings have done consensually since the moving image was invented. Those people—let’s be real—probably include YOU, and certainly include me and most people in my queer, kink and otherwise sex-positive communities.
10/ The elected officials spouting made-up shit about marginalized groups to justify taking away their human rights? Then facts have to matter. They have to.
The facts here also matter because A LOT of people who are NOT rapists visit porn sites or otherwise consume or produce erotic content.
9/ And. Telling the truth fucking matters. When we lose that, we have lost our way.
Do we want to push back against the conspiracy theorists who hold way too much cultural and social power right now? The misinformation spreaders, the bots on their Russian bot farms?
8/ It is horrifying that men made 20,000 videos of themselves checking their girlfriends’ eyes to make sure they’re really knocked out before raping them. It’s horrifying that anyone, ever, wanted to watch these videos, let alone hundreds of thousands of views.
7/ And yes, all this fucking matters. It matters A LOT because the difference in numbers is A LOT.
It is still horrifying that a thousand men were coaching each other on how to better rape their wives unawares.
6/ The CNN investigation also looked at a now-defunct Telegram group chat with 1,000 men, which someone on the porn site linked to, and *that chat* is where men were giving each other how-to advice and which is being referred to as a "rape academy." www.snopes.com/fact-check/c...
5/ which represents a tiny fraction of a much larger porn website, the vast majority of which is regular old porn along predictable lines (100 categories of it, to be precise). And that much larger site is what attracted those 62 million views we keep hearing about (more, depending on the month).
4/ It’s not about 62 million men drugging their wives and girlfriends and teaching each other how. It just is not. Not by a very, very long shot. According to the article, it is “more than 20,000 videos of so-called ‘sleep’ content uploaded by users, with hundreds of thousands of views,” ...
3/ Drug-facilitated sexual assault (DFSA) is horrific and anyone who commits it is monstrous. Are we clear? Good.
Now. That CNN article? This one here? edition.cnn.com/interactive/...
2/ Whether that’s Pelicot and the 70 execrable men he recruited to rape his wife hundreds of times over the course of their marriage or Cosby drugging dozens of young women in hotel suites or any rando bringing roofies to a bar and seeking uncovered drinks.
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CN for the following thread: SA, DFSA
I’m going to start here by making it very, very clear where I stand: Drugging a person to commit non-consensual sexual acts upon them is one of the most vile and loathsome things a human can do, and it happens far, far too often.
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this is fucking nuts:
"Oops, I didn't mean to make fun of missing and murdered Indigenous women, I actually just meant to mock queer and trans people!" Ah, OK, carry on then 🫠
I hear Ford has come up with a new way to piss us all off...
There will come a time, in the not-too-distant future, when people like this will slink back under the slimy rocks they came out from. In the meantime, they're letting it all hang out and it's really gross to see. Especially women working against their own rights and well-being. So backwards.