Ugh, the second puberty thing is so real. The bummer is the unsexy work of growing up afterwards. "Congratulations, you have done your field research! Now go home and read several books and talk to people who regulate your nervous system. Also go to therapy and keep taking your meds. Good luck!"
I had a close friendship fall apart last year. They said they had a gender crisis so I gave them an ear and let them crash on my couch in Chicago. Turned out they were using me as a cover to cheat. They blamed me for "living the life they couldn't have." I hope they figure it out, far away from me.
Yeah, it makes sense to me to view openness as an act of empathy and trying to pay back the help we all get coming out. But goddamn, kids, we gotta keep some shit for ourselves. Sometimes you gotta let your friend sleep in the bed they made. Sometimes you gotta block them and wish them the best!
This is all good advice. It is fuckin' hard to be trans! We are all hurting in so many ways, trying to survive a society that wants us to disappear. Being loving and kind and also prorecting your peace from people who need to heal more by having rock-solid boundaries is hard as hell. But you gotta!
"don't fuck with people who use you as props for their public performance of Being a Trans Person" hits hard
It is a lesson i have learned the hard way far too many times, and if i can stop one other newbie from getting sucked into a parasocial nightmare it will have been worth it!
My unkind advice for trans creatives: don't mistake an audience for friends, don't seek validation anywhere but yourself, and don't fuck with people who use you as props for their public performance of Being a Trans Person. Cultivate real community, make art you like, and make peace with being poor.
This thread from Haus of Decline gutted me. I never had as big an audience, but the pressure to be a brand as a creative trans person is real. It poisons our relationships with each other and makes everything hollow. I know I'm missing out on an audience by not doing it anymore. I don't care.
"the pirates that don't do anything" are simply reacting to clinical depression
the only solution here is for lilli to keep buying shoes for me- i mean, for lilli, only for lilli and never stolen by harm!
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![The Third Sex - Love in the Basement [USA, Punk / Queercore] (1996)](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:wv2gr2o7ax7r3ns5yjcyckgm/bafkreifxzckriukmx6qaf62vswpek55vdspo6vdhsp6rbjviapo4sdczci)
The Third Sex - Love in the Basement [USA, Punk / Queercore] (1996)
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https://youtu.be/RH21vsrDE-A
Just heard a DJ on @chirpradio.org transition Wynona's Big Brown Beaver into This Corrosion, and i have never been prouder to be a donor
you made it, bitch ♥️
Holy shit, thank you for posting this!!!
![Black woman on her elbows with her wrists tied with white rope. Text: [To deny our fantasies because they are too complicated, too painful, or too perverse, to erase their presence or censor their articulation in public life, constitutes a particular kind of insidious violence that threatens to undermine our ability to explore the contours of our psychic lives, and the imaginary possibilities of the social worlds in which we exist.]](https://cdn.bsky.app/img/feed_thumbnail/plain/did:plc:iyfco36opjofallgh4axztsd/bafkreihwuavjvc557gtnjwmcqtcy5puedr2e2asmspsy7b6m2xiz5ssske)
Black woman on her elbows with her wrists tied with white rope. Text: [To deny our fantasies because they are too complicated, too painful, or too perverse, to erase their presence or censor their articulation in public life, constitutes a particular kind of insidious violence that threatens to undermine our ability to explore the contours of our psychic lives, and the imaginary possibilities of the social worlds in which we exist.]
Quote from by Queer Sociality and Other Sexual Fantasies by Juana María Rodríguez (In GLQ Vol 17 No 2-3, 2011). Photo from Tied Vol 1 No 1 (1997).
Gene Siskel pans his TV colleague's latest screenwriting effort in the August 28, 1979 issue of the Tribune
When I get there she's got incense, wine and candles,
it's such a freaky scene (Rick 7:14)
You know what, I'm not afraid to say it: Adam and the Ants were pretty good.
new tom waits new massive attack
jesus fuck
Members of congress could not last one day at any job with customers.
“People are being rude to me on the telephone” oh my god
Man, i dont want to hear the Rolling Stones on an indie radio station unless one of them just dropped dead
I guess Pavement is like the Beatles in that they are a mid band with a couple good singles and i haven't listened to them since middle school
Season of the witch
illustrator, photoshop
World Snooker Champion Bill Werbniuk for Embassy Fashion Caskets on Route 9
If it’s good enough for Big Bill, it’s good enough for me.
this might be my favorite reading of this piece tbh
Making a committee isn't nothing, but it isn't meeting the moment either. He is not powerless. He could be speaking out, publicly shaming folks, finding resources to help. He has one of the most powerful bully pulpits in politics. He is not using it to support us. It's ok to be disappointed. 🤷♂️
Nuance isn't fun, but i think everyone is probably right re: Mamdani and trans folks. He is doing stuff AND he is not doing enough. He is picking and choosing his battles because he's an elected official and that is what they do. If you want radical solutions, stop relying on electoral politics.
