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Nothing kills desire faster than pressure, whether from your partner or from inside you. In this video, I share an idea about how to address this dynamic in therapy. #TherapistSky
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Do you use my Will Lily assessment? If you haven’t tried it yet, what blocks do you have? What would help you get over the hump? #TherapySky
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What do you do if a client says "I don't know" during a session? How do you respond and keep making progress? Watch the video for my response. #TherapistSky
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"Healing body image is often a part of my work as a sex therapist and a couples therapist... If you don’t love your body, it will be hard to be comfortable being naked in front of another person, or being touched in certain places, or being in certain positions." -Martha Kauppi
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How much do your clients know about consent? My webinar “Consent: Getting Beyond Yes Means Yes” is all about good communication about sex, and how to help your clients get there. #TherapySky
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A white sign with black capital letters that say "we should not have to defend democracy from the president"
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Here are some of our favorite signs from the No Kings protest here in Madison on Saturday! #NoKings #Democracy #Protest
What do you do when one of your clients is really mad about the situation? Do you push them, or do you push their partner? Watch the video for more! #TherapistSky
Last week, in our podcast, we explored the thorny issue of when clients want to be friends (or more) with their therapist. This is just one of the many fascinating topics we are covering. Tune in at the link below for more! #TherapistSky
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We can change a belief system but we can't change what our partner wants or does. #TherapistSky
Desire discrepancy is common in relationships, but so often people feel broken for wanting "too much" or "too little" sex. What is the "right" amount of sex to want? Spoiler alert: there is none. Read more in my article at the link below. #TherapySky
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Therapeutic opportunities present themselves as opportunities to change what we are doing. That is the only way we can change what is happening, right? And that presents an opportunity in therapy to do some experiments. #TherapySky
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If you could change one thing about therapist continuing education, what would it be?
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"So what does it actually mean to be a parent? You don't have to do everything your kids want you to do, by any means. However, it's good not to do things that are gonna completely upset the apple cart and unsettle your kids when it's easily predictable that it will." #TherapySky
In our most recent episode of our new podcast, Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and I explore pleasure. From physiology to psychology, we dive deep on this topic. We also discuss common blocks people experience. Find more at the link below! #TherapySky www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/untangling-i...
What do you do when you have a couple as clients, but in an individual session, one person tells you something huge that they want to keep secret from their partner? #TherapistSky
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"My role literally is: change the status quo." A lot of therapy is about changing patterns in the lives of our clients; this can force us as therapists to be the destabilizing agent for them and we have to take leadership of that. #TherapySky
"What's he doing inside of himself that diminishes his desire? He thinks a bunch of negative thoughts about himself. So I would say when you think those thoughts about yourself, what happens to your desire? So I'm asking questions that are in and of themselves at therapeutic intervention as well."
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If you could change one thing about the culture of therapy, what would it be? #TherapySky
How do you help a client address a potential conversation that feels impossible? I use a technique called chair work, and I describe it in this video.
Do you want to learn *THE* intervention for healthy, happy sex over a lifetime? My webinar “Great Sex For Life: Introducing An Improvisational Sexual Style” is all about the underlying skills that support lifelong intimacy. #TherapySky
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What do you do about confidentiality between partners in couples therapy? What happens if one partner lies to you so they can keep something from the other partner? We have to face these issues as relationship therapists. #TherapistSky
Sign up now for my comprehensive sex issues training: Assessing and Treating Sex Issues in Psychotherapy! Discover strategies for addressing issues like desire discrepancy, sex pain, pressure for sex, and more. #TherapistSky
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I'm hosting a podcast with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith. We've got four episodes out now! In them, we discuss topics like broaching sex issues in therapy spaces and consent. Subscribe at the link below so you never miss an episode! #TherapistSky www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/untangling-i...
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Question for you, our readers: When you started working as a therapist, what surprised you the most? #TherapistSky
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In my webinar “Let's Talk Sex: Treating Low Desire In and Out of Bed,” you’ll learn what factors predictably dampen desire, and what you can do about it. Get the training here. #TherapistSky
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Sometimes clients have low confidence, so I suggest they make a small experiment. We don't know what the outcome will be, but like any good scientific experiment, we will have more information after it's done.
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