Oh, maybe you're thinking about the book I was recently reading by Sabrina Strings titled "The End of Love"
I used the hashtage #TheEndOfLove or #EndOfLove
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I know I've been talking about it a lot, but the way #TheEndOfLove puts this in its place. ..
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Yeah. . .
So, I was saying about #TheEndOfLove. . . lol
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Sabrina Strings actually wrote about this phenomenon in #TheEndOfLove.
Once enslaved Africans were emancipated, Black women were relegated to sex work, with white men and Black men working to keep us in a position where they wanted us — easy access to our bodies
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out of the hierarchy so that our romantic relationships can be more than power plays for dominance.
That's the reason romantic relationships are on a pedestal anyway. . . the fucking hierarchy.
At the root, hierarchies are the problem.
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I don't think "focus on building community" and ignoring romantic urges (I use this word as the opposite to "platonic", not in the same sense as woo-ing) and the desire to be sexually intimate with specific partners is going to get us where we need to go.
We need to find our way. . .
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My other critique about the book is that it punks out at the end.
In the end, Sabrina basically calls for us (mainly women) to ignore any aspirations for eros in favor of building community and platonic relationships.
I agree that romantic relationships need to be dethroned, but
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Lemonade (the album) isn't even a story!
There's no narrative from song, to song.
She just WILLS it so with video.
I don't even listen beyond tracks 3 and 4 because. . . what do you mean you found out he was cheating and the most you do is give him a warning?
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Lemonade is not Black women's collective wounding.
It's the story of a woman (a RICH woman) who found out her rich-ass husband cheated on her, and the steps she went through to take his trash-ass back.
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Okay, Sabrina loses me with the Beyoncé portion of this work.
I actually find Beyoncé's framing (her being cheated on as analogous to Black women being "the most disrespected person in America") in Lemonade distasteful.
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Yoooooo. . .
Cishet men ARE IN A SEX CULT!
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Non-consensual phone sex is an entire genre of PORN?!
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Bruh.
Now we have to deal with men jerking off while they're on the phone with us, non-consensually!
My fucking gawd.
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Men are so fucking trash, omg!
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Bruh. . . this conversation in chapter 7!!!
WTF!
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Once men created a hierarchy for women (to determine which women were worthy of courtship), it required validation from other men. . .
to the point that the object of their affection is no longer the women they woo, but the men who praise them for wooing said women.
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Okay. . . on the last chapter of #TheEndOfLove
Throughout the book, Sabrina demonstrates how men have their attraction to women dictated to them by other men. Which women they should desire and marry is decided for them by other men.
In this last chapter, Sabrina brings it home. . .
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Okay, last chapter #TheEndOfLove
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(As much as people love JC Chasez, he tried to do this too. He just didn't pull it off.
Neither his "Timbs, his baggy jeans, nor his thug appeal were enough."😂)
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It's so analogous, I'm surprised Sabrina didn't bring Justin up in her book.
Upon launching his solo career, Justin Timberlake made a point of being "into" black women.
He got his hits.
He got his fame.
He married the most vanilla white woman you can think of.
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The way they would court white women.
But, it was pretend. Because as soon as they got what they wanted (sex) they'd be out. And go find their "perfect" white woman.
You know who's a perfect example of this?
Justin Timberlake
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Okay, I've been ruminating on #TheEndOfLove and how Sabrina Strings describes the behavior of white men post emancipation.
Basically, once white men no longer had unfettered access to black women's bodies, they either had to pay for sex workers or pretend to be courting black women +
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That black men could see us come out of slavery right along with them. . . and then turn around and decide they want to pimp us to white men who miss having unfettered access to black women. . .
Yeah. . . black women are not safe with black men, as this country gets worse.
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I just had a really scary thought. . .
considering the way this country is going, and the history of black men exploiting black women for their own gain. . .
I bet black women are at higher risk of being sex trafficked as the fascism in this country continues to escalate.
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I was gonna overlook the factoid that some enslaved Black men worked with their slave masters to get their choice of Black women (regardless of what the Black woman had to say about it), b/c . . .
ultimately, that's still white men controlling everyone.
But, AFTER SLAVERY, NIGGA!?
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Chile. . . as soon as slavery was over. . . Black men started exploiting Black women by PIMPING US?!
AS SOON AS SLAVERY ENDED!
NIGGA!
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As if I needed more reason to hate Jay Z. . .
Sabrina is outlining how Jay Z helped mainstream "pimpin" at the expense of black women.
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Since the movement era, Black men have become less and less committal.
Black women are to expect that they can be used for sexual exploitation and that they might have to share the man who's the object of their affection.
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Ugly-ass Jay Z promoting himself as a "player" since the 90s and #yall letting him. . .
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(It's also not lost on me that all present-day attempts to promote "Black Love" fall flat because they're conservative, tone-deaf, respectability signals of middle-class black ppl.
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