If your only way to be accepted is to be understood than you will always be performing.
Real connection is when you’re not fully understood and still treated with respect and receive love.
Just because you’re autistic doesn’t mean you can’t be a huge ableist
1 in 3 non-binary people and LGBTQIA+ women have avoided or delayed healthcare due to fears of bias or discrimination, new survey by @divamag.bsky.social finds #LVW26
From our archives, Jude explores the specific barriers and stigma non-binary people face 👇
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what have been the experiences of my autistic comrades with psychotherapy?
i just understood that im autistic - now what? starting may 26
Recently understood that you're autistic?
My workshop is digging into regulation, meltdowns, shutdowns, burnout, unmasking and all the things you want to know about.
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You are not a burden
Why do we always sleep better after our first wake up with the alarm?
Hosting a free discussion group on zoom this week to talk about autistic masking, unmasking, and WTF that actually means and how it shows up in life, actually - beyond snippets of a reel.
theautisticcoach.com
I’m an autistic peer-support coach and I’ve been supporting my fellow autistics since 2006.
I’m registered as a disability educator in France and am a DWP-approved coach thru Access to Work in the UK.
I’ve worked with the NHS, the National Trust, and the University of Leeds.
One of the Sandy Hook families lives in hiding 1500 mi away from their baby’s grave due to people stalking them.
The graves of multiple children have been defaced.
One of the fathers had to submit DNA evidence to prove his son was a REAL HUMAN BEING after Alex Jones’ book said he never existed.
Let’s work together
The new Book & Paper Conservation programme at @glasgow.ac.uk's Kelvin Centre has got off to a great start. As it's the first year there are just 4 students, numbers will increase in future years. Here's a blog from them about their first semester.
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Let’s meet
Why aren’t people kind to each other?
I don’t think there’s one reason.
Often it’s because of an abuse of power.
Other times, it’s a reaction to such abuse.
Other times, it’s out of fear.
Others, out of dysregulation and it’s not intended.
No matter what, we need to pick it apart.
Short term satisfaction and dopamine hits feel good right now.
But the aftermath often looks different.
How can we balance that need with the need for long term stability?
That for the purposes of social invitations, it shouldn't count as "I have other plans" unless said plans include other people.
Having to justify my "no", because apparently just no is not enough
Use the framing/wording of the question to work out what they want you to say, then say that. It's very useful for passing some kinds of exams! It's terrible for building authentic relationships.
What’s something you were told was a “social skill” that actually made your life worse as an autistic adult?
I have a long list.
The point of Torah isn’t to make marginalised people easier for communities to tolerate.
It’s to transform the community.
autism is a disability
this isn't a hot take
it's also a neurotype
and a difference
and liberating
and oppressing
it just is
stop telling others what it needs to mean to them
let autistic people breathe ffs
Sometimes when I’m out in public I suddenly go into myself and the whole world passes me by like a muted television.
They’re all totally separate from me. On a screen.
And I’m invisible to them.
I don’t exist.
And I’m not even visible to myself.
I lose all conception of self.
Autism.
If you only feel safe in spaces where nothing is challenged, no boundaries exist, and no one interrupts harmful behaviour - you don’t feel safe.
You feel in control.
Those are not the same thing.
Glad that the BBC is running a story on Dyscalculia and the trauma caused to so many of us from abusive systems and teachers.
I think as a leader it’s my job to always be analysing myself - seeing my shortcomings and growing from them.
Not for praise, but because it’s the right thing to do.
Just like it’s the right thing to do to help others and create community.
Anyway, that’s me.
The insistence of random people on the Internet, many of whom are anonymous, claiming they know me, my work, my intentions - when they’ve never met me.
Simply judge me based on their own presuppositions.
Does it mean I’m perfect? That I don’t have what to learn? Of course not.
I believe that offering support to each other and helping others learn more about themselves, things can get better for us all.
I try to share what I’ve learned about looking inside.
It’s hard work.
But it’s valuable.
The hardest part? Dealing with comments like above.
It’s not an easy thing.
Supporting others for what seems to be 24/7.
Despite the comments of some people on the Internet, I’m not rich. I’m not a grifter. I’m not a Shylock (an interesting comment often thrown at me?
Often, I’m barely holding on financially.
Because I believe in this work.
I’m also a rabbinical student with 1,000+ of hours in pastoral counseling under my belt.
I’m a teacher.
I try to be a mentor and guide.
Everything I offer is offered on a pay-as-you-can basis or free.
Everything from my 1:1 sessions to my workshops and classes.
