A picture of dirt and weeds with roots
It never ceases to amaze me how deep some weed roots can go.
The same applies to trauma and the things we want to change. Some of our parts need constant check in's and more than one unburdening. Healing is a process. It is not a one and done.
#SelfAwareness
#IFSCoaching
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#SlowYourRoll
Many of the beliefs we carry are from a different time and context. It can be hard to recognize how those beliefs impact our present day emotional satisfaction. It sometimes takes a lot of work to unpack that. Having someone you trust to help you through that is vital.
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This is important to understand. Seasons of life are just that. Seasons. We have those good and beautiful times. We have those harder less enjoyable times (weeding and doing "the work.")
Learning to help our system be resilient and regulated on the journey.
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A path that leads into a heavily wooded forest.
When I come to this, the path to home, that sense of inner connection seems to crescendo. This time, as I looked at the bright entrance to the shady way home, I realized the shadow is the way through. In IFS all parts are welcome. And from there my next walk brain talk begins.
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The expansive space where time hides and love thrives and we are finally in the comfort of home.
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#KootenayLife
#Exvangelical
#TheFifthAgreement
#PeaceAndLove
I used to think 10,000 steps was a lot in a day. Now I know its just a walk.
#SelfCare
#SteppingToLove
#KootenayLife
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The clarity, curiosity, compassion, confidence, and courage they have within (all elements of Core Self) become the field of perception in which they see.
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#IFSRelationshipCoach
Since doing "the work" with IFS, SE, and meditation that dispersal of traumatic energy has washed through me. I listen to my body without the indoctrination of religion. When my body speaks I listen. Im not perfect but Im light years better than what I used to be.
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#IFSCoach
#EmotionCoach
I just want to give a shout out to all those men out there "doing the work," "showing up," and being the best they know how to in the moment. I know there are lots of those men out there. Keep going. You got this. We need you. 🤍
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Two pictures showing the same forest scene. The bottom one has lots of sun peeking through and casting light along the path and trees. Top picture is an overcast day with no sun.
Its amazing what sunshine can do. This is the same spot along my forest walk.
I like this comparison cause it reminds me my harder days come and go and so do the more pleasant days. Time meanders on and I can check out or check in.
I like checking in. 🩷
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#IFSEmotionCoaching
#Nature
We need to learn non-violent ways of communicating. The word "non-violent" here's doing some heavy lifting but the meaning is clear. Language that expresses what's going on inside verses language that projects blame.
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So rest when you need to. Push through when you can. Most importantly listen to what's on the inside and be good to your body. Its working hard for you. 🩷
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#IFSEmotionCoach
#RelationshipCoaching
#Counselling
Getting to know me (as an enneagram 2 this is hard work!) has been a difficult journey to differentiate parts of myself and the roles they have. Now that I feel like I'm on the other side of "the worst of it" I am so compassionate with myself & system.
I listen to my body way more.
#LoveMaven
An image with a teal background and bold black text that reads: "If you try to change too much too fast, your nervous system's going to slam the brakes, maybe cut the power to the whole grid (a 'freeze' response), or even go into active rebellion against the changes you're trying to make (a 'fight' response). Sustainable change is incremental." The text also includes a faint watermark in the center and a partial signature at the bottom for Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle (@DrDoyleSays).
Exactly this. Slow and steady.
#ChangeIsHard
#TakeItEasy
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When I'm tempted to lose my shit on someone I always try to remember "that's not who I am."
I want to be someone who remains open to Love and learning and we can't do that if we are lashing out all the time.
Stay curious.
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Miss Feona my black cat reclining on my desk saying "Hey good lookin."
Emotional support work cat reminding you to take it easy now.
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#CounsellingCat
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Me in my office taking a selfie. My big funky glasses and dark hair. Messy effort is better than no effort. Change in slow increments. #LoveMaven
Change in slow increments is important so we can understand each step and support our entire system in that change.
Be kind as you rewind some of the things that need change in your life. 🤍
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#YouGotThis
An image with a vibrant pink, blue, and purple galaxy background contains the following text in black font: "Why?" "Because I'm stardust." "I do epic, cosmic shit." "(That's why.)"
Your cosmic shit matters. Keep being creative.
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If you try to change too much too fast, your nervous system's going to slam the brakes, maybe cut the power to the whole grid (a "freeze" response), or even go into active rebellion against the changes you're trying to make (a "fight" response). Sustainable change is incremental. Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle
This is a key concept in many areas of life. Especially in counselling & coaching and habit change.
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Me with my messy dark purple hair that goes past my shoulders and translucent purple glasses with that dorky smile that invites you in for a hug.
I love being out in the sun. I promise I don't smoke dope (nothing wrong with that tho!) But I always look baked. Must be the Kootenay air. 😂
#KootenayLife
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#Sunbaby
On another note from what's "blowing up" on Bluesky:
Consistency always beats intensity.
This applies to so many things in life.
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The relational field between two nervous systems has many stories. Deconstruction/reconstruction, in cult survivors language, deprogramming and reprogramming, brings a level of Self and relational awareness that relinquishes power and control yet embraces agency.
We need more of this.
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We often think we are "just talking to people." What we forget is there is an entire nervous system with a history in that person. Stay curious.
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To really see what the other sees. To see beyond their own story. Not what our story tells us to see. In that is the mirror. We see the shared humanity. The moment when we finally understand what Love is.
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The sky is not ashamed of its storms. Why are you? Written on a pink and purple background.
Shame is a powerful social and unconscious emotion. Often rooted in the pursuit of perfection, shame can lay dormant inside us. When it pops into our consciousness the IFS frame work is a profound tool to meet shame where it's at and work through the shadow it casts.
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#IFS
#TheWork
A beautiful snow covered country road that leads into a forested hill. The sun just peeking out above the trees in the cloud covered grey sky.
From my long walk today. This picture reminds me of when our inner parts get activated. It seems all grey. The life of color seems absent, but there is still beauty in the process of holding space within. The sun up there in the grey still reaching for us to sustain us like the Core Self. #LoveMaven
Each individual will go through that process in their own unique way. Some will supernova and others will methodically sift through it. If you are someone who needs a coach to support you through I am available.
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One of the best things that was born out of my own deconstruction from evangelical pastors wife of over 25yrs is my training in life coaching and IFS counselling.
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To hippie cartoon girls with flower crowns and tattoos on their arms. One girl is fixing the others crown. Never give up on someone with a mental illness. When "I" is replaced by "We," illness becomes wellness.
I love this. Of course we have to be careful and boundaried for our own safety and mental health but healing always happens in community. Thats why I love what I do.
#IFSEmotionCoach
#LoveMaven
What ever is going on in your life today keep showing up. Consistency over perfection is always the winner.
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#EmotionCoach
#IFSPractitioner
