Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #WorldKindnessDay.

Etiquette has changed a lot in the last 50 years, to be used less as a tool for exclusion and more as a way to include as many people as possible in pleasant community.

We can all of us do better. When in doubt, #bekind.

Seasonal Decorations, Vol. 24, Issue 33 — Etiquetteer “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1 “It’s decorative gourd season, [Insert Excessive Profanity Here].” — Colin Nissan, McSweeney’...

Now that #Halloween has passed, Etiquetteer meditates on the seasons of seasonal decorations, Christmas Creep, and when it's #PerfectlyProper to start listening to Mariah Carey.

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#etiquette #manners #decorativegourdseason

Passion IS exhausting . . . and rarely #PerfectlyProper. That must be why we love it so, and seek it out.

Bravo, that's the spirit! What could be more #PerfectlyProper?

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalcoffeeday. The problem with a #coffee mug is, where do you put the spoon if there's no saucer? It's bad manners to put used silverware directly onto the table. Maybe it's time to Bring Back the Saucer?

#etiquette #manners #tablemanners

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalreadabookday. And what could be more Perfectly Proper than to return to the Pure Milk of the Word, Emily Post's 1922 edition of Etiquette?

What are YOU reading?

#manners #books #bibliophile #readabook #readabookday #bookoftheday

This brings to mind a certain dialogue between Hamlet and Ophelia which is Not #PerfectlyProper.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #nationalproseccoday. Tonight a bit of lavender syrup has been added to the prosecco. Does that make it a Lavender Menace?

#etiquette #manners #cocktailhour

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #NationalWineandCheeseDay. While you may feel louche and decadent holding your #wineglass by its bowl, you are only going to warm the wine — and isn't it hot enough already? Keep as cool as you can as long as you can w/ a light grip on the stem.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #FathersDay.

Indeed! #quoteoftheday to @anakanaschofield.bsky.social: "Being alive is not a private party. The planet is shared."

And so is #publictransportation. Yesterday for the very first time in 40+ years in #Boston, I saw someone spit inside an @mbta.com car. NOT #PerfectlyProper. #gross

Etiquetteer wd like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #GivingTuesday, THE day to get your tix for Etiquetteer's Repeal Day Celebration this Friday at the Gibson House. There's no better combo of preservation, craft cocktails, and Perfect Propriety than this party!

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Perfect Propriety at the Polls, Vol. 23, Issue 60 — Etiquetteer Yesterday Etiquetteer saw a captioned photo on the internet of a woman in a voting booth wearing only a brassiere and a pair of slacks. (Etiquetteer is not going to amplify this photo here, but you ma...

Yesterday’s circulation of a photo of a woman voting in her bra prompted Etiquetteer to see what is and isn’t #PerfectlyProper when #voting. These are offered as general #guidelines, as voting laws vary state by state:

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#etiquette #manners #election2024 #vote

In the words of the late Suellen O'Hara, "Mother said you could always tell a lady by her hands." 😬 This woman is Not #PerfectlyProper.

First, don't wear candidate gear to the polls. Ignorance of the law is no excuse.

Second, don't abuse the poll workers.

#etiquette #manners #election2024

Etiquetteer Shakes Up a Colony Special Martini, Vol. 17, Issue 11 — Etiquetteer

In case you plan to celebrate #worldmartiniday June 19, here's something you've got to try: the Colony Special #Martini from the old #ColonyBar.

Trust me, it's the most refreshing martini there is! What could be more #PerfectlyProper?

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#cocktail #cocktails

There is no better accessory for one's holiday table than a bobèche for every candlestick on it. It will also help protect your good damask tablecloth from dribbling hot wax. What could be more #PerfectlyProper?

#etiquette #manners #diningroom #dinner

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #ElectionDay. Don't forget to vote!

What could be more #PerfectlyProper to ease the transition back to Standard Time than #coffee by #candlelight?

#ThrowbackThursday to last May's visit to Hampton Court, and the Great Hall of Henry VIII. As an innovation, the hall was set with tables covered with canvas cloths with #advice for #Tudor #tablemanners. What could be more #PerfectlyProper?

#etiquette #manners

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #NationalAuthorsDay. My journey through #etiquette would not have been so very delightful without Emily Post, Judith Martin, Millicent Fenwick, Amy Vanderbilt, Letitia Baldrige, and that madcap Dorothy Draper to light the way.

#author #books

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a safe, happy & #PerfectlyProper Hallowe'en. This year Etiquetteer is dressed as a crusty old bachelor who has darkened the house front to discourage trick or treaters. But note the Ignatius J. Reilly "deft and tasteful suggestions" of orange to celebrate the day.

Etiquetteer would like to wish you a #PerfectlyProper #WorldOperaDay. This was taken last May at Covent Garden, where I was fortunate enough to see Aida.