AdopteeQOL A measure of quality of life for adoptees aged 16-25

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'Lower expectations and demands' - an important Christmas Tip from our friends over at #AdoptionUK ❤️

Although Christmas is exciting, it can also be overwhelming for some families. There are things that you can try to ease that though and this is one.

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Christmas Tip number three suggested by #AdoptionUK 🎁

Don't feel guilty this Christmas and make a plan that works best for you and your family ❤️

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Another approach to the festive seasion suggested by our friends at #AdoptionUK ❤️

This one is perhaps for adopters with children who's Christmasses keep evolving each year.

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At this time of the year, many families are searching for Christmas tips & pieces of advice that can help make the festive period easier to navigate.

❤️ This is why over the next week or so we are sharing eight different approaches suggested by our friends at #AdoptionUK.

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Forced Adoptions like share subscribe. https://www.youtube.com/@MyDailyRantUk ========================================================================== Forced Adoptions. Parents threatened and blamed by authorities as 1,000 adopted children returned to care. Verity's breaking point with her adopted son Liam came after she had already been threatened with knives and arrested by police following untrue allegations.Her husband Ian recounts that she said at one point to a social worker: "What if we just can't do this any more?" He says the social worker's reply came without a moment's hesitation: "You'll be prosecuted for child abandonment."Verity and Ian are just two of 50 parents the BBC has spoken to during a six-month investigation into why adoptive families are being broken apart and their children returned to care.It has uncovered a hidden world where parents are subjected to lies and blame by authorities across the UK, as they struggle with the needs of traumatised children who have often suffered abuse and neglect before they were removed from their birth families.Parents speak of being threatened, harassed and pushed into mental health crisis, while one adopted teenager who returned to care says that with more support his family might still be together now.Warning - this story contains discussion of suicideThe BBC conducted the most extensive Freedom of Information request ever into adoptions that have broken down, finding that more than 1,000 adopted children in the UK have returned to care in the past five years. That is much higher than the figure in a recent government report - but the true number is likely to be even larger, as only a third of authorities said they collected this data as standard practice.One couple told us the issue is a "national scandal" and that "adoption as it stands" is "not fit for purpose".As part of the investigation, we also learned: - Nearly a quarter of the adoptive parents who spoke to the BBC said they had been taken into police custody as a result of allegations of abuse by their children, which were later found to be untrue - A whistleblowing social worker revealed a culture of blame against parents when adoptions run into problems and said they are "sold a lie" about post-adoption support - New research by Lancaster University found that 38% of adoptive parents said they had considered returning a child to care A Department for Education spokesperson said that "adoptive parents do an incredible job providing a loving and supportive home to some of the most vulnerable children in our society", and that while those arrangements sometimes break down "support is in place to help adoptive families and keep them together where possible".The department said it will offer families earlier and better support through the Children's Wellbeing and Schools Bill. But neither the government nor the Local Government Association, which represents local authorities in England and Wales, responded to the BBC's questions about parents being threatened and blamed.Verity and Ian, from Yorkshire, adopted their son Liam and daughter Lauren 15 years ago, when Liam was two-and-a-half and his little sister was one.As Liam grew, his behaviour became volatile and increasingly violent, throwing things and screaming at his parents.They now know that before Liam was adopted, he had lived in a household where there was extensive domestic abuse. File On 4 Investigates - Adoption: The Blame GameThe lies and blame within the UK's adoption system. Some adoptive parents say they’ve been given so little support that they’ve been forced to return their children back into care. https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m002n0hg Listen on BBC Sounds now - or on BBC Radio 4 at 20:00 GMT on Tuesday 2 December, and 11:00 GMT on Wednesday 3 December. Verity and Ian were sent on seven parenting courses during Liam's childhood, which Verity says placed the blame on them as a couple. Meanwhile, she says: "The fundamental cause of his behaviour is being totally missed and ignored. The trauma is being totally ignored."The couple recall good times, too, as they supported Liam's passion for dance, watching him at countless competitions. But they describe his teenage years as a "living hell" and they feared for their safety as he would threaten them with knives.One morning, Verity left a note for Ian and drove to the coast with the intention of killing herself. A passer-by spoke to her, which she says saved her life.On another occasion, after one of Liam's meltdowns, his parents called the police as they had been advised to in a situation like this. But it was Verity who was arrested, after Liam accused her of assault."It's the worst experience I've ever had. And that was the point at which I knew that we couldn't even phone the police any more," she says. Image source,Verity and Ian Image caption,Liam was adopted aged two-and-a-half from a household where there was extensive domestic violence Verity was released without charge but she and Ian knew they could not continue to live with Liam. Having already been threatened with prosecution, however, Ian said they knew the process of returning Liam to care would be "adversarial" and "laden with threats and misleading bullying tactics".Similar legislation across the nations of the UK allows children to be taken back into care, but local authorities require each case to reach a "threshold" where they need to intervene, which usually means looking for evidence of abuse or neglect.Ian and Verity's home was described in one local authority document as "not a place where Liam feels loved and supported". Verity says: "The way it's written is still blaming us as parents for the home situation, but actually that is not the case at all." 'My heart just broke' In the end, worried they could no longer keep their daughter safe, Verity and Ian felt they had to force the local authority's hand. Through their solicitor, they gave a deadline after which they would no longer be able to offer Liam a home, and it would become the council's duty to accommodate him.Liam was away from the house, working with one of the dance competition organisers, when she broke the news to him. "She came up to me and she was like, 'I've just had a call with your social worker and you can't go home'," he told the BBC."And just hearing that, my heart just broke."Verity says: "It was awful. It was traumatic. It was haphazard. We were forced into doing it this way, and essentially making him homeless, in order for the local authority to get their acts together."Now aged 17, settled and living independently after several previous moves, Liam takes responsibility for his behaviour, but says it is "a shame that it's impacted what I call a family". He says returning to care was "the kick up the arse" that he needed."But I think if social services had sorted themselves out, and I think if we had sorted ourselves out, personally, we could have pushed through and maybe it would have been a different situation," he said. Image source,BBC/Stephen Fildes Image caption,Specialist adoption solicitor Damien Dobson says families are being forced into heartbreaking decisions Social workers are involved in every adopted child's case and often families continue to need their support for many years. They also play a vital role in identifying and helping children at genuine risk of harm.Verity and Ian's local authority, North Yorkshire Council, said it couldn't discuss individual cases, but it recognised "how difficult challenges linked to adoption can be for families" and it said it provided "compassionate, practical support when this happens".Parents who can no longer cope, or no longer feel they can keep their family safe, have to take the "heartbreaking" decision to "legally abandon" their son or daughter, says Damien Dobson, a specialist adoption solicitor.Over the past five years he has worked with more than 400 families and says the numbers seeking help are rising.England's Children Act is outdated, Mr Dobson says. He says local authorities should have an option to voluntarily accommodate a child that would be considered beyond the parent's control, without the presumed need for evidence of blame. 'Desperate for help' Verity and Ian were among dozens of families the BBC met in Manchester, at an event organised by a group called Patch - which stands for Passionate Adopters Targeting Change with Hope - whose members are adoptive families challenging what they see as fundamental failings in the system."Adoption is lifelong, so must be the support," says Jackie from Essex, one of the parents.Fiona Wells, who is adopted herself and a social worker, set up the group after she faced huge issues with her three adopted children. Patch now has more than 1,800 online members. "Families are joining us all the time who are desperate for help, who have reached crisis," she says. <<

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Adoptee quality of life We are creating a new tool to measure what makes a good quality of life for adoptees aged 16-25, based on what adoptees themselves think is important.

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There's still time to learn more about #AdoptionMatters this July 🧡

Join us at 10am next Saturday and have some of your #adoption related questions answered.

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Adoptee quality of life We are creating a new tool to measure what makes a good quality of life for adoptees aged 16-25, based on what adoptees themselves think is important.

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Half term is over, and the back-to-school blues have kicked in! But there’s comfort in routine—it keeps us focused, makes days smoother, and brings a bit of calm after the holiday chaos.

Who’s ready for normality again? #twodads #parentlife #adoptionuk

Today we officially adopted our daughter. She is brilliant, smart, funny and the strongest little girl. Mentally and physically.... No really by the time she is 7 she will probably be picking me up!! #adoption #adoptionuk

Here is something I wrote for #AdoptionUK about our experience as an ethnically mixed family.
Excerpt: The moment our twins arrived into our home I began preparing a note: a sort of proof to be shown to anyone daring to question the validity of our family. www.adoptionuk.org/blog/the-not...

Lets be very wary of UK Social Services and their reports about family and "abuses" .. #adoptee #adopteevoices #adopteeblusky ... #adoptionUK The over-reactivity of Social Services and under-reactivity of them is a mess in some lives ..

Adoptee quality of life We are creating a new tool to measure what makes a good quality of life for adoptees aged 16-25, based on what adoptees themselves think is important.

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Thursday 9 Jan 1:30-3pm Leeds (or online if participants request this)

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Keep Moving Forward With Kristy Holt | Thriving Adoptees - Let's Thrive If you're in the muck, keep moving forward. You can move on. Listen in as birth mother Kristy describes how she got inspired and let her inspire you. Great life lessons. Great episode.

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A journey of trauma and healing as a #birthmum. please sure and spread a little bit of hope. #firstmum #forcedadoption #adoptionuk #birthfamily

Screenshot of Holly Marlow giving a webinar for Adoption UK, titled "How to talk to children about adoption"

I gave a webinar for #AdoptionUK, about how to talk to #children about #adoption.
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I hope it helps #parents who find #lifestorywork daunting, & gives you some ideas to explain adoption to children!

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