Breathe When things are going well it's easier to be intentional in our parenting. It's much more of a challenge when we're out of our window of tolerance & in survival mode.With the things that go on, someti...

Breathe - and try to do no harm
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Rudeness My conscious thinking brain knows this. My unconscious emotional brain sometimes doesn't.When we're feeling wound up by our kids it's often time to step back and regulate - which will reconnect us to ...

Rudeness - it's rarely personal
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Alice's Umbrella Human beings learn by experience - things going well and things going not so well. It’s tempting to feel as though we need to say something to drive the message home, to speed up the learning…“No wond...

Alice's umbrella
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Achieving better connections Last year friend and colleague Al Coates and I wrote a parenting course for a local authority to use as their default training for parents who need/want help meeting their children’s needs and keeping...

Achieving better connections - trauma informed parenting course
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#nvr #nonviolentresistance #parenting #trauma #traumainformed #send #autism #adhd #fasd #cpv #cpva #meltdowns #therapeuticparenting #connectiveparenting

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Where's the harm? An exercise we do in our groups (and sometimes in one to one sessions) is thinking back to a thing we did as a child that our parent/s got upset about. We reflect on what was going on for us, our unde...

Accepting children as they are - where's the harm?
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#nvr #nonviolentresistance #childdevelopment #attunement #pace #paceparenting #therapeuticparenting #responsiveparenting #connectiveparenting #trauma #traumainformed

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Parental presence This to me is parental presence. Everything we do (and don't do) influencing their development, influencing their values, influencing the direction of their lives, influencing the next generation, and...

Parental presence
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Being present The main goal of NVR is being present in the lives and in the minds of children. As parents but also as grandparents, teachers, social workers, coaches etc. Present in a way that communicates their wo...

Being present in the hearts and minds of our children
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#nvr #nonviolentresistance #parentalpresence #presence #heldinmind #therapeuticparenting #connectiveparenting #responsiveparenting #gentleparenting

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