When Loyalty Almost Destroys You, It Is Self-Abandonment | Ostenako Staying loyal to people who hurt you is not love. It is self-abandonment with a nicer name. Learn when loyalty stops being strength and starts being harm.

One day you will realize the loyalty that almost destroyed you was just self-abandonment with a nicer name.

Loyalty that costs you yourself is not loyalty. It is harm.

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Not my video, but a great one about when #TraumaBond becomes #EmotionalAbuse & #ToxicRelationship

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Do you do this? Cancel plans last minute, cancel dates? And wonder WHY? Well I have a unique online program to help assist you in recognizing why you do it and to push past it! See my web site for how YOU can stop blocking your connections! #HeartacheHelper #selfabandonment #canceling #dating #love

The people who truly see you? They don't want the performed version. They want the real one.
But you can't offer that version if you've given it away piece by piece.
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Their reaction is their work—your work is staying aligned.

You can hold space with love, but you can’t hold responsibility for their healing.

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5 Tiny Ways I Abandoned Myself Without Realising It …and what I’m learning to do instead Let’s be honest: self-abandonment doesn’t always look dramatic.Sometimes, it’s quiet. Polite. Even praised. I used to think I was being easy-going, kind, adaptable. But underneath those masks, I was slowly disappearing from my own life. Here are five subtle ways I used to abandon myself—and what I’m gently practicing now, instead. 1. Saying “I’m fine” when I wasn’t…

We don’t always see the ways we quietly leave ourselves.
Bite-Size One is live—5 small ways self-abandonment can show up unnoticed, and how to begin the return.
Read the post & begin gently:
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Rescuers: Do You Always Try to Save Others, Even When It Hurts You? Or has someone acted as your rescuer, only to leverage it as control? Find out why this happens, what makes it so hard to stop, and what to do about it.

“The compulsion to rescue isn’t just a choice; for many, it feels like an overwhelming biological imperative.”
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Self Abandonment: Part 1: What is Self Abandonment?

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