Are you choosing the...

Comfortable untruth

Or

Uncomfortable truth?

When we speak up/tell our truth, we prioritise authenticity over fear

It's not easy. It takes conscious effort. But the alternative is to avoid, repress, and betray ourselves.

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No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth. - Martha Beck

It takes courage, but authenticity is essential to our sense of peace.

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Nervous System regulation is essentially a reconnection - to the body, to this moment.

It's simple, but.. this is important - it takes conscious repetition.

The more we regulate/reconnect, the safer we feel; allowing problem solving, connection, calm and compassion.

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HOW DO YOU REGULATE YOURSELF?

Regularly bringing attention to the body in this moment reduces the cumulative impact of dysregulation.

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It may be the right choice but that does not guarantee it will be easy.

All changes, chosen or not, will likely come as a package with uncertainty, grief and effort.

Tenacity comes from knowing it will be worth it.

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What might you need to accept at the moment, to reduce resistance around what you cannot control?

It's important to note that acknowledging the feelings is an essential part of radical acceptance.

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Micro pause & check-in...

Taking time to check in boosts self trust and allows us to improve self awareness.

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Faking it, masking, pushing self can lead to burnout.

These are all coping mechanisms we build in response to perceptions of obligations that amount to a chronic betrayal of self.

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We cannot help our feelings. Judging or criticising ourselves just creates more stress.

A powerful phrase we can use to validate ourselves is "that is understandable".

Acknowledgement enables the feelings to process and move on.

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What is your stress trying to tell you?

If you don't know...
How can you make sure you pause, regulate yourself (be aware of your body and breath), and work through your feelings to find out?

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Our authenticity is repeatedly prioritising our peace over any expectations or pretence of connection.

Meeting perceived, unwanted obligations or any betrayal of self for the sake of 'dishonest harmony' is not authenticity.

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Healing is an ongoing process to improve your sense of self: To connect to your body, your personal power, your authenticity, and your sense of peace.

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Why Leaders and Executives need a coach..
Having a coach is like having a plug-in objective, learning focused creative brain.

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Trusting ourselves enhances our ability to regulate after dysregulation, reduces anxiety, and enables us to know we are capable in the face of uncertainty.

Consciously noticing, acknowledging, and returning to the body gets us there.

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"I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself." - Rita Mae Brown

Reflection question - Is 'dishonest harmony', where we betray our true self for the sake of others' comfort, really worth it?

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Some people will put their reputation before reparation.

They would rather be seen as right than address the harm they cause.

Radical acceptance of the truth will help us to start to heal.

Simple, but not easy.

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"When you start to walk on the way, the way appears." - Rumi

We don't need to know it all, we just need to focus on the next step. The aim is progression, not perfection.

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What happened to us is not our fault, but it is our responsibility to heal.

To feel and to notice the pain.

We may need help and guidance. We will definitely need self compassion.

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1 way to guarantee a dysregulated nervous system is to consistently ignore your own needs.

How can your body feel safe and trust that it is being cared for when it is ignored?

Simple really. Not always easy though.

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I am so grateful to have such articulate reviewers, explaining the benefits of Somatic EMDR coaching better than I ever could! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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