But we can still:
- reflect on why these narratives feel so comforting to us
- question the hidden assumptions in the stories they tell
- be aware of their problematic bits

#christmas #movies #amatonormativity #love #aromanticism

But actually in episode 3 Konya Sukiyaki Dayo puts great emphasis on the fact that just because Tomoko and Shinta seemed to outsiders like a couple, it doesn't mean it's nice to be perceived that way wrongly. Especially if you're aro like Tomoko.

As in the #amatonormativity way.

Screenshot of multiple tweets from the user "Clovershinji / @transnagisa". Tweets say - "destroy the expectation that everyone feels romantic feelings and that's normal because i cant tell you how much stress that caused me" - "destroy the idea that everyone wants to and has to fall in love" - "destroy the idea that romantic relationships are worth more than platonic relationships" - "fuck the phrase "just friends". friendship is not less than romantic relationships"

Let's destroy the amatonormativity and help us all to free ourselves from the strict rules of relationships

this helps us aromantics but also everybody else. no more pressure to anybody

These posts from Clovershinj are very good reminders to us all

#aromantic #amatonormativity #relationship #love

Takahashi asks: "Is romance something that you are obliged to do?"

Kazu-kun replies: "Takahashi-san, which university did you graduate from?"

When you talk to non-a-spec people about amatonormativity for the first time:

#KoisenuFutari #Amatonormativity

Fans were furious when Popeye and Olive Oyl got married - MeTV Toons Brooks felt Popeye would be appalled at the concept, "As Popeye would say, 'the whole idea of me marryin' is disgustapatin'!".

Fans were furious when #Popeye and #OliveOyl got married metvtoons.com/stories/fans... #amatonormativity #bachelor
#diversityofrelationships

Saw this and ☝️ I agree

Link: www.tumblr.com/spoonbenders...

#asexual.
#aromantic #aroace
#amatonormativity
😕😖🫩🫩🤐

‘A’ at the end of the alphabet Should sexual relationships, with all their complications, really be a benchmark of societal acceptance? Vox Feminae investigates the history of asexuality and aromanticism: pathologized by psychologi...

Wir begreifen und als liebende und begehrende Wesen und haben eine Gesellschaft geschaffen, die um diese Idee herum organisiert ist.

Man muss das glücklicherweise nicht in Frage stellen, um die Normativität darin zu erkennen.

#amatonormativity
#asexuality

www.eurozine.com/a-at-the-end...

Not to yuck anyone's yum, but Yelena and Bob only work as a couple when you conflate intimacy with physical chemistry
#Thunderbolts #Marvel #amatonormativity

Sylo, representing DeathlessHaze, explaining that they prefer to have a fictional partner (pictured in the thought bubble, Igris from Solo Leveling with a pink "love" effect) over a real one due to previous negative experiences with more "traditional" relationships, as well as the fact it gives them a more fulfilled and comfortable experience in contrast to a traditional or amatonormative relationship. Note that DeathlessHaze has a very close mutual friend, but they are not dating and are comfortable as close mates at this time. Not to be confused with the fact he has a gargantuan Ahh crush on Igris.

A Right-Wing MAGA supporting fascist dipshit who merely NOTICED that Sylo has a fictional crush/partner and is going on a long and aggressive tangent about how Sylo is selfish and not worth caring about or being supported due to the fact they simply don't want a normative or traditional relationship or partner. Note that the "Orange Prick" Supporter takes no account to Sylo's previous negative experiences, ignores Sylo's mental health issues, or acknowledges the fact they are Aromantic and Asexual, rather viewing him as a burden or "useless person to the economy".

Sylo, disgusted and disappointed in the orange-prick-supporter's tangent about his feelings, stating that the person just explained exactly why they do not desire a traditional relationship.

"But, why a fictional crush/partner over a real one?"

I mean if someone has a fictional crush, it's not illegal, and nobody is bein hurt/injured because of it... Why the fuck does it matter?

#aroace #fictoromantic #amatonormativity

Black background with white text: the Film is about to start

Main characters: Charly, Rahim and Peyton

As their last year studying at the Royal Institute of Film and TV Arts draws closer and closer, the best friend trio of Peyton Evans, Rahim Diop and Charly Ravenna starts to ponder on what’s next for them and what it’ll do to their bond. Their majors are Music Supervision, Production Design and Screenwriting respectively. So it’s not likely they’ll end up working together, ergo: their separation seems inevitable if they want to reach their professional aspirations. That is, until the silver screen legend, and certified Grumpy Professor, Ariel Schwartz cuts them a too-good-to-be- true type deal: He’ll get the three of them jobs at his husband’s indie production company, If the three of them agree to take positions as teaching assistants on what seems to be a mere PR stunt to make the school look hip. It seems simple enough though, and they all need some money for their own reasons anyways. But around the same time that happens, a really stupid rumor pops up: Apparently, the three of them hooked up at a campus Halloween party. And as ridiculous as that sounds, they do seem closer than most best mates, they do love each other… but not like that… right? All kinds of drama start to pop up, would the trio of friends rise to their belated coming of age arcs? Or will they crumble under the pressure?

Panorámica photo of a busy Street in London

"Theee Blokes in Film School"

-FLEABAG x PERKS OF BEING A WALLFLOWER
-Novella
-References to English films and Pop Culture
- Film School/London setting
- Kicks #Amatonormativity in the nuts
- 1st per multi POV

#LiteraryFiction #Contemporary #Novella #NewAdult #WIP #Boosky #WritingCommunity

Mindy Kaling Dishes on Love Life: I Don’t ‘Need’ a Partner “The Office” writer and star, who is notoriously secretive about her relationships, has never been married and is currently raising three children on her own.

This is #aromanticism. Media should know this so it can be normalized instead of positioning not 'needing a partner' as strange. #Amatonormativity is annoying for anyone who's been told it's weird they're ok with not having a romantic partner.
www.thedailybeast.com/obsessed/min...

I'm a straight aro!
#aromantic #ace #aro #asexual #aroace #aroacememes #aromanticmemes #aromanticasexual #asexualmemes #aspec #aroacespec #spacearoacereader #lgbtqia #queer #lgbtq #amatonormativity #arospec #acespec #asexuality #aromanticism

Once #amatonormativity is unlearned completely, we can really redfine what #valentinesday as a holiday is all about; relationships of many types can bloom naturally and not be restricted to only one type of relationship. #diversityofrelationships

Another symptom of #amatonormativity which needs to be unlearned immediately; it's time relationships evolve beyond the nuclear model.

This is why I identify as straight and queer. #Asexuality #Amatonormativity #Heteronormativity

Yeah. Especially #queerplatonicrelationships; both in real life and in fictional media. The more all of this this is prevalent during the next decades, the further we can unlearn #amatonormativity altogether.

When I was younger I ran up against this coercive binary, but I lacked the knowledge and tools to articulate why it made me so uncomfortable. This video presents the message I wish I could have gotten when I was younger. #sexpositive #amatonormativity #relationships #purityculture #deconstruction

There's too much #amatonormativity in media nowadays.

Polyamory dynamics, organically with the right writing and characters, definitely needs to be in more comics; as well as in other media. #nonmonogamy #polyamory #diversityofrelationships

Amatonormativity: my biggest enemy, but also my biggest motivation for writing. Pretty much anything I write will be somewhat of an f u to amatonormativity #amatonormativity #aromantic #aroace #writing

Asexual / Useful Notes tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwik... #asexuality#asexual #demisexuality #demisexual #graysexuality #demiromanticism #demiromantic #diversityofasexuality #asexualspectrum #amatonormativity #queerplatonic #queerplatonicrelationships #diversityofrelationships

Aromantic / Useful Notes tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwik... #aromanticism #aromantic #diversityofaromanticism #aromanticspectrum #amatonormativity #queerplatonic #queerplatonicrelationships #diversityofrelationships

Pretty much how I feel about #amatonormativity; for me, besides just #starwars, happiness comes in many other forms other than relationships. ^_^

Finally. Hello hashtags on Bluesky. Time to make use of these:

#amatonormativity
#queerplatonic
#cuckquean
#nintendo
#sexwork
#decriminalizesexwork
#sexworkiswork
#rejectthenordicmodel

Plenty more to use later. 🙂