The highs feel intense.
The lows feel devastating.
And the relief when it’s “good again” feels like love. But relief from anxiety isn’t intimacy.
It’s a nervous system reset.
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In my opinion it's more complicated.

#CPTSD

#AttachmentTrauma

When love and fear get paired repeatedly, the body bonds through survival — not safety.

That doesn’t mean you’re broken.
It means your brain learned a pattern.

And patterns can change.

Save, like and share this if you agree with this. #TraumaBondRecovery
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Negative relationships create trauma which keeps you with them because you’ve weathered so much together you feel invested so you believe you should stay or it would have been for nothing. This is like a money pit. #AttachmentTrauma
#TraumaBondRecovery
#intermittentreinforcement

Your nervous system always tells the truth before your mind is ready to. Intensity isn’t intimacy. Attachment trauma often feels like chemistry. It isn’t. Some who tries to use trauma to keep you means to own you not celebrate you. #AttachmentTrauma
#TraumaBondRecovery
#NervousSystemHealing

Feels like there's a lot to unpack about both of us when, at the end of the 90 minute call, I say "I love you Mum", and she says "Mmm" #parents #attachmenttrauma

Thank goodness! Right?

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Important

#CPTSD

#AttachmentTrauma

The safe space imagery should not be separated from the frozen child.

My nervous system knows this.

#CPTSD

#AttachmentTrauma

When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Them: Understanding and Healing Romantic Fixation  - Ben Oofana There’s a trap many people fall into. And while it may not be talked about in a public or structured way, those caught in it often talk about it incessantly—to anyone who will listen. They ruminate, r...

You can’t stop thinking about them.
You replay it all. You obsess.
They’re gone—but the pain isn’t.
This isn’t love. It’s romantic fixation.
#Heartbreak #RomanticFixation #AttachmentTrauma

When Our Relationships Become a Series of Painful Reenactments - Ben Oofana In the context of relationships, reenactment refers to the repetition of past experiences, particularly unresolved trauma and the relational dynamics of our family of origin, within our current relati...

Some of us mistake chaos for passion.
Distance for mystery.
Anxiety for love.
What we think is love is often a reenactment.
#AttachmentTrauma

Why So Many High-Functioning Professionals' Relationships Are So Disastrous - Ben Oofana Since childhood, I've always had a tendency to watch people, driven largely by curiosity and a desire to understand them better. I strive to gain a deeper understanding of the people I work with so I ...

Just because someone is highly functional in one area of their life doesn’t mean they’re equipped to navigate intimacy.
Emotional development requires something most of us were never taught—how to listen to, sit with, and work through the pain.
#SelfAwareness #AttachmentTrauma #EmotionalIntelligence

How We Get Caught in the Destructive Cycle of Rumination—and How to Break Free - Ben Oofana Anyone who’s been through heartbreak, betrayal, or the loss of someone they deeply cared about knows what it’s like to lie awake at night with a mind that just won’t shut off. You replay every word, e...

Heartbreak. Betrayal. Ghosting.
These emotional wounds leave powerful imprints in our bodies and minds.
The obsessive loop that keeps replaying the past isn’t weakness—it’s an urgent call for healing.
#breakuprecovery #rumination #attachmenttrauma

Torn The Science and Soul of Attachment Trauma in the Shadow of ICE

What happens when a baby's first experience is separation, not safety?

What impact on a child when their family is punished for pursuing the scraps of opportunity?

And how can we support the vulnerable in our communities?

Please read & share.

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Attachment is a major source of emotional discomfort. This concept is way deeper that we think and more important that we can imagine. This doesn't mean we shouldn't have any, that's impossible. We just have to understand its relation to our fears and grief
#attachment
#attachmenttrauma
#livingfree

Does Narcissistic Abuse “Break” Your Brain? Let's Discuss... Ever wonder why victims can't "just leave" or "think clearly" during abuse? Neuroscience reveals how your brain physically changes to protect you from trauma. Here are ways to heal.

“…the very brain regions needed for clear thinking and decision-making are being actively impaired by the trauma.”
#narcabuserecovery #CPTSDRecovery #attachmenttrauma #traumarecovery #mentalhealth #narcissism #cptsd #complextrauma #brainfog #cognitivedissonance #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #trauma

I am different from the majority, I considered myself helpless and the others guilty, perhaps due to the combination with serious physical illnesses.

#AttachmentTrauma
#CPTSD
#MEcfs
#PoTS

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“Anything that is “wrong” with you began as a survival mechanism in childhood.”

~ Gabor Maté

#childhood #survivalpatterns #triggers #psychologicaldefenses #addictions #trauma #relationalwounds #attachmenttrauma #survivalpatterns #traumaresponse #selfcare #selfcompassion #compassionateinquiry

(PDF) Toward a definition of Attachment Trauma: integrating attachment and trauma studies PDF | Attachment Trauma (AT) is a known clinical heuristic in Psychology. However, different perspectives on it have emerged, leading to heterogeneity... | Find, read and cite all the research you nee...

Toward a definition of #AttachmentTrauma: integrating #attachment and #trauma studies

Zagaria et al. (2024)

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