ღ Over the past years, I’ve been doing deep work around trauma, cPTSD, and attachment patterns - especially how early wounds shape the way we love, bond, and sometimes lose ourselves in relationships. What I’ve learned is this:
#cPTSDrecovery #cPTSDhealing #trauma #cPTSD #PTSD

The only way you can live with it, in it, and through it is understanding yourself with talk therapy, somatic therapy and systemic therapy. I wish you who are in it, space and peace to do what you need for yourself 🫶
#cptsd #cPTSDrecovery #cptsdhealing

cPTSD is n e v e r a choice. How awful to say that to someone. It absolutely changes your whole life. It changes the way your brain works. It changes the way your nervous system operates. It's PHYSIOLOGICAL. Not willpower. It's not anything you can control.
#cptsd #cPTSDrecovery #cptsdhealing

"Trauma isn't just the bad stuff that happened. It's also the good stuff that never happened." - Dr. Heidi Green
#cptsd #cptsdrecovery #cptsdhealing #trauma #ptsd

My cPTSD recovery grants me a clear perspective. It's daunting that I just n o w realize and understand my poems, and "spiritual growth". That my words were written from longing, survival, and the belief that devotion could heal what history had broken.
#cPTSD #cPTSDrecovery #writing #cPTSDhealing

When I had chronic nightmares from CPTSD, one of the most powerful tools I discovered was rewriting the ending. Right after waking up — before opening your eyes too long — imagine the nightmare resolving: someone you love rescues you,… #CPTSDHealing #NightmareRecovery #TraumaTools #Neuroplasticity

This season is about resting, not fixing yourself. Let small joys—like a song, a walk, or a deep breath—begin to refill you. You're not behind; you're healing.
#CPTSDHealing #BurnoutRecovery #HealingJourney #SelfCompassion #EmotionalHealing

“There’s A Word For That- Understanding Complex Trauma When You Feel Broken, Lost, and Confused” #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #narcissisticabuse #betrayaltrauma #selfpublished #selfhelp #cptsdhealing #existentialcrisis #humiliated #emotionalabuse #abusesurvivor #emotionalhealing

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Sometimes what we missed most in our early relationships wasn’t just love—but attuned, safe connection.

💜 I got you.

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#CuddleTherapy #TherapeuticIntimacy #NervousSystemRepair #AttachmentHealing #SafeTouch #CPTSDHealing

💛✨ Us in silhouette but never in shadow. Out here heart-shaped and hat-tipped, standing where softness meets strength. Call it a love letter to the land, the light, and the legacy I'm building. 💪 #TryingMyBest #CPTSDHealing

What Safety in Relationships Means to Me as a Survivor of Medical Neglect I didn’t grow up knowing what safety in a relationship felt like. My body learned to brace. My voice learned to stay quiet. And my needs…

Read it on Medium:
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#RelationalHealing #TraumaRecovery #SurvivorVoices #MedicalNeglect #SafeLove #CPTSDHealing #NeurodivergentHealing #LauraResurreccionWrites

"I've Forgotten How to Live a Normal Life": Understanding Functional Freeze After Trauma When basic tasks drain all your energy and what seems easy for others feels impossible for you, this isn't weakness. It's your nervous system protecting you. Here's why it happens and how to heal.

“When you're in functional freeze, it's not that you won't engage with life – it's that your system currently can't do so without perceiving serious threat.”
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#cptsdrecovery #cptsdhealing #MentalHealth #functionalfreeze #narcabuse #complextrauma #traumahealing #cptsd

"Why Can't I Stop Replaying It In My Head?" How Rumination Dominates Our Minds Post Abuse Have you lost too much time trying to make sense of the senseless or solve the unsolvable? Narcissistic abuse can do that to you. How rumination both hurts and helps, and how to redirect.

“Like an athlete reviewing game footage… you might be searching for those crucial moments where things went wrong and how you might improve next time.”
#cptsdrecovery #rumination #healingfromabuse #cptsd #cptsdhealing #narcissisticabuse #mentalhealth #traumahealing #traumarecovery #complextrauma

The journey so far has been about shedding shame and letting go of that guilt that I hurt some of my beloveds by refusing to comply with their desires for me #gottaliveittoknowit #cptsd #cptsdliving #cptsdhealing #cptsdlifelessons #badgirlwisdom #cronetastic #thebadgirlmysticexperience #spotifyshow

Body Memory: How Trauma Rewires You—And How to Reclaim Your Physical Wellbeing Do you smell different after trauma? We'll discuss the physiological changes one might experience, healing approaches, practitioners to find, tests to request, and scripts for medical conversations.

"Many survivors report feeling uncomfortable in their own skin, no longer recognizing or trusting the body that houses them."
#complextrauma #ComplexPTSD #cptsdrecovery #cptsd #cptsdhealing #bodymemory #traumahealing #trauma #traumarecovery #narcissisticabuse
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They Say They Love Me, But Keep Hurting Me. Can Love and Harm Coexist? Do they love you? Do you love them? How to tell the difference between love and something else. Let's break down why we stay when authentic love is scarce and where to start healing.

“If you're reading this & feeling a growing sense of recognition—seeing that…your relationships have been built on self-abandonment, obligation, or trauma bonding rather than genuine love…you're not alone.”
#loveisachoice #loveisaction #traumabond #complextrauma #complexptsd #cptsd #cptsdhealing

Anger: Is It the Poison Slowly Killing You, or the Antidote That Can Save You? Struggling with anger after abuse? Learn how to understand, honor, and transform anger into a source of healing, protection, and empowerment in this compassionate guide for CPTSD survivors.

“When you’ve grown up in an environment where expressions of anger were punished, or where anger was wielded as a weapon against you, your relationship with this emotion becomes distorted.”
#cptsdhealing #cptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #healingafterabuse #betrayaltrauma

Unlock your confidence & self-trust in this empowering 90-min masterclass! June 12 | 4:30p PT / 7:30p ET on Zoom + 7-day replay. 15% of proceeds go to the CPTSD Foundation!
🎟 Sign up: thrivetribe.vip/trustyourself/

#TrustYourselfLikeABoss #CPTSDHealing #ThriveTribe

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"Can't You Take A Joke?" How Small Things Can Lead to Existential Humiliation (2 of 2) Have you ever found yourself suddenly humiliated, yet forced to pretend otherwise in front of people? How covert narcissists intentionally do this to their targets while appearing perfectly innocent.

“ten small humiliations don't create ten units of harm but rather multiply in impact…This explains why targets of repeated humiliation often appear to 'overreact' to what others perceive as minor incidents”
#cptsdhealing #cptsd #complextrauma #whatiswrongwithme #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney

"I Feel Fundamentally Wrong... As A Human" Healing Existential Shame (1 of 2) Do you flinch at the slightest critique? Do you obsess over small mistakes? How a core belief that you are unacceptable as a human being can blow up your life. And what to do about it.

“Think of your sense of self as a magnificent tree…Existential shame is like a hidden fungus…the tree still grows…But internally, this…has spread throughout the inner pathways where water and nutrients flow.”
#cptsd #healingjourney #cptsdhealing #complextrauma #healingshame #whatswrongwithme

People... Ew! When You're One Random Conflict Away from Quitting Society You know that thing where you have a tense encounter with someone, and then the nauseous replay loops in your head non-stop for days? Let’s discuss how conflict affects people with CPTSD.

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#explorepage #cptsd #conflictresolution #complextrauma #emotionalintelligence #people #ewpeople #humaninteraction #peoplearetricky #cptsdhelp #cptsdhealing #complexptsd #cptsdresources #cptsdlife #emtionalintelligence #dysfunctionalpeople #rudepeople #trickypeople

Are You An Emotional Volcano or Blackhole? The Path to Balanced Responsibility Blame or Shame: Does conflict send you into defensive eruptions or shame-filled implosions? Uncover the roots of these protective responses and build a more regulated emotional system.

Have you ever wondered why some people can never admit they're wrong, while others constantly take the blame for everything?

#cptsd #complextrauma #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealing #emotionalresponsibility #cptsdhealing #traumahealing #abusesurvivor #heart

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Breadcrumbing: It Can Happen Anywhere. What If It Happens Everywhere at Once? When it happens in many parts of your life at once, this manipulation tactic can wreak havoc on your mental health. Find out what it is, and how to not be fooled.

“When breadcrumbing occurs across multiple life domains, it creates a web of instability that can erode self-trust and make it harder to set healthy boundaries.”

#cptsdresources #cptsdhealing #breadcrumbing #narcissisticabuse

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"What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger" and Other Stupid Crap People Tell Trauma Survivors Does toxic positivity make you want to punch people in the throat? Let's separate the lies from the truth, and discuss how to navigate these frustrating platitudes.

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#healingjourney #cptsd #cptsdresources #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse #toxicpositivity #cptsdhealing #narcabuse

Antisocial Butterfly: 3 Types of Isolation in Abuse & Recovery Trapped or transforming? How to tell if your isolation is a prison or the protective chrysalis you need to heal.

“Like a caterpillar forming its chrysalis, this isolation isn't about hiding or being controlled—it's about creating the necessary space for radical transformation.“

#narcissisticabuse #isolation #cptsdrecovery #cptsdhealing #cptsd #complextrauma #healingjourney

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Why Do They Seem Happy After We Fight, When I'm Left in Ruins? Have you had a narcissist tear you to shreds and then whistle a tune and demand you "get over it"? What about when an entire organization treats people this way?

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#CPTSDHealing #narcissisticabuse #narctok #ComplexTrauma #emotionalabuse #narcabusesurvivor

Rescuers: Do You Always Try to Save Others, Even When It Hurts You? Or has someone acted as your rescuer, only to leverage it as control? Find out why this happens, what makes it so hard to stop, and what to do about it.

“The compulsion to rescue isn’t just a choice; for many, it feels like an overwhelming biological imperative.”
#RescueFantasy
#RescuerRole
#CPTSDHealing
#TraumaBonding
#FawnResponse
#ComplexTrauma
#TraumaRecovery
#NarcissisticAbuse
#RescueCompulsion
#AttachmentWounds
#SelfAbandonment
#cptsdrecovery

How Do "They" Create Chaos to Control Us? From personal relationships to political systems, understanding the deliberate use of disorder as a power strategy. Is the chaos in your life random, or by design?

“The toll of chaos is profound…and…wreaks havoc on the nervous system, leading to anxiety, hypervigilance, and… insomnia, chronic pain, or digestive issues”
#cptsdhelp #narcabuserecovery #cptsdrecovery #cptsdhealing #cptsd #mentalhealth #healingjourney #narcissisticabuse #complextrauma #complexptsd

Nothing wounds a narcissist deeper than being seen accurately

This is why you hide your judgement from them.

#cptsdhealing

I am not just disappointed, but ashamed of my family's behaviour

#cptsdhealing